I don’t know if you have experienced that today’s people’s economic situation is getting better and better, but their sympathy is getting less and less, and their hearts are getting colder and colder?
My husband has a cousin who is the descendant of a paternal grandfather, but he is not the same male. For this kind of cousin, on my parents' side, we have never interacted with each other at all, unlike my husband's side, but we are quite affectionate.
My cousin suddenly suffered from liver cancer with multiple organ metastases a few months ago. We gave her 1,000 yuan and visited her once. We picked her up once when she was discharged from the hospital, but we didn’t visit her much anymore.
His other sister also suffered from cervical cancer a year ago. At that time, she also gave 1,000 yuan for a visit, but later she didn’t support much. However, when they had a banquet together last time, she looked at his daughter. His physical condition is quite good.
My own sister also didn’t have enough money to buy a house last year. The difference was hundreds of thousands. My sister is usually very nice to me, but I only lent her 50,000 yuan. When she was chatting with me a few days ago, she was still complaining, saying that her elder sister had no income now and that she still owed more than 200,000 yuan in debt.
Actually, I know that last time I only lent her 50,000 yuan, she had a lot of thoughts in mind. She felt that her sister borrowed too little, and she didn't borrow as much as her aunt. Although she didn't show it, I could feel it.
Why am I so cool?
Like his cousin, he was a bit confused when he was young. At that time, he worked in a company. Although the salary was not much, he could still save a house in the city after so many years. But he likes to play cards, does not care about his family, and does not properly discipline his children. In addition, his cousin dotes on his children, which leads to his son dropping out of junior high school. He has not saved much money when he is nearly fifty years old.
They originally had a two-story house on the edge of the city, but last year they went to the city to buy a new house. Plus the renovation costs, they now don’t know how much debt they owe.
Now my cousin-in-law has cancer , and the family is even worse off.
They didn't have to buy a house originally. When he bought a house, the real estate industry was already in recession, so they could have waited a little longer. They don't need to buy new houses at all. The prices of new houses are on the high side, while the prices of second-hand houses are already ridiculously low. If you have a lot of money, there is nothing wrong with buying a new house. If you don't have a lot of money and don't have enough money, there is no need to go into debt for consumption.
I don’t know about his little wife when she was young. I only know that she got divorced and later married a man. Their children were not well brought up, so they can’t rely on anything now. The most important thing is that she didn't even buy the national medical insurance, so all medical treatment was paid for at her own expense, which was obviously a bit stressful.
It was the same when my sister bought the apartment. She originally had a staircase room, but she came up with the idea of improving the living environment. And in a short period of time, he hastily sold his original house at a low price, and in a short period of time, he borrowed money and hastily bought a second-hand house that was hundreds of thousands more expensive than his original one.
They all have one thing in common, that is, they do not have a good long-term plan for life. They usually spend money lavishly, and for large expenditures such as buying a house that are not strictly needed, they should be based on their actual situation and how much they are capable of doing.
It is extremely unwise for people like them to buy a house with debt, and the debt they owe is relatively large (the housing debt has exceeded half of the house price). Once there is a problem with income, or there is an unexpected situation at home, such as a serious illness, there will be an economic crisis , let alone debt repayment. Lending money to your relatives and friends is equivalent to giving money to you.
This kind of person spends extravagantly in advance, or spends unwisely, but in the end, relatives and friends pay for them.
If you don't help them, they will think you are unkind and even feel resentful. If you help them, then you don’t have to pay for their consumption, so do you pay for it? And if you give all your money to help, who will pay for you when you are in crisis?
So, how do you think people’s hearts become cold and thin?
