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human relationships and worldly affairs. We must understand more or less. After all, to survive in society, sometimes you have to wear a mask, say something insincere, and do something that you can’t help yourself.
We are individuals, but we live in the society as a collective. In order to better integrate, we have to go against our original intention and wishes and do things we don’t want to do.
But it doesn't matter, as long as things go smoothly.
But when we reach middle age, there is no need for us to live so passively. Some people are not worth dating, so we simply cut off contact and don’t let ourselves live so tiring; some relationships are not worth dating, so we simply stop dating and don’t let ourselves suffer losses again and again.
Sometimes, if you are more selfish, you will live more relaxed and comfortable.
has three kinds of etiquette. There is no need to follow me when I am middle-aged. You don’t have to be so generous. If you are generous and wrong, what you get is not the warming of your relationship, but the loss you suffer.
1: There is no need to follow the gift of going but not returning, it is destined to make oneself suffer losses
People's relationships have always come with one's coming, and come with one's coming. However, some people do not understand this principle. They are always used to taking advantage of others, and they still feel it is natural and at ease.
When there is something happening, you arrive as soon as possible. If you can, you will pay the money and if you can, you will contribute your efforts. But when there is something happening, he pretends not to know. There is really no need to maintain a unilateral contribution relationship like
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How many gifts have we received in recent years? When others get married, when other people's children get into college, when other people's children hold full moon wine , etc., we can follow all the gifts we can take. But as a result, when they have something to notify them, they will not say that they will come, and some will not reply directly.
They are not without seeing it, they just don’t care. The gifts you go out are destined to be unable to be taken back. Since that's the case, don't be so generous in the future. If you don't have the relationship in place, you naturally don't have to be in place for the red envelope.
2: Don’t follow the gift of asking for help. There is no need to go against your original intention in order to follow the crowd.
Some people have moved their thoughts that should not be moved in order to make their path smoother, and try to take some wrong paths. But doing so is really not a long-term solution, and it is even more unfavorable for long-term development.
For example, in the workplace, some people deliberately give gifts or give red envelopes to their leaders in order to get a chance to get a promotion and salary increase, thinking that they will get preferential treatment.
Not to mention that such a person has a small personality, a small vision, and a very unrighteous view. It’s just that this shameful behavior is enough to be despised. This kind of unfair competitive means is despised.
At this time, you don’t need to follow the crowd and follow him to give it away because you are worried that you will lose.
As a person, you must have your own beliefs and persistence, and you must also stick to your principles and bottom line. Only when you persist in being yourself, not following the crowd or being blind can you be worthy of yourself.
3: You don’t need to follow the etiquette for maintaining superficial relationships. The so-called face-saving life is not that important
Some people in life always love face, but in fact it doesn’t matter whether they live well or not. What’s important is whether others look at it. Such people live a hypocritical life and are also very tired.
After middle age, you don’t need to do something that will make you suffer for the so-called face.
Those etiquettes that maintain superficial relationships, don’t do it if you can. Pretend to have a good relationship with someone will not do anything good for you. Because real connections are essentially equivalent exchange, you do some face-saving work without any use.
Any relationship that you need to please is an unbalanced relationship. Even if you really need help from others in the future, don’t help you, because your relationship is not in place, it’s just a superficial politeness.
Since that's the case, isn't your gift to go out just a waste of water? It would be more reasonable to buy a bouquet of flowers for your wife or buy some vegetables on the way off work.
is written at the end:
When people reach middle age, they must distinguish the focus and focus of life.
What kind of people are worth dating and what kind of relationships are worth maintaining, and you must have a scale in your heart. Don’t give blindly, don’t maintain blindly, otherwise you will be the one who suffers losses and injuries in the end.
If you don’t have some politeness, don’t follow it. Sooner or later, you will find that the so-called face is not that important, and the stability, fulfillment and richness of your heart are the most important.
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