Two years ago, Aunt Su Minsu, who ran away from home, returned home on the Mid-Autumn Festival.
When she mentioned that she was frowning, she didn't have the calmness and happiness of traveling around in the past.
Returned two years later, my husband is still the same husband, and my family is still the same, but she is no longer the same as before.
This time she was determined to divorce, sooner or later, and her daughter expressed her support.
Leaving a relationship that is not respected
Aunt Su’s transformation in the past two years is really amazing. She has increased from 5 fans to 2 million. She has seen the beautiful mountains and rivers of the motherland, published books, and started learning English.
She showed another possibility of life to women of different ages. It turns out that no matter how old you are, you can change the status quo as long as you are willing.
You must have the courage to leave a relationship that is not respected.
Charlotte Bronte wrote in "Jane Eyre": The more lonely I am, the less friends I have and the less support I have to respect myself.
6 years old, she finally found the outlet of her life - travel.
She was laid off early, swept the road, sent newspapers, worked in the supermarket, guarded a unhappy marriage, and endured hard.
When she talked about her marriage life with her husband, she frowned and said, "Pressure, pressure, pressure!"
How much she looks like an outsider in this family. The family's expenses are all AA, and the husband has to calculate the toll with her clearly as a car.
She was restricted everywhere and had to wash and cook for him. He didn't bear any expenses for his daughter, and his expenses were just to buy groceries.
Even if she is so unequal, her husband still suppresses her everywhere, saying that she is not good at this, and that she is not doing well.
She has been out for the past two years and is still thinking about her husband and mailing her home. She only said that she would relax and did not firmly say that she wanted to divorce.
But after so long, my husband still didn't realize his problem.
When I saw Aunt Su coming home, I didn’t say a sparse and ordinary greeting. As soon as I opened my mouth, I said, “You still know how to come back, you can’t make it anymore, right?” Then I calculated the toll with her.
"How much does it cost for two trips?"
"What are you taking? I'm not afraid of taking a photo."
was also accompanied by the sound of throwing the bowl.
She knew that it was time to end the relationship, divorce! Even if you leave the house with nothing.
Sense of sacrifice is often engraved in women's bones
Some netizens said, why did the aunt delay divorce until now for such a bad marriage relationship?
Some netizens also said that they should take care of their grandson at home at this age. What troubles are there? She regrets her when she is old!
Aunt Su’s monthly pension is 2,380 yuan, and when she left home, she only had 2,000 yuan, and she told the camera about her thoughts.
This middle-aged woman who was not satisfied with her life decided to run away and had been thinking about it for a long time.
When my daughter was still young, she thought about giving her daughter a complete home, so she endured it.
My daughter is afraid that the single-parent family will affect her, so she endured it.
The twin grandson was born to be afraid that his daughter would be too hard to be alone, so he endured it.
She sacrificed for so long and found that she was depressed. Finally, her grandson went to kindergarten and she could return herself to herself.
The sense of sacrifice is often engraved in the bones of women.
She lives in moral constraints that she should not have, in her deified motherhood, and in the "you should" mentioned by others.
Too many mothers and grandmothers have lived in washing and rinsing all their lives, and are reluctant to eat and wear, and have worked hard for the family all their lives.
But the kind-hearted younger generation will feel distressed and guilty, and the sense of sacrifice is not noble.
If generations of women live in this pattern, aren’t they all let down those mountains, rivers, lakes, seas, flowers, books, and sky and seas?
Why did she sacrifice so many possibilities in her life for whom, curled up in a kitchen with a depressed mood and painful relationship?
The distance you want needs you to slowly accumulate
Changes are often accompanied by pain. Aunt Su was forced to this extent by life and made the choice that she longed for in her heart.
There are many envious messages in Aunt Su’s video, similar to what I think, but I don’t have money.
Woolf in " A Room of Your Own ": If a woman wants to write a novel, she must be rich and have a room of her own. A fixed income can change people's temperament. I don't need to hate any man, and men cannot hurt me. I don't need to please any man, men can't give me anything.
Both poetry and faraway areas require tickets. If you want to save it, it doesn’t matter if you are slow.
When Aunt Su first set off, no one supported her and she didn’t have much money. Understanding that self-media can make money, she began to learn to shoot and edit. I can’t remember it after watching it three or four times. If I can’t remember it, I can read it a few more times and do it a few more times until I can do it.
Aunt Su can’t even upload it until she can use drones, and her skills are all saved little by little.
Your emotional outlet can be either traveling or running away, or reading, writing, planting flowers, and painting. You should give yourself more possibilities for life.
Cleaning aunt Wang Liuyun was in pain for the first half of her life. Because she was young, she was a little money and was beaten, scolded and threatened by her husband. Later, her husband spent all his money and died in a car accident when her daughter was 7 years old.
She ushered in a new life. She never gave up on the possibility of her life. Even though she was very poor, she still learned to draw and read books.
Although people were ridiculed, "Why do you still have to learn painting when you are in your decades? Why are you doing so in a mess?"
Her sister even scolded her on the other end of the phone: "Why are you not starving to death? Are you still learning painting?"
3 years old, she went to Beijing and found a cleaning job. After get off work or Sunday, she would pack up a square meter of painting in a small rental house.
She said that as long as she draws, even if the sky falls outside, it will not affect her. She found her own world.
She drew a monastery on an Italian island. She said, "Women are never allowed to enter here, but after I painted it, I went to this island."
The steering wheel of fate is in your hands
Everyone has a different understanding of happiness. Aunt Su spent the first half of her life in a relationship that she felt uncomfortable. Now she figured it out and could let it go.
is her happiness on the road. She doesn’t feel like she has no place to live or wander. She feels that the wind is free.
Some aunts enjoy family happiness more and are more willing to enjoy the life of their grandchildren. As long as they feel happy, it is good.
Wish every mother do what she wants, not sacrifice for anyone, take good care of herself, and the steering wheel that controls her destiny is always in her hands.
