When a man and woman decide to get married, it means that they are about to undergo an identity change, that is, from a man/woman to a husband/wife. The two people will support and take care of each other in the future life. Let’s run the small family better and better together.
Especially after the child is born, both parties have to face the change of becoming parents. Although the pressure becomes greater, only in such a growth process can the couple become more and more mature and possess more abilities. Responsibility and responsibility.
However, there are also some couples who cannot adapt to the changes in their status. After entering marriage, not only can they not work together with their spouses, but they also only want to live a free life. Such immature ideas can easily destroy family construction, lead to conflicts between husband and wife, and may even lead to a terrible marital crisis.
Ms. Liu, 35, met 44-year-old Mr. Zhu after being introduced. Because Mr. Zhu was kind and caring to Ms. Liu, Ms. Liu quickly developed a liking for this man and married him not long after.
Not long after their marriage, their daughter was born. What’s even more surprising is that Mr. Zhu’s family was facing expropriation, and their small house was turned into a six-story building of 2,000 square meters. Because the economic conditions have greatly improved and her young daughter needs someone to take care of her, Mr. Zhu suggested that Ms. Liu quit her job at the bar and become a housewife at home.
Logically speaking, Mr. Zhu is responsible for making money outside to support the family, and Ms. Liu is responsible for taking care of the housework. This way, each of them can perform their own duties and run this small family well. But what people never expected is that Mr. Zhu is here. Soon after, he claimed that Ms. Liu was having an affair, and not only kicked her out of the house, but also said that he wanted to divorce her.
When asked by reporters, Mr. Zhu seemed extremely angry. In his opinion, this was not because he was being unreasonable, but because Ms. Liu had gone too far! Since they met, I have always been very good to Ms. Liu. I will try my best to meet her needs and want to live a good life with her. However, Ms. Liu is obviously already married and has ambiguous relationships with other men. No husband can tolerate this.
But Ms. Liu explained that this was all Mr. Zhu’s fault. Because Mr. Zhu didn't let her go out to work or play cards, she was too bored to take care of the baby at home alone, so she thought of talking to this old friend. They were just ordinary friends, and there was no such thing as Mr. Zhu's so-called relationship. Talk about an affair.
In Ms. Liu’s view, she used to work in a bar and had a relatively outgoing personality. She usually liked to go out and have fun. However, after getting married, Mr. Zhu was too strict with herself. Not only did she force herself to resign, but he also wanted to get her. Around the family. She was not very good at doing housework, nor was she good at taking care of children, so her life at home seemed particularly miserable. It was rare for her to have a friend to chat with, and Mr. Zhu couldn't understand it, which really made her feel very wronged.
After hearing what Ms. Liu said, Mr. Zhu became even more angry: The daughter at home is only 2 years old, and it is the time when adults need to take careful care of her. However, Ms. Liu is either busy chatting with men or secretly going out to play cards with others. Her daughter often It was bruised and bruised, which was really heartbreaking to see. What's more, Ms. Liu didn't even bother to cook for fun, so she had to cook herself after being tired all day outside. How could she be like a wife?
In Mr. Zhu’s view, it is not impossible for Ms. Liu to like playing cards, but now that her daughter is so young, she must take care of her as the top priority. It is not too late to wait until her daughter is four or five years old to play cards. Moreover, it is very hard for me to make money outside. When I come back, I hope to see a clean home and have a hot meal. But it turns out that Ms. Liu is lazier than me and even has to wait for him to serve me. How can I live this life? ?
At the beginning, Mr. Zhu also thought that Ms. Liu might be too young and just stopped playing.Unexpectedly, instead of restraining herself, Ms. Liu got even worse. Not only did she go out to play cards every day, but she also frequently contacted men outside, and she could only do household chores. Disappointed, he took advantage of Ms. Liu's opportunity to play cards and changed the door lock. She kicked out of the house.
To be honest, which man doesn’t want his wife and children to be on the hot bed, and the family of three to be reunited? It's just that Mr. Zhu gave Ms. Liu too many opportunities, and Ms. Liu also let him down time and time again, so he made up his mind to divorce and wanted to make a clean break with this unruly woman.
Seeing that Mr. Zhu was showing his true feelings, Ms. Liu became a little scared. She could not let go of the relationship between husband and wife over the years, nor could she let go of the financial conditions of the Zhu family, and she did not want her young daughter to lose her mother early. Faced with Mr. Zhu's insistence on divorce, Ms. Liu could only plead, and the staff quickly stepped forward to persuade him. Mr. Zhu was concerned about their relationship and asked Ms. Liu to make a promise: would stop playing cards in the near future, and sever contact with the man outside, and focus on raising her daughter at home from now on.
Ms. Liu nodded in agreement and emphasized that "she has always regarded her daughter as very important." She only hoped that in the days to come, she could prove it with her actual actions!
In fact, Ms. Liu is a person who did not switch roles after marriage. Although she is a wife and mother, she still yearns for a free life without considering the feelings of her husband and daughter.
In her opinion, there is no problem if she likes to play, and there is no problem with men outside. On the contrary, there is a problem with her husband's strict management of her. It was precisely because she was so depressed that she urgently needed a channel for release. As for whether her daughter would fall or whether her husband could eat on time, how important was her own happiness?
But what she doesn’t know is that marriage must be run by both husband and wife, and they must be considerate and respectful of each other. If you blindly put your own happiness above the happiness of the family, not only will you not be able to help your spouse solve their problems, but you will also cause him more trouble. If you make things difficult for him, even the best relationship will eventually collapse completely.
For Ms. Liu, if she wants to continue to live a free and comfortable life, then she should not get involved in marriage; now that she has chosen marriage, she must accept her new role, make relevant mental adjustments, and learn to stand in her husband's perspective. Bit of thinking.
Like Ms. Liu said, if you are not very good at doing housework or taking care of children, you should learn from others with an open mind; if you live a depressing life and no one complains, you can also find friends of the same sex to chat; as for life that is too boring, you can also expand it through You can develop hobbies at home to pass the time, but leaving your daughter at home to go out to play cards is really not what a mother who "takes her daughter very seriously" would do.
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