psychology, there is " cognitive restlessness".
means that we always feel uneasy about the environment we are in, and in order to eliminate the sense of crisis, we always hope to use something to balance it.
This kind of uneasiness is not that something bad will really happen, but that I cannot effectively control my life.
For example, when we arrive in a strange environment, we always feel vaguely restrained. In fact, when we chat with others, we will relax and the relationship between people will not be restrained. But why are we nervous at the beginning? The reason is the inner uneasiness about the unknown.
There is a saying that goes well, people who have no long-term worries must have immediate worries. In life, each of us will have our own troubles. Some people's troubles are caused by environmental influences, and some people find their own troubles.
On the Internet, seeing the conflict between Liu Wei and his father, netizens criticized him overwhelmingly.
"What's the use of raising a son like this? He has ulterior motives, even his own father was cheated."
"This child is a weasel and has no good intentions to pay New Year's greetings to the chicken."
"A wolf's ambition!"
What did Liu Wei do? Why are everyone so angry?
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Liu Wei is a brother and sister. The younger sister is already married and lives very close to her parents.
My parents are both retired workers. They have worked hard all their lives and have not saved much money. Fortunately, after retirement, their old house was demolished and they were allocated two apartments.
After Liu Wei got married, he moved out to live outside. His wife couldn't accept her father-in-law and mother-in-law, and she refused to let them live in her home. He was also used to staying away from his parents.
The parents knew that their son was unreliable and did not want to trouble him. When something happened, they would call their daughter home. Considering that he was old and could not live without people around him, the father decided to give his daughter a house. This would relieve her daughter of the pressure of renting a house. Free up more energy to take care of your parents.
My daughter takes good care of her parents. She buys groceries every now and then and cleans up housework for her parents, so that their parents don't have to worry about life.
Liu Wei has been doing business since his marriage. In a few years, he made a lot of money and bought two large houses with luxurious decorations. Many people envied the old man for his good fortune, but the old man smiled and shook his head: "No matter how much money my son's family has, , also with us "It has nothing to do with it."
In order to fill the emptiness of life, Liu Wei's father raised many stray cats and dogs. The living room was full of cages. He was reluctant to eat and drink, and had to buy food for the small animals. This made Liu Wei dissatisfied. I think my father is wasting money.
According to Liu Wei, his father should transfer both houses to him. He believed that he was the eldest son in the family and had the right to inherit. However, his father did not think so. The old man said that all children are the same, and whoever can support him can inherit. Property, but not a penny.
Liu Wei was unconvinced and attacked his father in private, forcing him to write a will and transfer both houses to him.
His mother happened to be ill, so he used this as an excuse to sell his house to save his mother, and asked his sister to cooperate in transferring the house.
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My sister felt ridiculous and asked, "You haven't been home for several years, why did you suddenly become filial? If the house is sold, will you really give the money to your mother for medical treatment?"
"Of course, my mother must see a doctor." Liu Wei Xin vowed.
What disease did their mother have? Why wasn't he sent to the hospital?
It turns out that my mother is getting old, her liver and kidneys are failing, her memory is also declining, and sometimes she doesn't even recognize her own daughter. The doctor said that she has Alzheimer's and needs careful care from her family.
There is no specific medicine for such a disease, and going to the hospital will not bring any good results. The daughter decided to let her mother stay at home. She often went back to visit. It can be seen from her mother's clean clothes and good complexion that she was taken care of. Well done.
Liu Wei didn't care. He invited a mediator and asked his father to transfer the ownership of a house to him. His father lost his temper on the spot: "Why don't you sell your mansion? If you are really filial, you won't stay home for several years.""
Seeing that his father did not give him face, Liu Wei also lost his temper. He pointed at his father and said, "You have no conscience. Are you just watching my mother get sick and not saving her?" "
" She is my wife. I have the right to make decisions. Don't stop us. "The old man's words were very serious and left Liu Wei speechless.
An informed neighbor revealed that Liu Wei's business used to be good, but the business had its ups and downs. He lost money and needed a sum of money to start the project. Selling his house saved him Mother is just an excuse, the purpose is to Want money.
It is clear to onlookers that the old Mr. Liu in the eyes of his neighbors is not confused. He is very caring and takes care of many stray animals. Naturally, he will not ignore his wife. He just does not want her to go to the hospital and suffer.
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The question is, should the elderly be sent to the hospital if they are seriously ill?
I asked some elderly friends around me, and their answers were thought-provoking.
" Birth, aging, illness and death are natural laws that no one can avoid. Instead of worrying about the state after illness, it is better to treat every day of life well, make the quality of life higher and avoid regrets in the future. If the illness is serious and cannot be cured, then stay at home. Yes, just reduce some pain, there is no need to over-treat. "
I don't know what you think after reading this. I feel very sad and also feel a kind of tragedy.
In the consciousness of the elderly, reaching seventy years old is a long life. Even if they leave, they will have no regrets. It's not that they don't love them Life, but not wanting to burden his children.
Just like Mr. Liu, he loves his wife very much, but he also knows that his wife is seriously ill, so he chooses to accompany him and do his best to make her feel better.
yes A sensible old man gave his daughter an apartment because she was filial and could spend more time with her mother. He didn't give his son a penny because he knew that his son was unreliable. No matter how much money he gave to him, he would not get anything from her. Thank you.
Parents are older and have their own attitudes towards life. What they want to do more is to deal with the aftermath.
To be honest, this goal is difficult to achieve because there is a selfish side in human nature. Even biological sons sometimes think about problems. very Self.
When encountering similar things, the elderly need to be "selfish" and leave enough pension money for themselves. No matter how much their sons force them, they should not take out the pension money.
Sometimes, blood relations are often a good excuse for moral binding. , A son's rightful request to inherit property requires him to show corresponding filial piety. If he can't, then there is no need to pay attention to him.
In this life, we all have our own cognitions, and some cognitions are habitual thinking. , some are the result of rational thinking , no matter which one it is, we need to think more when we encounter problems and not be fooled by appearances.
Raising children to protect against old age is sometimes unreliable. In contrast, leaving money to protect against old age seems more effective.
also hopes that this incident can arouse everyone's vigilance. Everyone will grow old one day. We should be more patient with the elderly and don't let filial piety become a verbal expression. When we can all be filial to our parents from the heart, the elderly naturally do not need to take excessive precautions. , you can live with peace of mind in your later years.
