How to make your husband loyal to you?
Some people say that they control the financial power of the family.
However, in the TV series " Perfect Relationship ", Stella supports the family's economic operation, but in this mode of strong women and weak men, her husband Choi Young-jun betrayed because he could not feel the sense of existence. In marriage, I chose a single mother because the other party can satisfy her sense of self-worth needs.
Some people say it has a good-looking face and a sexy figure.
is a TV series " Mr. Love " who takes time to take care of herself and dress up after marriage.
But the result of her marriage is no different from those women who have milk stains all over her body and eat them bloated with leftovers. Her husband Song Ningyu chose a financially independent woman and then abandoned her.
The management of marriage is always a difficult problem. Improper operation or excessive force will cause a gap between ideals and reality. Therefore, only by using a suitable method can the husband be loyal to him.
The more you pay = the more you get?
The more you pay, the more you will get. This is a misunderstanding of thinking that many women will have when managing their marriages. Feelings are not simple math problems. As long as you are willing to spend time, you will always get a good result.
In a marriage, if we take the wrong approach, we will face a thankless ending.
From the beginning of marriage, it means that management is the most important, and how to manage has become a lesson that we must master.
Everything we do should be a state of preparation, that is, the premise of our efforts must be this matter, whether this person is worth it, how much we pay, and how much we pay, we should consider it. The problem.
Learn to pay low investment, men cannot do without you
What is pay low investment?
A man raised a group of monkeys. He gave these monkeys a lot of chestnuts every day, without limit. Later, this man reduced the number of chestnuts to monkeys due to economic reasons, and the monkeys were very dissatisfied;
Later, this man raised a group of chestnuts again. Monkey, he would give these monkeys a fixed number of chestnuts every day, not many, but they would not starve. At this time, the monkey would be full of gratitude to this person, and even felt that he would give him a few chestnuts occasionally. Happy.
In marriage, many women will invest heavily in their feelings at the beginning, trying to exchange their own good for the same reward, but the facts are always the opposite of ideals.
Each of us will have a process of accepting something, even if it is delicacies, there will be a day when we get tired of eating it.
So, even if we give to men and get , we will be adapted to by the other party. At that time, if we want to achieve the previous effect, we need to continue to increase the ratio of our efforts, and our energy is limited of.
So, at this time, a smart woman will learn to give low commitment and will not give her love to a man 100%.
instead, like squeezing toothpaste, paying little by little, and also observe the feedback ratio given by the man to him when he is giving. If it is greater than, then he will continue to give. If it is less than, he will stop blindly pay.
In this mode, men's needs are always in a half-full state, and due to uncertainty, they will increase their interest in exploring women's inner heart. In this way, men will rely more on women mentally, instead of being more mentally dependent on women. .
A man's loyalty is inseparable from the high investment of women in themselves.
The heroine in the TV series " is only thirty " accompanied her husband to start from scratch. She knew how difficult it is to make money, so Even if women don’t have to worry about the economy later, they still don’t want to spend money on themselves, even if there is no decent piece of clothing or jewelry.
It was not until that day when she saw her husband leading the woman who had been raising her outside to file for divorce, that she realized how stupid it was to be self-sting for such a long time.
The money she was reluctant to spend was spent on other women. What she said was that she was thinking about the other party was actually just self-motivation.
In marriage, women must learn to be a woman who can spend money. It is not to emphasize that we must buy luxury goods and famous brands, but to be willing to invest in ourselves.
For example, to take care of yourself, to travel, to do things that can enhance your self-worth, or to cook, or to yoga, etc.
In the interactions of interpersonal relationships of all natures, relationships are established by value exchanges. The higher the value of a person, the higher the status and respect he or she receives will be. , the more.
Therefore, we must "low investment" in men and "high investment" in ourselves. Only by constantly improving our value can we consolidate our position in marriage and increase our loyalty.
