After reading this book, what I deeply understand is that in the mentality of accomplishing things, identity identity, language expression and stress management are all very important factors.
Do a good job in psychological construction and clarify your personal identity
Imagine that there is such a person around you:
I often say to myself: "You are a person who does big things."
There is a letter in our office that says: We are very expensive.
If you are not rich yet, please first make yourself like a rich man, arm yourself with the way of thinking of the rich, the mentality of the rich, and the thinking of the rich, change your temperament, and make yourself look more "rich and popular"...
Will you feel contempt when you see these quotes of him: Isn't this giving yourself the soul chicken soup? How can you make yourself rich and noble by drawing big cakes?
The author Zhou Ling talked about in "Cognitive Driven" is a tough cat (Uncle Cat), a very successful personal business consultant, and the author of the best-selling book "Ten Years in a Year".
After deeply contacting Uncle Mao, Zhou Ling found that what he said was not arrogant, but all came from personal practice.
This is actually a very important force to promote personal growth - psychological construction, that is, clarify your identity and goals and what kind of person you want to become.
If you don’t even believe that you can make a big competition, it will be really difficult to change your destiny.
This reminds me of an experience by Yu Minhong, founder of New Oriental .
His high school teacher once said to the whole class: "No one of you here can get into college, and they will definitely be farmers in the future."
Many students regard it as the will of fate, either dropping out of school halfway or giving up once the exam.
Only Yu Minhong firmly believed that he could change his destiny, so he took the exam again and again. Finally, after taking the college entrance examination for the third time, he was admitted to Peking University with excellent results, which changed his life experience since then.
Once read a sentence: "Whatever a person believes, his future life will be closer."
Many people find it difficult to succeed, not because they have no ability, but because they lack self-identity and do not know what kind of person they want to be, they cannot believe that they will succeed. Even when good luck is favored, you may miss opportunities due to lack of mental preparation.
Zhou Ling said: "Those who can clarify their identities are real experts. They are willing to spend time on psychological construction and can change themselves from top to bottom or from the inside out." The process of reshaping their identities may be a bit difficult. But only by taking this step can you gain the motivation to grow, choose to move forward firmly when encountering confusion and setbacks, and ultimately create an extraordinary miracle of life.
Borrowing language patterns and changing thinking habits
When I was in junior high school, I was actually not very confident. Later something happened that had a great impact on my growth.
The math teacher called me out of the classroom and said that I had a chance to participate in the Mathematics Olympiad. I recommend you to sign up.
At that time, although my math scores ranked in the top three in the class, I thought I could not meet the level of participating in the competition, so I subconsciously responded to the teacher: "I can't."
As a result, the teacher said, "I haven't tried it yet, just say 'you can't'? If you don't even think you can't do it yourself, who else can think you can do it?"
Since then, I seem to have become braver, willing to try fresh challenges, tell myself "I can do it" in everything I do, and began to make a name for myself in various competitions.
Have you ever thought about whether your language determines your thinking, or your thinking determines your language and behavior?
Our inherent cognition will feel that what you think in your heart will say what you say in your mouth. Language should be the product of thinking.
However, Zhou Ling told us in the book "Cognitive Drive" that the two-way lane between language and thinking is actually two-way lane, , not one-way lane. After reading this book, what I deeply understand is that in the mentality of accomplishing things, identity identity, language expression and stress management are all very important factors. Imagine that there is such a person around you: I often say to myself: "You are a person who does big things." There is a letter in our office that says: We are very expensive. If you are not rich yet, please first make yourself like a rich man, arm yourself with the way of thinking of the rich, the mentality of the rich, and the thinking of the rich, change your temperament, and make yourself look more "rich and popular"... Will you feel contempt when you see these quotes of him: Isn't this giving yourself the soul chicken soup? How can you make yourself rich and noble by drawing big cakes? The author Zhou Ling talked about in "Cognitive Driven" is a tough cat (Uncle Cat), a very successful personal business consultant, and the author of the best-selling book "Ten Years in a Year". After deeply contacting Uncle Mao, Zhou Ling found that what he said was not arrogant, but all came from personal practice. This is actually a very important force to promote personal growth - psychological construction, that is, clarify your identity and goals and what kind of person you want to become. If you don’t even believe that you can make a big competition, it will be really difficult to change your destiny. This reminds me of an experience by Yu Minhong, founder of New Oriental . His high school teacher once said to the whole class: "No one of you here can get into college, and they will definitely be farmers in the future." Many students regard it as the will of fate, either dropping out of school halfway or giving up once the exam. Only Yu Minhong firmly believed that he could change his destiny, so he took the exam again and again. Finally, after taking the college entrance examination for the third time, he was admitted to Peking University with excellent results, which changed his life experience since then. Once read a sentence: "Whatever a person believes, his future life will be closer." Many people find it difficult to succeed, not because they have no ability, but because they lack self-identity and do not know what kind of person they want to be, they cannot believe that they will succeed. Even when good luck is favored, you may miss opportunities due to lack of mental preparation. Zhou Ling said: "Those who can clarify their identities are real experts. They are willing to spend time on psychological construction and can change themselves from top to bottom or from the inside out." The process of reshaping their identities may be a bit difficult. But only by taking this step can you gain the motivation to grow, choose to move forward firmly when encountering confusion and setbacks, and ultimately create an extraordinary miracle of life. When I was in junior high school, I was actually not very confident. Later something happened that had a great impact on my growth. The math teacher called me out of the classroom and said that I had a chance to participate in the Mathematics Olympiad. I recommend you to sign up. At that time, although my math scores ranked in the top three in the class, I thought I could not meet the level of participating in the competition, so I subconsciously responded to the teacher: "I can't." As a result, the teacher said, "I haven't tried it yet, just say 'you can't'? If you don't even think you can't do it yourself, who else can think you can do it?" Since then, I seem to have become braver, willing to try fresh challenges, tell myself "I can do it" in everything I do, and began to make a name for myself in various competitions. Have you ever thought about whether your language determines your thinking, or your thinking determines your language and behavior? Our inherent cognition will feel that what you think in your heart will say what you say in your mouth. Language should be the product of thinking. However, Zhou Ling told us in the book "Cognitive Drive" that the two-way lane between language and thinking is actually two-way lane, , not one-way lane.If you know that you can also "drive in the opposite direction" between thinking and language, your life will have many more proactive choices. As the clip recorded in "Rich Dad, Poor Dad": Poor Dad is always used to saying, "I can't afford it!", while rich Dad will suggest, "How can I afford it?" Rich Dad thinks that when you subconsciously say, "I can't afford it", your brain will stop thinking; and if you ask yourself, "How can I afford it?", it will make your brain move. When encountering difficulties, never give negative conclusions easily and think that you are "can't do it". Once you turn off the initiative of your thinking with this closed language, you will give up thinking about solutions, thus really getting yourself into a quagmire that you can't do it. might as well try saying to yourself, "I just can't do it for the time being" and "How can I do it?". Another expression means that this can be achieved through hard work. The psychological hints brought to a person by the language will directly affect the starting point of thinking, thereby affecting the direction and results of actions. As Zhou Ling said: "No matter what happens, say positive things, don't say negative things; No matter what character you meet, say kind words, don't say mean words; No matter what problems you encounter, say open words, don't say absolute words..." The awakening of a growth journey can start with changing language. There is a saying that is very popular recently: "People are not awakened, but wake up in pain." When you were in your 20s, your parents advised you to stay up less late, eat less junk food, and pay more attention to your body. You will not listen at all, because your body is still very resistant to creation during this period. When the physical examination report is at a certain age, the red light comes out year by year, and then I begin to make up my mind to exercise and pay attention to health preservation. I first entered the workplace and felt that I could finally escape the pressure of studying. The days without taking exams were so good, so I watched TV shows and played games after work. It was not until one day when you appeared on the company's layoff list that you suddenly realized that you were not competitive. Author Zhou Ling believes that a good life is always wandering on the edge of your comfort zone. Too much pressure or no pressure will make our lives miserable, and only moderate pressure can make our lives happy. The so-called moderation means adding one to two percent of the difficulty at the current best level. No one can live once and for all, and the so-called comfort is likely to be a lurking crisis. It is actually a good thing to have a little stress and anxiety in life. They keep us alert and avoid deterioration of our abilities and thus evolve into better versions. movie " Kung Fu Panda " also confirms this truth. Panda Abao was originally an apprentice in a noodle shop and lived a comfortable life. He longs to learn martial arts, but he is too fat and everyone looks down on him. Until he met Turtle Master , he unexpectedly became the Dragon Hero and was forced to embark on the road of martial arts practice. Fighting monsters all the way up, and finally winning the powerful enemy and saving the home. Just imagine, if Abao has been making noodles and dare not break through, how could he realize his dream? For ordinary people, growth is to get out of their own small world, break through themselves in difficulties, and then gain new abilities and insights. The comfort zone of greed will inevitably degenerate, and smart people will deliberately maintain moderate discomfort. Only by cultivating your own pressure tolerance in the challenge and constantly expanding the boundaries of your ability can you have the opportunity to win control of your life. In this era full of uncertainty, there are actually many possibilities, and everyone has the opportunity to achieve themselves. The book "Cognitive Driven" provides many practical growth methodologies. Research by Bennan Tabriz and Michael Terrell, professors at Stanford University's School of Business, shows that: "If an egg shell cracks from the outside, its life ends, but if an egg shell cracks from the inside, it means that new life breaks out, and great things are produced from the inside out." Only by breaking the barriers of cognition can one achieve something and become a valuable person. Why not follow this book and start practicing with the three simplest little habits: Do a good job in psychological construction and clarify identity goals; Reshape language habits and actively promote actions; maintain moderate anxiety and challenge the boundaries of ability. I hope we can all constantly reconstruct our cognitive system, become the person we want to be, and meet our ideal life surprise. The author of this article: VV An, a student of Qiuye Writing Camp, has served as the middle-level manager of the top 1 listed companies in the industry and a brand management expert. Renmin University of China MBA, a healing and growth coach who runs in the workplace, a contracted author on multiple platforms, and is willing to use words to warm up your life. Do a good job in psychological construction and clarify your personal identity
Borrowing language patterns and changing thinking habits
Maintain moderate anxiety and activate growth motivation
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Research by Bennan Tabriz and Michael Terrell, professors at Stanford University's School of Business, shows that:
"If an egg shell cracks from the outside, its life ends, but if an egg shell cracks from the inside, it means that new life breaks out, and great things are produced from the inside out."
Only by breaking the barriers of cognition can one achieve something and become a valuable person.
Why not follow this book and start practicing with the three simplest little habits:
Do a good job in psychological construction and clarify identity goals;
Reshape language habits and actively promote actions;
maintain moderate anxiety and challenge the boundaries of ability.
I hope we can all constantly reconstruct our cognitive system, become the person we want to be, and meet our ideal life surprise.
The author of this article: VV An, a student of Qiuye Writing Camp, has served as the middle-level manager of the top 1 listed companies in the industry and a brand management expert. Renmin University of China MBA, a healing and growth coach who runs in the workplace, a contracted author on multiple platforms, and is willing to use words to warm up your life.
