My daughter, despite her objections, married a second-married man and suddenly disappeared after giving birth. She has been searching for her for 6 years to no avail
Narration: Lele’s father
Organization: Mr. Xiao Han
Pictures: Sourced from the Internet, invaded and deleted
I am Lele Dad, 54 years old, is from Shigu District, Hengyang City, Hunan Province. Her daughter Zhang Lele ran away from home in April 2016, leaving only a few words "I've had enough of this life" and never appeared again. My daughter is 36 years old this year and was 30 years old when she left home. She was wearing a black and white plaid long-sleeved shirt, jeans, and a pair of white sneakers.
The day before my daughter disappeared, she called me and said, "I regret not listening to you at first. Now that the child is born, my life is suffocating and every day is very depressing." At that time, I felt heartbroken because I had persuaded my daughter not to marry this man. After all, the other party is married for the second time. Although my daughter is almost 30 years old, she has never been married. She has been working in Changsha and is still a college student. It is not right for her to be a householder. But at that time, my daughter was very stubborn. No matter how much we tried to persuade her, she still decided to marry Liu Qiang, who was divorced and had a girl.
I have a good impression of Liu Qiang. He is very smart and well-spoken, but he is still very down-to-earth in his work. Therefore, I have always believed that my daughter's disappearance was not my son-in-law's fault, because I consulted a psychiatrist and said that my daughter might be suffering from postpartum depression, but no one cared about it at that time.
Our family is in a rural area, and we have worked outside for half our lives, just to raise our three children. Lele is the eldest in the family, and the smartest and most sensible one. He has known how to care for his parents since he was a child. I remember that in Lele’s 89 When he was 18 years old, he started helping his family with farm work, cutting cows and grass, cooking, and everything else. He learned quickly even if he didn't know how to do it.
But I know that girls cannot stay in the kitchen all their lives. They should go out of the mountains and see the new world outside. Gaining experience and learning knowledge are the top priorities.
Among the three children, Lele is the best at learning. The younger son and daughter are not as smart as Lele, but Lele seems not interested in learning. Every time he goes to school, he is depressed. Sometimes he can only get more money to coax him. Therefore, Lele has been much superior to other children in the village since she was a child, whether it is food or clothing.
As I grew up, Lele also entered junior high school. At that time, what parents were most afraid of was the problem of premature love. Every weekend when I came back, my wife would tell her several times. But I worked outside and could only wait until the Chinese New Year a few days all year round. Only then can I go back. Even if I have a thousand words, I can't explain it clearly on the phone.
Sometimes I feel like a failure. I don’t have the ability to make a lot of money, and I can’t accompany my children to grow up. But then I think about it. I can only do hard labor because I can’t accompany my children, so I comfort myself a lot.
On Lele's first day in high school, I rushed back from Jiangsu and specially sent Lele to register at school. At that moment, I saw Lele was so happy. When I met everyone, I said "this is my dad", that At that time, I could feel how much Lele wanted me to send her to school every time school started for so many years.
No one is perfect and everything is fine. As time went by, Lele also went to college. At that time, I basically didn’t care about Lele’s life. After all, I have grown up and know the pros and cons. Even if I fall in love, I also think it is a normal phenomenon. After all, I am not a stubborn person and have to control everything.
During three years of college, Lele dated someone. They broke up when they were about to graduate. Lele was very sad and came to me to cry. This was the first time I saw Lele crying in front of me, comforting and enlightening me. , caring, seemed to make Lele understand something, and he went back to find a job after playing for two days.
When girls grow up and have so-called independent thoughts, it is not easy for us parents to interfere. I have been dating a colleague for six years, but the other person is still unwilling to get married and will not tell me the reason. After my persuasion, Lele broke up.
What does a man think when he can be with you for so many years without getting married? In my opinion, he is just acting like a hooligan and has never thought about marrying my daughter, so at this time, I think it is better to separate.
Lele seemed to take this breakup very lightly and was not sad. She went to work normally and even bought me a leather jacket, which cost her half a month's salary. I feel sorry for my daughter, and my daughter feels sorry for me working hard outside.
The younger son and daughter got married early and are much more mature mentally than Lele.
In 2014, Lele said that she had a date with someone, but she never allowed us to meet. Until the Chinese New Year, Lele said that she and her partner would come back to celebrate the New Year. I was very happy at the time, and my daughter was finally willing to bring her boyfriend back. . But I seemed to be happy too early. When they came back, I saw a man in his thirties who called "Mom, Dad" when they met. At that time, I was still a little overwhelmed.
During the meal, Lele introduced the other party’s situation and concealed something. Lele’s partner was very honest and said that he had been married and had a daughter. At that time, I felt a little unbalanced in my heart, but Lele was very determined. , this man is also very good at talking. Although he is not glib, what he says makes sense and is pleasing to the ear.
couldn't defeat his daughter, so they got married.
In July 2015, my daughter was pregnant. This was originally a happy event, but my son-in-law said that Lele was not normal. I thought it was the son-in-law who was talking nonsense and bullying my daughter. I even went to the son-in-law’s house once. The two persuaded and educated Lele, but Lele didn't speak a word the whole time. The son-in-law only talked about Lele's bad qualities, saying that he was different from before and that his temper was getting worse.
I scolded my daughter a few times and told her that when she gets married, she must be a good wife, a good daughter-in-law, and a good mother in the future.
At that time, I didn't care about the changes in my daughter. Looking back now, my son-in-law said that it was indeed okay. Pregnancy in ten months was a natural thing, but when it happened to my daughter, everything was abnormal.
After the birth of my child, I just arrived in Jiangsu to work. When I was one month old, I did not come back to see my grandson due to work reasons. However, within a few days, my daughter left a note and ran away from home.
The son-in-law couldn't believe that Lele would be so cruel and abandon the child who was just over a month old and walk away. The two families searched hard but never found Lele.
The only clue was the surveillance at the canteen in the town. Lele bought a few bottles of mineral water and a bottle of pesticide at the pesticide store. From then on, there were no more clues.
In the past six years, I have not gone out to work. I have walked almost all the surrounding valleys, but there is no trace of my daughter, because there is no trace of my daughter riding in a car. I think she must be nearby. At least I will see people dead or corpses. Well, I never found it.
The whole family is in deep sorrow, but what can be done?
