Article | Girls Ziwei have the same good-looking skin, but interesting souls. The biggest difference between love and marriage is that the former is to choose the right person to get married among millions of people, while the latter is to choose the right person to get married a

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Good-looking skins are all the same, but interesting souls are all the same

The biggest difference between love and marriage is that the former is to choose the right person to get married among millions of people, while the latter is, After entering into marriage, no matter how brilliant and dazzling the colorful world outside is, there is only room for one person in the heart.

The bottom line of marriage is absolute loyalty. The so-called sincerity is exchanged for sincerity. If you make a mistake, you can forgive it. Then, a loyal marriage becomes worthless. If no one restrains themselves, the marriage will be chaotic.

The wife slept with someone else, and the husband "refunded" 20,000 yuan.

Event review: The beautifully dressed woman in front of me is named Wang Shanshan (pseudonym). She is 27 years old. The man who is busy beside her is her Husband Qian Weili (pseudonym); The husband was born in a rural family. Because he can endure hardships, the couple’s combined monthly income is tens of thousands of yuan;

Logically speaking, Qian Weili has worked for ten years and has a few savings. One hundred thousand, but now the savings in the bank card are not much, and even now the marriage has become in danger.

When the mediator came to the couple, his wife Wang Shanshan confessed to the mediator on the spot that she had betrayed the marriage: "I made a mistake. I had a relationship with another man."

After hearing Wang Shanshan's confession, the mediator I was very surprised , because generally people who have extramarital affairs will feel ashamed of themselves and will never admit it. However, when the mediator asked Wang Shanshan why she made it so easy to talk about extramarital affairs,

Wang Shanshan said shockingly again: "I'm not afraid anymore, my heart feels bright," I dared to say.

At this moment, her husband Qian Weili, who was busy at the side, said : "She said that if you have someone you like outside, you can do this."

Literal meaning is that if Qian Weili has a woman he likes outside, it is also allowed. Betrayal of marriage and engage in extramarital affairs; such a couple and such a marriage are probably rare among the audience.

Later, her husband Qian Weili said angrily : "My wife slept with someone, but I was detained for more than ten days and paid 20,000 yuan."

Upon hearing Qian Weili's words, the mediator was immediately stunned. , my daughter-in-law was slept with, and she didn’t ask for any money, so why did she still pay 20,000 yuan? Under further questioning, the couple told the story of the incident.

It turns out that one time, my wife Wang Shanshan had an affair with someone else’s husband in a hotel, and was caught by the other person’s wife. Afterwards, my wife Wang Shanshan and the wife of the “third party” got into a fight. The women fought, and the two parties pulled each other’s hair. He is not forgiving with his words.

At that time, her husband Qian Weili couldn't bear it anymore. Seeing that his wife was being bullied, he helped his wife teach the wife of the "third party" a lesson. Because of his misstep, he sent the other party's wife to the hospital. The total cost of compensation + fighting was 20,000 yuan.

It is not difficult to see that Qian Weili loved his wife Wang Shanshan. However, after the incident, his wife did not repent or return to the family. Instead, she continued to live with other men outside and bought all daily necessities such as pots and pans.

So, as a wife, why did Wang Shanshan refuse to change despite repeated admonitions, giving up a complete family and betraying her marriage?

Regarding this issue, his wife Wang Shanshan explained: "He has not given me a penny in the past two months."

To be honest, if you betray your marriage for this reason, you will obviously not be able to convince the public.

The wife claims she doesn’t want a man, but the husband: If you have enough to eat outside, you won’t want a man at home.

Just when the wife was defending her cheating, her husband Qian Weili mentioned a key point in the breakdown of the marriage.

Qian Weili said to the mediator: "She and I are so young, and we need to live together. I just need to touch her at night, and she immediately runs to another room and sleeps in a separate bed with me. She tells me "It's okay if she doesn't want a man."

Just after saying this, Qian Weili became more arrogant and said angrily : "It's okay if you don't want a man, but you don't want to steal a man. If you're full outside, you won't want one at home." ,"

Regarding her husband's remarks, his wife Wang Shanshan did not feel ashamed at all, but took it for granted. Her attitude seemed to be saying, "I just like people from outside, what can you do to me?"

Seeing her wife's attitude? , the mediator quickly asked Wang Shanshan whether she respected her husband in her heart. After hearing this, Qian Weili immediately interjected. He claimed that his wife was not at all guilty of what he had done, but had In front of the neighbors, she said that she only had a "third party" in her heart, and that she had caused the "third party" to suffer.

However, Wang Shanshan’s only excuse for her crime turned people on her side. Wang Shanshan revealed that her husband Qian Weili loved playing cards and had lost 600,000 to 700,000 in playing cards over the years.

In this regard, Qian Weili also admitted the facts said by his wife.

Later, his wife Wang Shanshan said that since last year, she has cut off contact with the "third party" and wants to return to the family and give her son a complete home. However, her husband is still very cold and often talks about her cheating. Her sarcastic and insulting words made her very heartbroken.

After hearing his wife’s accusation, her husband Qian Weili said dissatisfied: “I have been married to her for 13 years, and she told me herself that the third person is a hundred times a thousand times better than me, and she still calls that man baby, even in 13 years. Call me once, and if she doesn't treat me as her husband, I won't treat her as my wife. For so many years, she hasn't even said the words "I love you" to me. Aren't I heartbroken? "

Secondly, Qian Weili also revealed that when his wife was in good terms with a third party, breakfast would always be delivered to the other party's bedside. It could be said that she loved him with every possible care. On the other hand, his wife had not treated Qian Weili once in 13 years.

It is true that love is mutual and hurt is mutual, and each has its own reasons. However, cheating is stepping on the red line of marriage. Doesn't it mean that you forgive it?

In the end, even under the mediation of the mediator, Qian Weili was still unwilling to forgive his wife, nor was he willing to accept his wife's return to the family. Even if he was seventy or eighty years old and closed his eyes, he would not forgive his wife.

Author's emotional summary

To be honest, after watching this episode of the mediation program, I personally still support the man Qian Weili's approach. It's not that he is unfeeling, but that his former wife Wang Shanshan was too unfeeling.

I would like to ask, a 13-year relationship between husband and wife is worse than an extramarital affair. Which man can bear it? You used to be indifferent to me, but now, even if your relationship is bad, the other person cannot reach you; indeed, if you betray your marriage, just admit your mistake and say a few words. Apologizing will put the past mistakes aside, and there is no cost for making mistakes. Then, everyone can make mistakes.

In fact, many people who have extramarital affairs thought that if they were discovered in the early days, the most painful thing would be divorce. However, as everyone knows, extramarital affairs are the most painful. The tragedy is not divorce, but that you will have nothing, and your family and loved ones will be resentful. This pain may stay with you for the rest of your life, making you regret it.

Therefore, do not cross the bottom line of morality and marriage for the sake of temporary passion.