Preface:
Some people think that after retirement, you should enjoy the quiet days. You don’t have to rush to work every day or squeeze into the bus. Doing things that interest you every day is also the best time in your life. It’s true. Is that so? Aunt Lin said that life after retirement is too difficult. What is going on? Let’s take a look together!
The 58-year-old Aunt Lin said:
My first husband is a very scumbag man. He is very lazy, he also likes gambling, and he doesn’t care about the family at all. When I lived with him, I really felt aggrieved. , I worry about everything at home. I obviously have a husband, but it’s like I don’t have a husband. Once, my child got sick, and then I went to see my husband. I wanted my husband to accompany me to take the child to see a doctor, but my husband At that time, he was busy drinking and ignored me at all. He also thought that I was affecting his drinking. Seeing him like that, I was really disappointed, so I took the child to the hospital by myself. Fortunately, I went The hospital arrived promptly and the child was fine. He received some injections and returned home.
After experiencing that incident, I was completely disappointed in my husband. I used to have illusions about him. After experiencing that incident, I have no illusions about him at all. He didn’t even care about his own child getting sick. Such a man is really unreliable, so I divorced him.
After my husband and I divorced, I lived alone with my children. Fortunately, my mother helped me at that time. She usually helped me with my children, and then I could work outside with confidence. In those years, life was It's very hard, but with my son by my side, all the pain is nothing.
When I was 50 years old, my grandson was born, and then I applied for early retirement from my employer because I wanted to help my daughter-in-law raise her grandson. At that time, I thought it was very easy to raise a child, but when After I actually took care of my grandson, I realized that it was not easy to take care of a child. My daughter-in-law is very difficult to get along with. She especially likes to find faults. She always feels that I am not doing a good job. She will dislike me for not washing the clothes cleanly and dislike me. If the floor was not cleaned, she would also dislike the food I cooked. She would show off to me when she was in a bad mood. When I lived in their house, I felt particularly aggrieved.
Once I was sick, and then I told my daughter-in-law that I wanted her to take a day off, because I was too unwell and could not take care of my grandson. Unexpectedly, my daughter-in-law scolded me for being ignorant. She said that I would be deducted for taking leave. , and asked me to endure it, seeing my daughter-in-law like that really made me feel very chilled.
I felt so sick that day that I couldn’t eat anything and even fainted afterwards. My daughter-in-law came back from get off work and saw me lying on the ground. She also said that I was pretending to be sick and then cursed at me. I really I feel very helpless. I have put in a lot of effort, but in the end it ended like this.
In the dead of night, I often cry alone. I want to find someone to talk to, but I don’t have a wife. As a single woman, life after retirement is really difficult. If I had known that I would have found a man to remarry, if I had If I get remarried, there will still be someone with me, and life won't be so difficult.
Author's point of view:
After a woman retires at the age of 50, many people think it is easy. In fact, after retirement, it is the most difficult time for women. They are old and young. If their husbands have not retired, they have to take care of their husbands. They are a little bit It's not easy, and it would be even harder for a single woman. She needs to take care of two old people, and her grandson also needs her to take care of her. It's really helpless. I hope I can understand them better and don't make them sweat and shed tears.
