If you are destined to meet me thousands of miles away, please click "Follow" in the upper right corner. "No, no, I have a pension. Save some money and spend enough to live on." Mom put the money back into her arms. This is a scenario my mother and I often play out.

We are destined to meet each other from thousands of miles away, please click "Follow" in the upper right corner

"No, no, I have a pension, just save it and spend enough to live." Mom put the money back into her arms.

This is a scenario that my mother and I often play out.

"Both of you are working part-time now. You can't make much money. You also have to raise children, pay for training, pay off car loans, house loans, and your father-in-law just passed away. Don't give me money. I have enough to spend."

The clothes still look big. I can’t express how sad I am about what my mother said about the clothes I bought from the year before last.

01

I am 42 years old this year, and I have a very homely personality. I was the same when I was young. I like to stay at home all day,

reading, writing, and even going out to climb mountains alone. Because of this,

didn’t have many friends, and he was still unmarried when he was almost 30 years old.

couldn’t stand the judgment of others, so he married a male colleague from the countryside.

Because both of us had to go to work, we thought about letting my mother-in-law come down to see the children.

But after my mother-in-law came down, on the one hand, my lifestyle was different from hers, and I was full of emotions.

On the other hand, my mother-in-law also brought her eldest brother's child from her hometown.

Her thoughts were all on her eldest brother's child.

Because I gave birth to a girl and my husband’s eldest brother was a boy.

Once, I went to see a doctor.

She left my 2-month-old baby at home and went to pick up her fourth-grade child from school.

As a mother, I feel aggrieved. I have never been a smart or powerful person,

so I can’t think of any good solution.

I can only hold the crying and gasping girl tightly, my own girl. It hurts me,

Just when I was about to resign, my mother extended a helping hand.

She said it was too risky to put the whole family on one person,

and he was a person from a rural area with no ability.

02

Later, when the child was 2 years and 7 months old, my eldest sister-in-law became pregnant.

My natal mother asked me to take the child back and tell her that it was also her responsibility to tell my eldest brother about the child.

I understand.

Fortunately, the child can go to kindergarten soon.

asked himself to go offline and work shifts , and his husband and he began to live a life of taking care of the children in two shifts.

Now think about it, what kind of days were those?

Every day when I open my eyes, I cook, pick up the children, dress them, coax them to feed them, and send them to kindergarten.

I often rush to work without even eating a morsel of food.

Every time, he is the last one to rush to the credit card machine .

is also the first one to rush out of the office after get off work.

However, even though he rushes to the kindergarten, the child he picks up every time is the last child in the class.

She was sitting alone in the reception room. When

saw me, she ran towards me happily with her little hands open.

never blamed me for picking her up in the end.

For so many years, every time I think of that scene, I burst into tears.

A few years have passed, the children have grown up, and life has become easier.

03

I often go back to my parents' home and see the changes in my mother. Either there are a few more silver hairs,

the backpack is a little bigger, or there is an extra spot on the face.

I asked her: Why don't you put on the clothes I bought for her?

She always answered with a smile: You are doing housework at home, save it for going out.

I secretly gave her 1,000 yuan,

but she collected another 1,000 yuan, giving me a total of 2,000 yuan.

My mother said: I have a pension, you buy all the clothes at home, and even the phone bill is yours. Out of pocket,

retired people are of little use, but the training fees for your children are a lot of living expenses for the two of you.

I know you all work part-time. Your family is from a rural area, so there are plenty of places to spend your money!

I don’t want to give it to her, no matter what, I have to give it to her.

She was angry: It depends on how you dress, you don’t know how to buy a few sets of clothes to wear!

Whenever I hear my mother say these words, I feel very sad. Her mother still loves her.

She is worried that her child will not have an easy life, but she does not see her own contribution.

Every time, I grit my teeth and think that I must make more money and be successful.

Otherwise, parents will be embarrassed and make them worried.

So, after retirement, is it too much to ask your son and daughter to each give you 1,000 yuan for living expenses?

Actually, this depends on the situation of each family.

Some elderly people feel sorry for their children, so they live frugally and stay close to their children's homes, and will not ask for their children's money at all.

Some old people are in good health and can still go out to work. They can support themselves enough and don’t ask their children to provide money.

But there are some old people who have pensions and are not high, but they travel around and play mahjong. They are silver-haired and moonlighting people.

They will ask their children to subsidize points for them, and these parents who don’t think much about their children are often children.

won't do well either, and I wonder if the elderly can help them supplement their income.

There is also a variety of poor health, such as chronic diseases, work-related illnesses...

Usually the pension is not enough for medical treatment and living. At this time, it is understandable if you ask your children to subsidize some money.

04 is written at the end:

After retirement, you must consider whether your son or daughter should provide living expenses.

Your health is not bad. You don’t have to go out to work, so you can exercise well by yourself.

Plan carefully to live a good life as an old couple. There is no reason to ask for help. The child won't reach out to pick it up.

Of course, if you really have any difficulties and can't move your money away, don't feel like asking your children for living expenses.

Even if it is shameful, after all, you have raised them and only received 1,000 yuan, which will not put any burden on the children.

didn't dare to fall down because there were children behind him!

dare not escape because there are parents in front of it! this is life!

For the sake of parents and children, one must work hard and be strong.

still needs to work hard.

-END-

Do you think it is too much to give your children 1,000 yuan a month after retirement?

Every time, I grit my teeth and think that I must make more money and be successful.

Otherwise, parents will be embarrassed and make them worried.

So, after retirement, is it too much to ask your son and daughter to each give you 1,000 yuan for living expenses?

Actually, this depends on the situation of each family.

Some elderly people feel sorry for their children, so they live frugally and stay close to their children's homes, and will not ask for their children's money at all.

Some old people are in good health and can still go out to work. They can support themselves enough and don’t ask their children to provide money.

But there are some old people who have pensions and are not high, but they travel around and play mahjong. They are silver-haired and moonlighting people.

They will ask their children to subsidize points for them, and these parents who don’t think much about their children are often children.

won't do well either, and I wonder if the elderly can help them supplement their income.

There is also a variety of poor health, such as chronic diseases, work-related illnesses...

Usually the pension is not enough for medical treatment and living. At this time, it is understandable if you ask your children to subsidize some money.

04 is written at the end:

After retirement, you must consider whether your son or daughter should provide living expenses.

Your health is not bad. You don’t have to go out to work, so you can exercise well by yourself.

Plan carefully to live a good life as an old couple. There is no reason to ask for help. The child won't reach out to pick it up.

Of course, if you really have any difficulties and can't move your money away, don't feel like asking your children for living expenses.

Even if it is shameful, after all, you have raised them and only received 1,000 yuan, which will not put any burden on the children.

didn't dare to fall down because there were children behind him!

dare not escape because there are parents in front of it! this is life!

For the sake of parents and children, one must work hard and be strong.

still needs to work hard.

-END-

Do you think it is too much to give your children 1,000 yuan a month after retirement?