Don't use a person's external performance as the basis for judgment. In love, a person's behavior, attitude, way of doing things, outlook on life and even emotions can be faked. And when you lack the ability to judge, it is difficult to judge.
China's average divorce rate in 2021 is 39.33%, which means that for every 10 couples who get married, 4 couples will divorce, and the divorce rate has increased for 16 consecutive years! Many problems exposed after marriage are actually caused by "inaccurate knowledge of people".
10 ways to teach you to see your partner clearly before marriage
1 and observe his behavior and emotions when he is at a low point in his life.
When a person is in a difficult moment in life, such as business failure, serious illness, death of someone around him, unemployment, lovelorn, divorce, etc. Pay special attention to the emotions and personality during this period, and the weaknesses will be revealed. Basically, you can know what kind of person he is and what his outlook is.
2. How you deal with negative things (doubts, disappointments, and problems) is a reliable predictor of whether a marriage will survive.
Negative factors have a particularly serious impact on people. Especially before marriage, find opportunities for both parties to experience some difficult moments together and see how the other party does it. How does the other party react in the face of various difficulties, emotional lows, and difficult moments in life? Faced and dealt with, this is the moment to understand the other party's true character and qualities.
3. The way the other parent gets along and their outlook on life.
The first person most people observe and imitate when it comes to love is their parents. The way their parents get along can easily affect this person's outlook on life. Although it may not be exactly the same, you should observe it more carefully. Parents have a harmonious relationship, respect each other, and have deep feelings. Children are usually more confident. Left-behind children should be considered separately.
4. Don’t get married in the short term.
When you are passionately in love, your brain will be affected by hormones. You will see all the advantages and ignore the shortcomings. At the same time, you will also show your advantages and hide your shortcomings. It is best if two people live together for a period of time, and all kinds of shortcomings will be exposed. Don't try to change each other for these shortcomings, consider whether you can accept them and work with each other.
5. After two people have been together for a period of time, do they have similar personalities and temperaments?
Whether this relationship can make you feel comfortable, enjoy and grow, or is it full of stress, anxiety and consumption? A good love relationship should have more and more positive effects, not the opposite. Even if you love each other again, if being together is full of stress, anxiety, quarrels, and all kinds of caution, there is something wrong with the relationship.
6, concept of money.
If two people have different concepts about money, they will easily have conflicts after getting married, which will affect the quality of the marriage.
7. Observe his best friends.
One of the main reasons why people and animals flock together and become good friends is that they have similar outlooks. If the other person's good friends have good character and personality, he may also be good. On the contrary, if his friends have shortcomings in character and character, you should also be careful about whether he hides anything from you.
8. How and his attitude towards his subordinates or people who are not as good as him.
In life, pay attention to the attitude and tone of the other person towards some service groups, such as express delivery, service staff, and cleaners. If he cares about everything and is unwilling to give in, try to stay away.
9. Observe his hobbies and methods.
has many interests and hobbies that can intuitively reflect life. The most common ones are chess and Go. When a person is immersed in it for a long time, the quality of the game (cards, chess) is the character, which cannot be hidden.
10. Look at two people’s attitudes towards marriage and family.
If you find someone who has a very indifferent attitude towards marriage and family, then it is very likely that you will face the dilemma of "widowed parenting" in the future. A person with a weak concept of family will have a hard time understanding your role in family life. Not easy.
