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Ibsen " A Doll's House ": " Now I only believe that first of all, I am a person, a person like you, at least I have to learn to be a person. "

Some people from the beginning to the end In the end, they don’t know how to be a human being. Some people forget that they are human beings because they are controlled by others. No matter what the situation is, it is quite sad if you lose the rights and equality that you should have as a human being.

For example, a mother-in-law who only wants to scheme against her daughter-in-law in a marriage is a person who doesn't know how to behave. If a daughter-in-law who is plotted by her mother-in-law accepts everything, she has forgotten that she is a human being and has not fought for the equality she deserves.

In contrast, the former is even more pathetic, because she has never thought about "whether I can stop plotting against my daughter-in-law"; the latter's sadness is only temporary, because when she is desperate, she will remember that she is a human being again.

Generally speaking, a completely tragic figure is someone who never changes. If no one guides them, or they themselves never wake up, their tragedy is doomed, such as the mother-in-law of the reader below.

Letter from readers:

The meaning of marriage should be to achieve a person's success and to allow a person to live a better life than when he was single. If a marriage does not have such value, there is no need to exist..

It’s a pity that I didn’t understand this truth before I got married. I always cared about other people’s opinions. People around me said that I had reached the marriageable age and it was time to get married and have children. I didn’t dare to go against this voice, so I just kept silent. Married in confusion.

After getting married, I continued to care about other people’s opinions, among which my mother-in-law’s opinions had the greatest impact on me.

When she eats my food, drinks my food, and spends my money, she always has some "reasonable" excuses to beautify her calculations against me as a matter of course. Every time, she never forgets to add: "If If you don’t do this, you are not considered a good daughter-in-law.”

I thought that as long as I played the role of a good daughter-in-law according to her requirements, I could sit back and relax, but I didn’t know that my mother-in-law’s greed has no end. However, the money in my hand is limited. She used her unlimited desires to calculate my limited property, and the result is self-evident. I soon ran out of money.

I had no money, and in my mother-in-law's opinion, it was of no use and no longer a cash cow, so she decided to burn bridges and encourage her son to divorce me and marry another one, so that she could continue her plan.

Although her son was foolish and filial, he still cherished the old relationship to some extent. Because he did not want me to live too hard after the divorce, he voluntarily left the house and gave me all his little property.

This matter is a secret between us. My mother-in-law didn't know about it at first, so she celebrated her son's divorce with great fanfare after our divorce: "My son is finally divorced, and I am happier than him!"

Originally I didn't want to make it public. My ex-husband and I had a secret, but I was really angry that my mother-in-law posted on WeChat Moments to celebrate the divorce, so I made the secret public in a fit of anger: "What's so fun about leaving home alone! Do you really think your son will obey you? Don't be stupid , he is very dissatisfied with you just like me. This is a very bad sign for you. If you don't change your attitude, he will accumulate more and more dissatisfaction with you, and you will not be able to escape retribution. "

My original intention in saying this was to take revenge on her, but I didn't expect that the result was more serious than I expected. When she learned that her son had left the house, she had no time to pay attention to me and ran to settle the score with her son. As I said before, her son was already angry with her and dared not speak out. She would just add fuel to the fire by seeking to settle a score with him, so the mother and son had a complete falling out.

My ex-husband is still young and would live a better life without my mother-in-law.But my mother-in-law is no longer young and can no longer make money through her son's marriage. Her quality of life has plummeted, and she has also suffered a great mental blow. She complains like a resentful woman all day long, but it does not change her old and helpless situation.

This may be retribution. I said before that she couldn't escape and complained just out of anger. I didn't expect that she actually suffered retribution. It seems that I am right. People who treat marriage as a child's play, whether it is one of the spouses or both parents, will not escape retribution. Anyone who does not believe in evil can try it, but after suffering retribution, there is no turning back. Can go .

Donglin Xiting Emotional Suggestions:

Treating marriage as a child's play is a bit general. Specifically speaking: people who treat marriage as a transaction, people who calculate their children or their children's significant other, and people who destroy marriages for their own selfish interests. , are all people who take marriage as a child's play.

From the perspective of cause and effect, the above things that should not be done are all "evil causes". Once these seeds are sown, they will definitely take root and sprout, and one day bear "evil results" .

Maybe marriage itself will not punish you, but your mentality, concepts and thinking will lead you to a point of no return, which will sooner or later make you desperate.

The reader's mother-in-law ended up like this. She thought it was her daughter-in-law who was scheming, and as long as her son was colluding with her, she would always be the winner. Little does she know that her son is actually a variable. If this variable suddenly changes sides, she will definitely be punished and cannot escape retribution.

Can’t she ask herself to be a good mother-in-law? sure! Why didn't she make herself a good mother-in-law? This is related to her long-term value orientation. In the final analysis, it is she who has the problem..

Although tracing the origins of each mother-in-law, we can find the root cause of their evil deeds. Some may be the result of external influence, but they themselves cannot escape the blame. No matter what, they all had the opportunity to be good people, but they just gave up the opportunity to be good people. There's nothing you can do about it. It's impossible for you to do evil yourself and still want everyone to be happy.

If other mothers-in-law can follow her example and seriously reflect on themselves, they may become good mothers-in-law. As the saying goes, "One thought of heaven, one thought of hell." Only you have the final say on who you are and what kind of person you will become. If you give up being your own master and follow the crowd and imitate others and become a bad person, you will really deserve the retribution.