Some people think that a truly smart woman must know many principles of life or be able to run a good career and family, but this is not the case.
A wise woman is often reflected in her speech. When communicating with others, whether she speaks appropriately and emotionally, whether she communicates with high emotional intelligence can better reflect a woman's intelligence.
Many women are always obsessed with things that do not belong to them. Whether it is the other person's past relationship experience or his privacy, they want to find out the truth. Once they cannot reach the end, they will feel that the other person does not love them.
The result of this can only be a lose-lose situation. You feel unloved, and the other person feels disrespected. How can you maintain this relationship?
In fact, in a relationship, a truly smart woman can do "3 don't ask". She understands what kind of lifestyle is the most comfortable for herself.
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Don’t ask about the other person’s past
Most of the time, women will be entangled in the other person’s emotional experience. They know that those are things in the past, but they still want to know about it.
But not all men are willing to mention the past, especially unhappy memories, and he is even less willing to mention them. If you force him to tell you again and again, he will only be reluctant, and in the end both of you will be unhappy.
A smart woman knows how to avoid these minefields and will not easily ask about the other person’s past, let alone uncover these scars. She is willing to give the other person freedom. He will say what he wants to say when he wants to, and she won’t say what he doesn’t want to say. Won't ask.
And such women are often loved more by men. He feels that he is respected, and at the same time he is very grateful to her for not asking, so that he no longer faces those past.
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Don’t ask about each other’s private affairs
Everyone has his or her own secrets. If you don’t become a lover, you must let the other person know everything. As long as he doesn’t hide anything from you in matters of principle, then you will respect his. choose.
Some women will feel that since two people are together, he should not hide anything, but she forgets that everyone should have their own space. This is the most comfortable way to get along.
A woman with high emotional intelligence and who knows how to consider the other person will definitely not interfere in the other person's private affairs. Even if he wants to say something, she will listen selectively instead of asking him to be completely honest.
Knowing some things is not necessarily a good thing. Moderate blank space can actually make the relationship sweeter. Smart women know this truth.
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Don’t ask about money matters
Regarding money, everyone has their own opinions, especially in the process of love, who should spend the money, or how to distribute it, this is a problem.
For a smart woman, she is unwilling to ask about this matter. She understands that if the other party does not want her to know too much, then there must be some concerns, and then it is useless to ask, and it will only affect each other's relationship.
Of course, you still need to understand the basic situation, especially if you want to go to the end with him, you can't know nothing about money.
You just don’t need to ask too detailed questions. After all, you haven’t got a result yet. It’s over the line to keep asking about money matters.
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Conclusion
A smart woman knows what kind of feelings she wants, and she will not be too obsessed with things that do not belong to her.
Regarding the other person’s past, the past is past and will not come back again. Since you can’t change anything if you know it, it’s better to give him freedom and let him choose whether to say it or not.
Everyone should keep a certain amount of space regarding each other's private matters. Even if two people are together, it does not mean that they must be completely tied up and respected by each other, so that the relationship can go further.
Regarding money matters, you should also know how to stop it in moderation, understand clearly what you need to know, and don't get too involved in other things.
When you do these three things without asking, you can win the respect and gratitude of the other person. He will feel that it is not easy to meet someone who understands him, and he will naturally cherish it.
