I believe that most people don’t like to associate with overly emotional people. There are many reasons. So what are overly emotional people like?
First of all, overly emotional people are easily affected by emotions. They are either sentimental or indignant. They like to make subjective assumptions, use their own emotions to judge others.
And what about rational people? They always give people a sense of security when encountering things. They have a big heart and can objectively analyze the things they encounter, allowing themselves to be calm and composed before making judgments.
Many of us have internal friction, which makes us inefficient and in a poor state. So where does internal friction come from?
After personal experience, I finally got the answer.
Most of people's internal friction comes from their own sensibility. What are the aspects of sensibility, such as:
1. Emotional sensibility
Many people often feel aggrieved when things happen, because of trivial matters. If your emotions are ignited, you will either worry about unnecessary things. When encountering these things that you cannot master or predict, the best way is to learn to separate issues. Separating issues is to distinguish whether it is your own business or someone else's business. In other words, the consequences of this matter will ultimately be determined by Who will bear it. For example, when it comes to children's learning, many of us will get anxious and angry because our children are not motivated and do not study well. In your project, you can guide and help him study hard, but you cannot study for him and bear the final results of his study.
If you understand this, you will be much calmer and do your best within your ability and control. You don't need to worry about other uncontrollable aspects.
This is the separation of topics.
2. The sensibility of things
Some people often feel pain because things are not what they want. You must know that nine out of ten things in the world will go wrong, and being too paranoid about the results will lead to great pain.
The correct and healthy mentality should be to work hard and be attentive in the process, and not be overly obsessed with the success or failure of the results. It will be a surprise if you succeed, but you will not be discouraged if you fail.
3. Physical sensibility
No two leaves are exactly the same, and no two people are exactly the same. The world is so big, with thousands of people and faces. As long as you are healthy and your organs are functioning normally, you are worthy of gratitude. But some people don't think so. For example, they are dissatisfied with their appearance or one of their organs. Such people are not only trapped in emotional troubles and causing trouble to themselves, but they also do not truly accept themselves. people. Zeng Shiqiang The master of traditional Chinese culture once said: A person's appearance is in line with what he should do in his life and his destiny. You should be grateful while you are alive, everyone is unique.
4. The sensibility of interpersonal relationships
The comparison between people can cause a lot of pain. Adler once said: All human suffering comes from interpersonal relationships. Here's why. Because of comparison and contrast, the gap between others and me will arise. But everyone is unique. When you envy others, others are actually secretly envying you. Therefore, it is important to treat interpersonal relationships and other people's evaluations correctly. Others' likes and evaluations of you are important, but they will not have a decisive impact on your life. Some people like you and some people hate you, because no one is RMB. As long as it is what you desire in your heart, no one can stop you if you work hard to get it.
Kazuo Inamori is the only CEO in the world who founded two Fortune 500 companies. He is also a philosopher and wise man of life. He summed up 6 principles of improvement in life and work. The original text is as follows:
The last one is to forget about emotional troubles.
It is really the most simple way. Only with experience and introspection will you have a deeper understanding!
After forgetting the emotional troubles, we are finally left with the more important step - practical and effective actions.
can completely eliminate internal friction.
I think this is the core of changing internal friction. I summarize it as "correct inward and change outward.""
This is a key mentality in life and personal growth.
Have you got it?
Have a wonderful day, I wish you happiness and relaxation!
