1. When getting along with others, behave appropriately, generously and confidently.
Eat with the people you like, not restrained, not nervous, generous and natural;
Female colleagues have a new hairstyle, and they will praise each other generously;
When encountering confessions from the opposite sex, whether they agree or reject, they will do it appropriately and It's not hurtful.
When communicating with others, they can talk eloquently without losing any sense of proportion; they can be humorous and know how to grasp the right balance.
When meeting the person you like, you will never hesitate, but pursue it generously and express your love bravely. People like
can often gain more happiness.
2. When faced with the ups and downs of life, do not be arrogant or decadent.
After you have a certain amount of life experience, you will understand: ups and downs are the normal state of life; not being sad or happy, and letting nature take its course is the best coping strategy.
Mature people do not escape or become decadent when encountering ups and downs in life; when they are at the peak of life, they do not get lost or show off.
can face everything with a peaceful mind, and can also empower those around him.
3. Let go of the past and know how to cherish the present and the present.
Didn't get into the ideal university, didn't get together with the girl I like, didn't get an offer from the company of my choice...
Those unachieved goals, and missed people we will never meet again, will become a regret for us.
But life is like this, gaining means another kind of loss, and losing also means another kind of gain.
Perhaps the best way to get rid of regrets is to cherish everything you have now and always be grateful.
4. No matter how powerful you are, you still know how to be humble and low-key.
got the first pot of gold in his life; he obtained the qualification certification in the professional field; he owned his first RV . No matter how excited he was, he would not show it off everywhere.
does not want to make people jealous, nor does it want to be a thorn in others' eyes or flesh.
understands better that there are many people who are better than him, and he still has a lot of room for growth and improvement.
is based on this idea, so mature boys are mostly hard-working and excellent.
5. When encountering difficult problems, they always use action instead of complaining.
When a project is messed up, he will try to find all possible remedies instead of giving up on himself and waiting for criticism; when
has a disagreement with his colleagues, he will not rush to defend himself, but listen patiently and find a solution that is in the interests of both parties. Solution;
No matter how big the problem is, he will first find a way to solve it instead of just complaining and blaming himself.
They are not without temper, they just know better that action is the best medicine to solve all problems.
6. No longer sensitive and suspicious, and will not be bound by the outside world.
If your colleagues forget to notify you at a dinner party, you won’t feel excluded; if your boss arranges for you to work overtime temporarily, you won’t feel targeted; when friends of the opposite sex find someone to chat with, you won’t doubt the other person’s sincerity towards you.
will not affect his mood due to external factors. Even if he is depressed, he will have his own way of adjusting it.
They will keep a certain distance from things that affect their emotions or disrupt their rhythm.
Moreover, they will not care about the eyes of the outside world, because they are more important than others.
7. I will no longer "wait and hope", but take the initiative to strive for and create.
Waiting for the leader to take the initiative to raise salary, relying on others to give opportunities, asking parents for money...
And mature people will:
Create according to their own
Work hard to develop a skill and use your own strength to win opportunities;
When your wallet is empty, do more part-time jobs to save unnecessary expenses and increase revenue and reduce expenditure. .
Personal independence refers not only to emotional non-dependence, but also to financial non-dependence and spiritual non-compliance.
They can reasonably control their desires, actively strive for what they want, and actively create what they don’t have.
8. Always look at everything rationally.
If your confession is rejected, you will not pester or lick the dog; if you want to change careers, you will never impulsively resign before you understand other industries; if you want to start a business, you can see bright prospects and carefully analyze failure cases.
Recognize your own advantages, seize opportunities, work hard quietly, and strive to increase your probability of success.
Time may fail a person who works hard.
But I will never let down a person who keeps working hard.
9. There are clear and untouchable principles.
If you have a partner, you will reject all ambiguities and overtures, but you will never tolerate the cheating behavior of the other party;
will take the initiative to help friends when they are in trouble. But for those who always seek peace of mind under the guise of friendship, they will immediately cut off the relationship;
colleagues can get along well with each other, but they will fight back mercilessly to those who speak ill of others and gossip behind their backs. .
10. Treat others and yourself gently.
People who like to show off their teeth are often very fragile inside.
Because mature people will be confident, confident will be firm, firm will be calm, and calm will be gentler.
Treat yourself gently and treat the world gently.
11. Good at observation and can use small details to warm others.
When we go out to play together, we will take the initiative to wait for the friend who is tying his shoelaces; when crossing the road, we will take the initiative to walk to the side with cars; when driving past pedestrians on rainy days, we will take the initiative to slow down the car.
These heart-warming acts of kindness will make their interpersonal relationships smoother.
12. Accept your imperfections.
no longer secretly suffers from his mediocre appearance; nor does he blame himself because he is not good at socializing.
Because they understand that shortcomings are just misplaced features.
To erase shortcomings is to erase one's own uniqueness.
Instead of worrying about it, it is better to accept it calmly, find the area suitable for it to play, and then shine as much as it wants.
13. Understand the complexity of human nature.
A person who is polite to the outside world will be rude to his wife when he returns home;
A teacher who is known as a hard-working gardener will also plot evil against his students;
A person who always says he will not marry will marry someone else in the blink of an eye. .
In the world, there are no absolutely good people or absolutely bad people.
Everyone stands in their own position and makes the best choice for themselves by weighing the pros and cons.
Mature people can love the beauty in front of them and can also understand the darkness of human nature.
14. Think twice before speaking.
Because they understand that disease enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth.
Some things don’t need to be said, some things cannot be said, and some things should not be said indiscriminately. This is their "three no's" principle of doing things.
15. Pay more attention to inner improvement.
Mature boys will not deliberately decorate themselves with brand-name clothes or limited edition figures. They will pay more attention to improving their inner qualities.
The appearance can be reorganized, but the inside cannot be improved overnight.
If you want to improve your inner literacy, the most effective shortcut is to read. Reading for half an hour every day can bring about earth-shaking changes in your temperament.
16. Don’t expose yourself too much.
When getting along with ordinary people, he will not tell his true financial income easily;
When communicating with strangers, he will not reveal his family status at will;
will not say that he is unbearable in front of the opposite sex he has just met. Looking back on the past.
If you don’t expose your weaknesses, you won’t be deliberately harmed by people with ulterior motives.
17, will adjust its speed at all times.
When you are tired, he will slow down and walk with you;
If you like sports, he will also work hard to keep up with your pace.
In short, he will not take advantage of his strength to deliberately attack you.
18. Know how to be tolerant, but also know how to protect yourself.
will resign directly if he encounters a company that only cares about the pie and does not talk about benefits;
will break up with someone who blindly takes but does not know how to pay;
will immediately break up with a friend who tries every means to take advantage.
Because in their view, you can pay, but you can never make paying cheap, or even reasonable.
True maturity is to be tolerant of others while also having enough courage and ability to protect your own interests. People like
have a certain sense of responsibility and can also give people around them a sense of security and respect.
