When I was browsing the website, I saw a question: "What is the seemingly reasonable but actually ridiculous sentence you heard in love?"
Visitor A said: "Emotions are not prioritized, and the one who is not loved is the first. Three! "
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If feelings are not in order, how do you know you are the last one? If cheating in marriage can be washed away, what else does " Marriage Law " do? Just don't get married, just stay together if it suits you, and part ways if it doesn't suit you. Anyway, whatever comes after is true love!
Have the third person who said this sentence ever thought that one day, another person will stand in front of you and say the same sentence to you. A well-known female author from a certain place wrote books to satirize her first wife when she was a mistress. In all her works, the first wife was arrogant and unreasonable. The mistress and the scumbag both loved each other sincerely and were bullied in various ways. When she became a full-time employee, her writing style changed, and the mistress was the one with ulterior motives.
I have also seen many third parties make comments, saying: "Please cherish the person who loves you outside marriage!"
He doesn't even cherish the people in the marriage, not even his wife who shares the joys and sorrows with him and has children. How can he still cherish you if you don't? What is your dream of Spring and Autumn ? It cannot be denied that there are third parties in this world who are particularly successful, but if you look in the mirror, are you one of those people with a special destiny? As long as a successful third party is either extremely intelligent or beautiful, or can keep pace with the man and become his helper in life and career, a relationship that is maintained only by novelty will end in embarrassment. ,what else?
Some words with incorrect views were said by those with incorrect views, and they became golden words. Even she believed them, and from then on she could feel free to interfere in other people's marriages and steal the fruits of other people's labor.
What I want to say is that the values of the entire society are still correct, and most people look down on cheaters and third parties. What happens to those who are with a third party in the end? Let’s take a look at a few cases!
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Case 1: Mr. Chen, 42 years old, abandoned his wife and children for a third party, but the third party was unwilling to marry him!
In Mr. Chen’s eyes, the third party Wenjuan is a very special woman. She has a gentle temperament and is calm in dealing with things. It is rare to see her getting angry. Even when faced with accusations and criticisms from others, she can deal with them calmly and smile. On the other hand, his own wife was a woman who got angry when she got angry and was irritable when she got angry. He hated that kind of life, so he got together with Wenjuan behind his wife's back.
Wenjuan never asked him for anything, and she didn't even want him to divorce and marry him. After every date, she would urge him to go home quickly. But the more she acted like this, the more he felt distressed, and the more he wanted to give her a status and a family.
After his wife found out about his affair with Wenjuan, a storm immediately came. In order to prevent Wenjuan from being harmed in this matter, he quickly cut through the mess and used various methods to force his wife to divorce him. After the divorce, he and Wenjuan naturally lived together.
He had mentioned marriage many times, but Wenjuan ignored them all. She only wants to be his lover, but not willing to marry him. Whenever he asked, she always said in that calm tone: "Wouldn't it be better for us to just fall in love?"
He suddenly realized that he seemed to have never really understood her. Without that piece of paper, they can indeed do whatever they want, but without that piece of paper, they have no ability to restrain each other. He cannot ask Wenjuan to be responsible for him, and he cannot ask Wenjuan to fulfill her obligations as a wife to him. Wenjuan cannot be asked to fulfill her duties as a daughter-in-law to his parents.
They seemed to be close, but they had no corresponding obligations and responsibilities. He began to worry about gains and losses in that relationship, and he also began to understand what his wife had done to him. The reason why his wife became irritable was because he did not give her enough security in the marriage. When she first became his wife, she was also a gentle woman with a gentle temperament.
Mr. Chen said that he and Wenjuan had been living together for four years, and they were noisy and separated. Break it up, reluctant to part with it, after all, he paid the price of abandoning his wife and son for Wenjuan. Come on, I feel that this relationship will never come to an end.
Now he is in a dilemma and confused.
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Case 2: Mr. Lan, 32 years old, his life after remarriage is still a mess!
After I got remarried, I realized that the main problem in my unhappy marriage with my ex-wife was me. When
chose to have an affair, it was exactly when my life hit a bottleneck. If you stumble at work, you may be fired by your boss at any time. In life, my father was seriously ill and was hospitalized, and my ex-wife was about to give birth to her second child. No matter in which aspect, I felt tremendous pressure.
So, I blamed all this on my ex-wife!
I blame her for making less money, blame her for having a second child, blame her for not taking good care of my parents, blame her for not being able to help me in my career. So, I got together with a divorced and single female subordinate in the company. I felt that she was the woman I wanted.
I admit that I am quite a scumbag. I filed for divorce from my ex-wife right after she gave birth to a child. She didn't agree, so I moved out and lived with my current wife. She couldn't bear it for half a year and still divorced me.
I married my female subordinate as I wished, but found that my life not only did not get better, but instead became worse. The current salary is higher than that of my ex-wife, but she spends all the money on herself and her daughter. Not only can she not supplement me, but she often takes money from me to supplement her and her daughter's lives.
She also doesn’t help me take care of my parents because my parents don’t accept her. She is not even willing to go back to her hometown with me, and she won’t go back during the holidays.
She refused to let me pay child support, which made my ex-wife resent me even more and ignored me even with the children.
She also doesn’t like to do housework. Since marrying her, except for the newlywed period, I have never eaten the food she cooked for me, let alone washed my smelly socks.
When I was with my ex-wife, I disliked her being a homebody and stayed at home all day without going out. My current wife no longer lives at home, she runs out every day, and often goes back to her parents' house to live, and often chats with unknown men. I can't even ask her while we're chatting, and we quarrel whenever I ask. Because we cheated on each other during marriage, the trust between husband and wife was almost zero.
Such a life of mutual suspicion quickly made me exhausted, and even made me feel like I was trapped in a strange circle. Why can't I get the life I want despite all the hard work?
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Most men who cheat on each other get together because of the novelty! Whether it's a relationship or a marriage, it's impossible not to have problems. If you turn a blind eye to these problems, don't communicate, and don't repair them, no matter how many people you change, it will be a fool's errand, and it may even get worse and worse as you change. When the woman who is called the first wife withdraws from the relationship between you, no matter whether it becomes a permanent relationship or not, what you have to face is to have children, the same daily necessities, the same old people and children, the same support and money, and finally the end , is still a piece of chicken feathers, repeated in cycles.
The biggest difference between marriage and extramarital affairs is that marriage includes not only love but also responsibilities, while extramarital affairs have nothing but "love".
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