Text / Achnatherum splendens It is rare in a person's life to meet a person who loves each other. In this world, there is not no love that is equal and mutually agreeable, but it can be considered a minority. Love often has a humble side. It is difficult to achieve true equality

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In a person's life, it is rare to meet someone you love. In this world, there is not no love that is equal and mutually agreeable, but it can be considered a minority.

Love often has a humble side. It is difficult to achieve true equality between men and women. In a relationship between the sexes, the person who humbles himself for love will find it difficult to be happy in love. Although he or she may think he or she is happy, in fact, there is a big gap between the happiness he or she understands and true happiness.

Why can't two people be equal in love? There are many reasons for this.

People who want to be humble for love also have their own reasons. For example, the following four factors.

★Incapable

People who are incapable and have no confidence are most likely to become the weakest party in love. This is a natural phenomenon.

People without ability often have to rely on those who have ability. In other words, in love, people who are incapable have a mentality of looking up to capable lovers.

This has been the case since ancient times, the strong is always the victor. The same is true in love. The better you are, the more dominant you can be.

Because a capable and confident person can survive without anyone, and he or she does not have to depend on anyone. This is the courage that comes with him or her.

People who are incompetent and have no confidence simply lack the ability to survive. This makes it impossible for him or her to tilt their emotions to their own side without any justification.

So if you look at the men and women in reality, the one who is incompetent must be humble in the relationship between the sexes.

★ No self-confidence

People who have no self-confidence also have their reasons. Or he (she) just doesn't have the ability, or he (she) doesn't have excellent external conditions.

These two are very important keys to a person's self-confidence.

A man told me that he used to have very low self-esteem and did not even dare to think about finding a wife. The reason was that he was too short. A man who is less than 1.6 meters tall is indeed not very able to attract the attention of women.

So he had low self-esteem and thought he would never be able to marry a wife in this life. Fortunately, later on, he became famous through writing and gained a little accumulation, and then he married a daughter-in-law from the countryside.

But even so, he still feels unconfident in front of his wife, because she is taller than him and has a bigger temper than him. Even though he is married, he is still the humble one because he cannot quarrel with his wife and is always afraid that she will not want him.

This mentality has been with him for many years.

★ No money

For men, having no money is a pain point for him. Because when looking for a partner, women tend to pay more attention to whether he has money.

Love in reality is utilitarian. Unless a man who is too poor is very good, it will be difficult for him to get into the eyes of women. Of course

is not absolute, but the reality is roughly the same.

Especially those men who have no money, if they marry a rich wife, they will not be able to hold their heads high in the marriage. In front of their wives, they may not dare to show off.

Rich women are stronger, but there are also men without money who are willing to give in for money. In reality, money is always a good thing.

Although money is not everything, nothing can be done without money. Therefore, whether you have money or not also determines who is superior and who is humble in a relationship.

★ No self-esteem

Some people say that people can have no money, but they cannot have no spine.

But some people say, how much is integrity worth?

Integrity is also the backbone of a person. If a person lacks backbone and self-esteem, not only will others look down on him or her, but his or her humbleness in love will also be looked down upon by his or her partner.

People who have no self-respect will not be respected by their partners. Although it is not shameful to be humble for love, you must know that humble love can never bring true happiness.

is like a woman who follows a man without any status for the sake of so-called love. Do you think that man really loves her?

True love is to give her equal respect and give her the corresponding status. Therefore, if you are not humble, he (she) will be grateful and love you with his (her) life. That is absolutely impossible.

So, I do not advocate being humble for love. All humble love is unfair and irrational. Love actually requires equality, equality and matching. Only in this way can a relationship be sustained for a long time.