Both men and women understand the most important thing in managing a happy marriage. People often say that both parties should be in a good match. The essence of this requirement is that the family conditions and environment of both parties are similar.
Both parties can understand each other's growth experience, living habits, and even values. The material conditions are similar, so it is easier. Matching, it is not easy to have conflicts after marriage. This is an experience, but not the end of the problem.
A good match attempt to fit the rules of managing a happy marriage. In fact, the most fundamental pursuit is to understand the rules and regulations of each other, and do things around the rules and regulations, so that the family can be managed well.
I have a couple who have divorced my friends around me. Because I know these two people well, I think their divorce is a pity.
Both parties are not selfish people or evil people. They usually get along well with friends, but because both parties do not understand the rules of managing a happy marriage, they cannot handle family relationships well, and finally end up with a divorce.
The biggest problem for these two people is that they do not understand that marriage depends on the mutual contribution and tolerance of both parties. They operate together around the small family and both must heat up the marriage.
so that both parties will get more warmth. In fact, the opposite is true. , They will make more demands on the other party and require the other party to pay a lot.
One party says what you should do, what will happen to other people's husbands, and how good they are to your wife.
The other party will also say what you should do. Other people's wives are more family-oriented and can do housework. Both parties feel that the requirements they make need to be solved more.
We all know that human desires are endless. Even if one party initially meets the other party's needs, new needs will be raised immediately, and it will not be possible. The final result is that the two parties end up in a quarrel.
Neither of them understands the rules of marriage and uses their own needs as standard. As a result, they quarrel more often and end up with divorce. This is the most regrettable pair I think.
"Selected Works of Mao Zedong" says that in practice, we must find the laws of development of things and grasp the essence, because the development of things is regular, and marriage is the same.
To handle conflicts in marriage, you also need to follow the laws of marriage and do things. The behavior around the laws will be smoother.
Some marriages, even if two people get married, they still put their small family in a secondary position and their original family in an important position.
As a result, once the conflict was encountered, both parties decisively gave up their small family, took into account their original family, and directly destroyed the trust of both parties.
Why do mama boys easily fail in marriage? It is that mama boys often care about the interests of their mothers, rather than standing with their wives, and not protecting their small family’s interests first.
Why Voldemort's marriage is prone to failure is because his wife uses money to subsidize her parents' family, which is damaging the interests of the small family and subsidizing the interests of her original family.
To maintain a good marriage and manage a happy marriage, the rule here is that both parties must put their small family in the most important position, and must sincerely contribute to their small family, tolerate each other, and put their original family in a secondary position from now on. .
For example, if the parents of both parties don’t like the couple, the couple must be consistent with the outside world and maintain their own family.
For example, if one parent has a conflict with the other child, the couple must first protect their partner and cannot follow their parents to oppose their small family.
For example, if one parent wants to borrow money from the Xiao family, he must go through the unanimous agreement of the Xiao family.
Both the couple understand the rules here, support and help each other, and be consistent with the outside world, and the family will be better and better. If one party doesn't understand and conflicts with this rule, it will naturally make the marriage dizzy.
If neither party understands it, the probability of divorce will increase a lot. The reason why both parties who want to get married understand this rule is because this rule can help the small family build trust, establish respect and cooperation, and establish a foundation for family affection.
On this basis, jointly maintain this home, rather than jointly breaking up this home.
The material conditions in marriage are often the basis of development and are more important for managing a marriage, but fundamentally speaking, it is still a secondary issue. As long as the difference is not too big and the foundation is too poor, the two parties can complement each other, which is more conducive to the family Stability.
The educational conditions in marriage are the same, and they are also the basis of development and are a secondary issue. As long as there is not much difference, they can also form complementarity. Who says that the poor student or the top student cannot become a family?
Character in marriage is also the basis for development and is a secondary issue. As long as there is not much difference, complementarity can be formed, introversion and extroversion can also complement each other, making the family more stable.
Appearance in marriage is also a secondary issue. The difference can complement each other and make the family more stable. If a family that complements each other can understand the laws of managing a happy marriage, such family emotions and material things will be more stable, because both parties have each other's needs and understand each other, and can promote the positive development of marriage from the perspective of joint management.
Stability of the family is also a condition that is conducive to development. The family is in chaos and cannot develop at all. Only when the family is stable and the family trusts can both parties boldly move forward.
