I wonder if you have noticed a phenomenon:
Nowadays, many young people born in the 1990s and 1995 generation generally have no close relationship with their parents.
It’s not that I don’t love my parents, let alone being unfilial, but I just can’t develop a deep relationship with my parents.
If given a choice, young people would prefer to be with their friends and lovers, but they are not willing to stay with their parents for a long time.
Why does this phenomenon occur? Today we invited two young people born in the 1990s to listen to their true thoughts.
Yuanyuan, 25 years old, administrative clerk of the company
This is my first year of work.
You may ask, how can I work when I am 25 years old?
Even if you go to college, you should graduate at the age of 22.
My situation is a bit special. First of all, I started school a year late.
Later, due to illness, he took a leave of absence from school for two years.
So I am 25 years old this year of graduation.
Actually, I am also very anxious.
When I was in college, I really wanted to take the postgraduate entrance examination.
But I thought that it would not be easy for my parents to support me in studying for so many years, so I gave up the idea of taking the postgraduate entrance examination.
As soon as I graduated from my undergraduate degree, I quickly went out to find a job.
But this year, finding a job has not been smooth.
There are more than 10 million fresh graduates this year, but many companies have closed down.
In other words, the workplace, which was originally characterized by "more wolves and less meat", is now in an even more embarrassing situation.
The competition is more intense.
I am just a fresh graduate with a second degree, and I really don’t have much competitiveness in the workplace.
So, in the end, I found a job as a clerk in a small company.
I comfort myself, although the salary is not high, the monthly salary is only 4,500.
But for me, if I save a little, it is barely enough for one person.
My parents have always said to me: "Employ first, then choose a career."
I also agree with this statement. After all, I am 25 years old. Adults must support themselves and cannot gnaw at old age.
just got paid last month.
After deducting five insurances, he got over 4,000 yuan.
looked at this meager salary and had no time to sigh.
My mother sent a message saying that there is a lot of money spent at home this year.
My sister-in-law gave birth to a second child, and now she has no one to take care of her. She sent her to my house for my parents to help take care of her.
My mother was very happy because the second child was a grandson, and she promised to help take care of the baby.
But my parents don’t have much money. They have lived on a little savings for so many years.
Now that we have a baby at home, my mother wants me to pay a thousand yuan to my family every month.
My dad then said:
"I have raised you for so many years, and you are still sick when you are in college. It is not easy for us. Now you have finally started to make money. You must be grateful."
I can't refute, I can only silently agree... …
Zhang Lei, 29 years old, programmer
"Your uncle's cousin bought another house this year, an apartment of more than 80 square meters in the city center. He said he bought it for his uncle and aunt. In The city center is close to supermarkets and parks, allowing them to retire in peace.”
"Have you met the son of our new neighbor who moved across the door? It is said that he is a doctor! He is 36 years old and not married yet. In order to poach him, their work unit gave him 500,000 yuan in settling-in allowance, so he stayed with us. I bought a house in this community. It’s amazing. Sure enough, academic qualifications are still useful. "
" Your cousin is studying in the UK. Remember, your second aunt’s family. I heard that this year’s was admitted to . This little girl’s family is really promising. Your second aunt will have hope in the future.”
——This is me, one. Programmers with a monthly salary of 8,000 yuan hear daily conversations at home every day.
Actually I know exactly what my parents want to say.
They just want to say:
Among the people they know, I am the least promising of all the children.
Children from relatives either make a lot of money in business;
or they study to get a master's degree or a doctorate, and honor their ancestors;
or they get promotions and salary increases within their bodies, and become the object of everyone's fawning;
or they have a very decent job, For example, doctors, lawyers, finance, etc...
In short, other people's children are better than me, better than me, and more powerful than me.
At the beginning, when I heard my parents say these words, I would secretly argue in my heart:
I also want to become stronger! I also want to become excellent! I also want to make my parents proud! I have also been working hard on
.
I did not do well in the college entrance examination and only went to a junior college. However, I did not give up on myself and studied hard to successfully graduate to a bachelor's degree.
I majored in liberal arts and worked as HR for two years after graduation. I felt there was no way out, so I taught myself programming and switched to a career as a programmer.
I have really been working hard, never giving up on myself, and always looking for a better career.
However, every time I improve, my parents just give symbolic praise, and then continue, "Look at other people's children..."
Haha, forget it. I'm tired too.
I only have one life, why do I always have to cater to their expectations?
I was able to go from a junior college to a bachelor's degree by myself, and then from the liberal arts industry to the science industry. I have tried my best to improve.
I am a person from an ordinary family. I have never relied on my parents whether I am upgrading my education or looking for a job.
Looking back at my starting point, I have come a long way.
I don’t want to live under their expectations anymore, and I don’t want to be disturbed by their endless comparisons.
Discussion
Why are the people born in the 1990s generally not close to their parents?
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