Parents who leave all their property to their daughters, but leave their pension to their sons and daughters-in-law, are not wise, but foolish.
Although we say that parents should treat everyone equally and not favor boys over girls. But parents' partiality can completely crush a person. After all, parents can treat all children equally and fairly, rather than choosing to favor one side to achieve their own ends.
Xiao Bing (pseudonym) has had little contact with her mother-in-law since she left all her property to her daughter. But who knew that after her mother-in-law fell ill in her later years, she came to ask them to support her in her old age, and she even said confidently that her son had the obligation to provide for her in her old age.
01. The son will not marry unless he is his daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law will not be able to earn a penny.
The relationship between Xiao Bing and her husband has always been full of twists and turns. When they fell in love, her mother-in-law tried every means to prevent them from being together. The mother-in-law thinks that Xiao Bing's family background is too poor and he has a younger brother who will be a drag on her son in the future.
However, her husband had a very good relationship with her and would not marry her unless she was there. He also stole the household registration book and married Xiao Bing first and then obtained the marriage certificate . Seeing that everyone had received the certificate, my mother-in-law had no choice but to turn a blind eye.
But her mother-in-law never wanted to see Xiao Bing, thinking that she was from a stingy background and that her family had no help at all. So, even though she reluctantly agreed to their marriage, her mother-in-law couldn't afford any money. She didn't give any gifts, buy a wedding house, or hold a wedding. She tried to force her husband to give up in this way.
My husband is also a stubborn person. His parents don’t contribute money or effort, so he rents a house and gets married to Xiao Bing. My husband naively believed that once Xiao Bing became pregnant and gave birth to a grandson, his parents would change their prejudices.
02. The mother-in-law left the property to her daughter, but the daughter-in-law refused to provide for her in old age.
But before Xiao Bing gave birth to the child, her parents-in-law secretly left all the property in their name to their married sister-in-law, and said that they would provide for her in the future. Although Xiao Bing felt aggrieved, she had nothing to do with her stubborn mother-in-law.
It wasn’t until her mother-in-law, who had been clamoring to take care of her daughter in old age, came back to look for them to take care of her in old age that she was full of pain. Xiao Bing didn’t know that some people’s face could really be dispensed with. Because my mother-in-law had completely forgotten what she had said.
The mother-in-law pretended to be pitiful and begged Xiao Bing and her husband to take her in. She also said that she was living cautiously in her daughter and son-in-law's house and was not happy at all. What's more, the son-in-law has always been thinking about the house in her name, and always tries every means to encourage her daughter to ask for a house from her.
Xiao Bing couldn't sympathize with her mother-in-law at all. She had long taken her mother-in-law's words seriously, so she never thought that after their life was stable, her mother-in-law would shamelessly come to ask for pension.
03. The mother-in-law came to the door to argue: The son has the obligation to provide for the elderly.
Xiao Bing did not reply for a long time. The mother-in-law suddenly became anxious and came directly to the door to argue with her son and daughter-in-law. Xiao Bing's attitude was neither cold nor indifferent, but her husband kept trying to persuade her to take in her mother-in-law.
After Xiao Bing couldn't help her husband's nagging, she finally refused. She asked her mother-in-law to go back and forth wherever she wanted. After all, whoever the property is given to will provide for her in old age. But my mother-in-law disapproved and said, no matter who I give my money to, my son and daughter-in-law have the obligation to provide for them in their old age.
The mother-in-law's confident tone almost made Xiao Bing laugh out loud. It is true that sons have the obligation to provide for their parents in old age, but who stipulates that daughters-in-law have the obligation to provide for their parents-in-law in old age. Whoever the parents-in-law's property is given to should be looked after for retirement, so why should she be an outsider?
Xiao Bing was helpless and speechless, but she was still unwilling to take in her mother-in-law. Instead, she told her husband that either we get divorced and you keep your mother-in-law, or she leaves. Anyway, only one of her and her mother-in-law can be left behind. Without her, there would be no mother-in-law, and with mother-in-law, there would be no her. It wasn't that she was stingy and selfish, but that she didn't dare to forget the hardships she had suffered.
04, affection and duty
A mother-in-law has no obligation to take care of her daughter-in-law during confinement and to take care of the children. This is not her duty. If the mother-in-law is willing to take care of her, it is her affection for her daughter-in-law.For these reasons, any daughter-in-law will be kind to her mother-in-law.
The daughter-in-law has no obligation to support her mother-in-law because they are not biological mother and daughter. If the daughter-in-law is willing to provide support, it is out of affection for her mother-in-law, not her duty. It is the son's obligation to provide for himself in old age. If his daughter-in-law didn't look down upon him, she might not lend a helping hand.
But the soft-heartedness of the daughter-in-law cannot be the capital and confidence for the mother-in-law to bully others. Especially since the mother-in-law's property was returned to her daughter, leaving nothing to her daughter-in-law.
Today’s topic:
Are you willing to support your mother-in-law who left her property to your daughter?
