When people reach middle age, they have experienced the ups and downs and ups and downs of the world, and they have become very open-minded and transparent about many things. As we get older, friends in the workplace gradually drift apart. As his health deteriorated, friends with

When people reach middle age, they have experienced the ups and downs and ups and downs of the world, and they have become very open-minded and transparent about many things. As we get older, friends in the workplace gradually drift apart. As his health deteriorated, friends with interests in the business world and fair-weather friends also waved goodbye.

Only the brotherhood between brothers and sisters will not be alienated by the distance of time and space. Especially after the death of some elderly parents, brotherhood is very important. However, every adult is an independent individual. Even if there is deep brotherhood, there must be boundaries, and there are three points where you have to pretend to be confused.

, when it comes to the marriage of children between brothers and sisters, do not come up with ideas or deal with it in a confused manner.

There are many families with many brothers and sisters, and they all have the habit of family gatherings. Some have dinner together once a month, and some have dinner together once a week. At such a gathering, everyone has a meal, chats about some interesting social anecdotes, gossips and entertainment, and finally breaks up laughing, which is a better result. Some family gatherings are used to discuss and decide on the marriages of their respective children.

Wang Hong has an only daughter. After finishing her graduate studies in Shanghai, she met a Korean. The two fell in love at first sight, and within half a year they were discussing marriage. Wang Hong and her husband strongly oppose cross-border marriages, but their daughter is very confrontational with them. She even refused to answer her phone calls, and Wang Hong's blood pressure increased in anger.

At a family gathering, Wang Hong complained to her two brothers and sister. Asking them for help and giving advice, the brothers and sisters were also very angry after hearing this. They finally united their minds and went to South Korea to kidnap their niece back to the country. Let her daughter work as a white-collar worker in her uncle's company, and her second uncle and aunt will be responsible for introducing her new boyfriend.

After the family gathering was disbanded, Wang Hong and his wife, eight people including his brother, sister-in-law, sister and brother-in-law formed a relatives alliance and went to South Korea to pursue their daughter. After arriving in South Korea, I found my daughter. When she saw how loud her mother was, she wiped her tears angrily and shouted, "Mom, Dad, I am an adult and have the right to decide my own marriage. It is illegal for you to interfere with my marriage."

"My child, don't be so willful. Your parents are doing this for your own good. You are married so far away. If you meet someone who is unreliable, or domestically abuses you, or you are bullied, how can we as a family help you?" You?" The two uncles tried to persuade her while forcefully packing their daughter's luggage and putting it in the car.

How could a weak woman resist the strong pull of eight people, even though her daughter’s boyfriend also begged and vowed to be good to her daughter. However, Wang Hong and her brothers and sisters were incompatible with each other and broke up the lovers. Wang Hong believes that what is good for her daughter is that a large family can help her, and someone in her natal family is very confident.

However, she never thought that the strong and twisted melon would not be sweet. From the moment she left South Korea, her daughter became dull-eyed and unresponsive. After returning home, she locked herself in the house and let Wang Hong cry and beg her daughter to open the door. Later, Wang Hong and his wife invited a doctor to see their daughter. After diagnosis, the doctor said: "Your daughter is suffering from depressive neurosis. You must pay attention to educating her. If the disease is serious, she will commit suicide."

After listening to this, Wang Hong sat on the ground and cried loudly. While beating herself up for being stupid, she resented her brothers and sisters for not reminding her at critical moments. Later, after her brothers and sisters learned about the child's condition, they also regretted it. Those involved are confused but onlookers are clear. When encountering this kind of thing, don't get involved in it. It is clear that there is a difference of opinion between the child and the parents. Time is the best proof. Let the family resolve it by themselves. The involvement of outsiders will only make things more rigid, and even make it impossible to clean up the mess.

, money exchanges between brothers and sisters should be done within their capabilities. The more you show off your strength, the more trouble you will get into.

For most of a person's life, apart from the relationship between husband and wife and children, there is only the relationship between brother and sister. There are many people who value brotherhood even more than the friendship between husband and wife. They would rather give their siblings their private money than tell the person next to them. Li Ping is such a person. They have five brothers and sisters, and she is the third. There are two brothers at the top and two sisters at the bottom.

Li Ping has a very happy family. Her husband is the boss of a large company. She has not worked for more than 20 years and has become a full-time wife who controls her husband's finances. Among their siblings, she stands out. She arranged for her two brothers to work in her husband's company more than ten years ago, and her two sisters worked in state-owned enterprises with low incomes.

Over the years, her parents have been sick, hospitalized, buried and purchased a cemetery, etc. She has taken care of everything. In the words of her brothers: "My sister is lucky to have married a good husband. Those who can do it should work harder! If there is a problem at home, the richest person should pay for it. We, the brothers, have no ability and can't help it!"

's husband once reminded her: "There are five brothers and sisters. Even if your financial situation is good and your parents are sick and we pay more, they can't live without a penny! What's more, even if you try to be brave and give money, Will your parents approve of you? Will all their property be left to you?"

Li Ping disagreed with her husband's words. She always felt that the price she had paid for her brothers and sisters as a parent over the years was obvious to all. Since I have paid so much for my big family, my parents' old house should be left to me. With the ups and downs of the epidemic in the past few years, my husband's business has also declined like a cliff. Both brothers left for other companies two years ago and poached a lot of resources from their husbands.

results, after the parents were buried one after another. In the will, the old house was divided equally between the two brothers, and their savings were equally divided between the two sisters. Only Li Ping did not have any money. His father wrote in his will: "Li Ping has a good economy, so don't fight with your brothers and sisters."

Li Ping was so angry that she sat on the ground, puzzled. Even if she had a good economy, it was all earned by her husband. Her parents gave birth to five children, and they all had a share. However, she contributed so much to the family and ended up with no cents. How is this fair? In the final analysis, I am usually too competitive and pushy.

When there are disputes and conflicts between brothers and sisters, do not be a peacemaker. It is best to pretend to be confused.

In fact, there will always be conflicts between people, and the upper teeth will collide with the lower teeth. What's more, how can there be no conflicts and disputes between people? Because of this, some unpleasant disputes are inevitable between brothers and sisters.

Zhang Juan has two younger brothers, and they usually get along well with each other. But when the parents pass away and the inheritance is divided, it is obvious that the younger brother gets more benefits. The reason is that the younger brother and his wife both work part-time, their jobs are unstable, and they have twin sons. His parents left the old house to him and shared the savings equally between Zhang Juan and Da Di. The distribution plan of

caused great dissatisfaction to the eldest sister-in-law. At the family meeting, she criticized Sang and Huai, and made insinuations to vent her anger, pointing the finger directly at her younger brother and his wife. She thought that her parents must have been drunk by the third child and the other two, so they divided the family property so favorably. She was not convinced and asked Zhang Juan to seek justice and redistribute her parents' inheritance.

Zhang Juan went to the third child and the couple to make peace. Unexpectedly, as soon as she opened her mouth, the younger sister-in-law burst into tears: "Sister, the company where we work is going to lay off employees. The third child fell down that winter. He sprained and fractured his ankle. Although it was cured later, he still had some bumps when walking. He was included in the layoff list this time. You said that my two bachelor sons have not yet married, how can I, a woman, survive. What?"

After Zhang Juan learned about the situation, she went to Lao Er's house to explain and persuade her earnestly. Unexpectedly, the second daughter-in-law was even more eloquent and eloquent: "Sister, our parents have always been taken care of by us! In order to take care of our parents these years, we have not dared to go on business trips, and all the outing opportunities arranged by the unit have been given to others. No. We have decent performance and don’t have time to participate in various projects. We, a couple of senior engineers in , have never been able to pass . Those who are junior to us and have a shorter service life have solved the problem of professional titles. They are about to retire and they only have intermediate professional titles. You think we are wrong. Isn’t it unfair? Our parents were partial and gave the house to the third child. Who should we go to to explain our grievances? Only sister can provide justice.”

Zhang Juan tried to persuade her two brothers, but in the end things were not balanced. Still left with complaints.Both sisters-in-law said that she came to do her job because she received a favor from the other party. Zhang Juan was so angry that she had to eat coptis and felt miserable. In fact, how can such a thing be concluded? Everyone has his own reasons and his own words. As a sister, it is best to remain silent and pretend to be confused! Since your parents have left a will, those who are dissatisfied can go to court and sue. Don't be a peacemaker.

ends: In fact, everyone has a steelyard in their mind. They always use their own standards to measure others, thinking that they have suffered a loss and others have taken advantage. At this time, this situation cannot be balanced to produce results. Depending on the angle and height of the station, the final conclusion will be different. It is difficult for an honest official to settle family matters, let alone between brothers and sisters. If the water is clear, there will be no fish. It is rare for people to be confused, and they will be as wise as fools.