In families with several children, it is difficult for parents to keep a bowl of water balanced. Either favor someone, or ignore someone.
Parents seem to be trying to treat everyone equally, but most of the time, parents' preference is not love, but selfishness and partiality.
Someone once said that if parents are unkind, children can be unfilial. If parents are not kind to their children, how can they ask their children to treat their parents with filial piety? Loving and being loved are mutual, not one-sided.
01. The unmarried daughter became a younger brother.
Before she got married, Luo Juan was a veritable ATM in the eyes of her parents. No matter what happens at home, whenever they need money, their parents will only come to her. Luo Juan must respond to her parents' requests at all times, otherwise her parents will be unforgiving and use the kindness of raising her as an excuse.
Therefore, after working to earn money, Luo Juan was particularly afraid of receiving calls from her parents for a long time. Because receiving a call from parents means paying money. But Luo Juan's monthly salary is only 7,000. After her parents begged her many times, she basically sent 5,000 back to her parents every month.
Luo Juan is struggling to survive in a big city, but her brother, who is only two years younger than her, has been staying at home and chewing on her parents, doing nothing all day long. My parents also asked relatives and friends many times to help introduce jobs, but my younger brother spent three days fishing and two days drying nets and could not persist. Over time, everyone stopped introducing him. And he could stay at home and grow old with peace of mind.
Her younger brother does not work and her parents are old, so the livelihood of the entire family falls on Luo Juan alone. Therefore, she had to send 5,000 yuan back to her parents every month. Luo Juan did not dare to talk about her boyfriend at all, for fear that others would know that she had parents who constantly asked for money.
02. Her parents’ family was demolished, and all the property was given to her son, but not a penny to her daughter.
Although many people had a good impression of Luo Juan, every time Luo Juan truthfully confessed her family situation, everyone fled. It wasn't until her husband didn't mind her wanting to subsidize her parents' family, nor did he care about her honoring her parents, that the two of them established a romantic relationship.
When Luo Juan and her husband were about to get married, her parents asked for a gift of 100,000 yuan, and the parents finally withheld the gift for their younger brother's wedding. Luo Juan was so angry that she cried, and her mother-in-law also blamed Luo Juan's parents for selling their daughter.
After getting married, Luo Juan gradually reduced the subsidies to her natal family. But her parents did not let her go and still required her to give her 3,000 yuan a month for living expenses. Luo Juan fought hard and finally reduced her living expenses from 3,000 to 2,000.
But after her parents' house was demolished and a house and hundreds of thousands of demolition money were divided among them, Luo Juan became more and more disappointed with her parents. Her parents didn't discuss it with her or consider it for her, so they directly gave the house and hundreds of thousands of demolition funds to her brother.
Luo Juan went back to her parents' home to argue, but her parents thought that her married daughter, who was blinded by money, should not go back to her parents' home to compete with her brother for property. Luo Juan went back to her home in tears. From then on, she rarely visited her parents' home and stopped supporting her younger brother and parents in poverty.
03. My daughter stopped helping the poor, and her parents came to visit me: Your brother failed to pay off the million-dollar mortgage.
After relying on the hundreds of thousands of compensation, my brother got married and started a family. They had only been married for half a year, and my sister-in-law was making a fuss about buying a house in a school district in the city center. The parents had no choice but to spend their money to raise a down payment for their younger brother.
I have a down payment and I bought a house in the school district, but I don’t have a mortgage loan. With his brother's idle temperament, it is difficult to support himself, his wife and children, let alone repaying the mortgage. But he wanted to save face and suffer, and refused to work honestly to support his family.
Seeing that their son had suffered a serious crime and that his daughter-in-law was clamoring for divorce, the parents remembered their daughter who had been taken advantage of. Luo Juan's heart skipped a beat when she saw her parents coming to her door. Before she could take a breath, her parents said confidently: Although you are married and have a family, your brother has yet to pay off his multi-million dollar mortgage. You cannot stand idly by.
Luo Juan found it ridiculous. When she went back to her parents' home to seek justice for herself, her parents said that she was a married daughter and was not qualified to compete for her parents' property. But now her younger brother can't pay the mortgage, and her parents say she has an obligation to help her younger brother, as repaying her parents for their upbringing.
Luo Juan sneered and sent her parents away without saying anything. Luo Juan didn't want to have to tell the truth about her parents and younger brother who demanded endlessly. Today it is to help pay off the mortgage, tomorrow it is to help support the wife and children, and the day after tomorrow there may be other requirements.
04. Parents rob the rich and give to the poor, but cut off ties with the daughter.
There is a kind of parent who always exploits his daughter under the guise of nurturing grace in order to support his son. Parents who favor sons over daughters are, to put it bluntly, robbing the rich to give to the poor.
I know that my daughter is easy to be soft-hearted and worried about her parents, but her parents still take advantage of their daughter's soft-heartedness and worries to kidnap her morally. This kind of partiality and selfishness of parents will only drive their daughters far away in the end.
Faced with such parents who favor sons over daughters, the best outcome for a daughter is to cut off the relationship with her parents and stop the loss in time. Because parents love their children so much, they will not give up their daughter as a cash cow easily. For the sake of her own family and marriage, the daughter has no choice but to give up her natal relationship.
Today’s topic:
Do you support Luo Juan severing ties with her parents?
