Text/Xia Mo 01. Preface: On the road of life, we will meet all kinds of people. Some people pass by us, but some people can stay with us for life. Fu Xuan of Jin Dynasty said in "Prince Shaofu Zhi": "Therefore, those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to

Text/Xia Mo

01, Preface

On the road of life, we will meet all kinds of people. Some people pass by us, but some people can stay with us for life.

Jin· Fu Xuan said in "Prince Shaofu's Admonitions": "Therefore, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to Mo are black."

People live a lifetime, and the kind of friends you choose to be with will determine the kind of life you will have.

A person's life only lasts for tens of thousands of days. Having one or two close friends is already a blessing in life.

When people are young, they will feel that having friends all over the world is a particularly happy thing. It symbolizes connections and gives people a sense of security.

However, not all the friends you make mean that your connections are valuable. Some people lead us to grow, while others will increase internal friction for you.

As people get older, try to avoid spending energy on socializing. In his later years, he took the initiative to say goodbye to the following people to make himself live a more dignified life.

02. People with strong desire to buy and strong vanity

Money is a necessity in our lives. It can not only bring us material security. Moreover, it can also give us confidence and security in life.

In later years, the speed of making money slows down. However, if you learn to hold on to your money, you are making money for yourself.

People can be easily influenced. For example, the friends you make are those who like to buy, like to compare, and have a strong sense of vanity. Then, he will also make you develop the habit of comparison and squandering money.

When people get old, they take the initiative to say goodbye to people who have a strong desire to buy and have a strong vanity. This type of people have not established a correct view of money and are proud of high consumption. They always want to prove that they are living a good life and spend money more and more uncontrollably.

When you get old, you squander money, cannot make ends meet, and your quality of life plummets, you will live without a sense of security.

On the road of life, happiness cannot be bought with money.

Money should be spent wisely, and don't squander it easily in your old age. Because, at critical moments, money can save lives, money can rescue you, and money can also protect you.

When people get old, they should reduce their material desires and keep the money in their pockets. Be content with everything you have and don't compare or be jealous. Only in this way can you embrace happiness.

03. People who eat, drink, and do nothing all day long.

In your later years, when you retire from your job, time slows down, and you will gradually feel lonely and have nothing to do. When three or five friends gather together, it seems that they will have a happier time.

However, after eating and drinking with idle people all day long, I gradually discovered that although it looked lively and lively on the surface, it was actually empty in spirit.

Eating and drinking all day long will not only consume money faster, but also increase health risks. When the spirit is not satisfied, it will also increase self-internal consumption.

When people get old, they should learn to say goodbye to people who like to eat and drink and do nothing all day long. Because if you get along with them, you will not gain happiness, nor will you gain true happiness.

As people get older, they need to find like-minded people. If you are not interested, then develop interest. Only when you are truly interested can you be fulfilled and find happiness.

Aristotle said: "A true friend is one soul conceived in two bodies."

Taking care of each other and chatting about life can rejuvenate the originally boring old age. Only when the souls resonate is true Make the right friends.

04. People with a bad mentality and living in negative energy

What matters in life is mentality. People with a better mentality will be more happy and happy. People with a bad mentality will fall into a muddy road in life and be accompanied by despair and pain.

When people interact with each other, emotions are contagious.

If you get along with positive people for a long time, you will gain happiness and positive energy. For example, if a person stays with someone who likes to complain for a long time, she will gradually be covered with disappointment and despair.

When people get old, they should learn to say goodbye to people with a bad mentality and get rid of people who live in negative energy.

No one has a hard life, and there will always be unsatisfactory things in life. People with a bad mentality will have all the unsatisfactory things reflected on their faces. Not only will they not be happy, but they will also seriously affect the mood of the people around them.

As we get older, if we get along with people with a good mentality, we can feel the positive and optimistic energy from them, which makes people feel like a spring breeze.

If you stay with positive people for a long time, you will have the same good mentality as them, and you will find that life is full of good scenery.

In your later years, the better your mentality is, the easier it will be to discover the beautiful side of life and the happier you will live.

05. Summary

Walking in the world, people come and go. Some people are destined to be just acquaintances, but they go in opposite directions as they walk. And some people have become old friends and confidants, healing each other on the way to old age.

Jay Taylor said: "People form friendships for many reasons, some out of nature, some out of contract, some out of self-interest, and some out of common interests."

On the road of life, please learn to manage yourself circle. For those who don’t strive for progress and are full of negative energy all day long, say goodbye when it’s time to say goodbye. The quality of the people around you affects a person’s luck.

As time goes by, you will gradually understand the importance of choosing friends. When people get old, they can have a positive attitude and have a happy old age by getting along with high-quality people.

In just a few decades of life, you must clearly understand what is in your heart and don't waste time and energy on ineffective social interactions. Being able to make a close friend is the greatest blessing.

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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional mentor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with over 1 billion people on the Internet, and a manager of happy women. He has focused on emotions, gender, and answering questions about mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.