After most first wives learn that their husbands have cheated on them, in addition to being aggrieved and unwilling to do so, they are also worried and afraid. The former two emotions are easy to understand. So, what is the original wife worried about and what is she afraid of?
The original wife is worried that she is not as good as her mistress. For example, she is not as young, beautiful, and in good shape as her mistress. What the first wife is afraid of is that her man, regardless of the relationship between husband and wife for many years, would rather choose the mistress whom he has only known for a short time than the first wife who has been sleeping with him for many years.
From this, we can understand why after some first wives learn that their husbands have cheated on her, she seems to have done something wrong when she is clearly the victim and betrayed. She doesn't dare to confront and negotiate with her husband. If the mistress comes to visit, the first wife will avoid it.
The original wife must clearly understand that the more she avoids a man's extramarital affair, the more confident he becomes, while the mistress is very proud and pervasive. The solution once and for all is for the first wife to cut off the man's fantasy of threesomes from the source and make him return to the family completely. Either be prepared for divorce. Since you can't get a man's "exclusive" home, you'd rather live in pieces than in ruins.
For all first wives, the most important aura of the palace includes these things. Only when the original wife is fearless will the man and his mistress be afraid of the original wife, and the first wife can use this to achieve the purpose of protecting themselves and their marriage. There is no other way.
1. Not afraid of divorce
The reason why a man can blatantly be with his mistress is because his original wife also contributes to it. However, none of the original wives realized the existence of this truth. When the first wife does not dare to divorce a man, this is her biggest weakness.
From a man's perspective, he will think, "You don't dare to divorce me anyway, so it doesn't matter how passionate the mistress and I fight." Does the first wife understand? Your fear of divorce did not make the man aware of his own problems, but gave him the courage to date the mistress openly.
Therefore, only when the original wife is not afraid of divorce, will a man be afraid. Because men look for mistresses outside just for the novelty and excitement, and most men have never thought about divorce. When it comes to the word divorce, men are actually more afraid than women.
2. Don’t be afraid of the mistress
From the perspective of a bystander, it is not that the first wife should be afraid of the mistress, but that the mistress should be afraid of the original wife. After all, a person who interferes in other people's marriages is a mistress, and a person who hurts his first wife is also a mistress. In real life, many first wives are afraid of mistresses and worry that they will not be as good as mistresses in all aspects, which will make them feel even more inferior.
In fact, the first wife must show her aura as a royal wife. You are the wife of a man who is married to a matchmaker, and the mistress is just a shady role, worse than a concubine in the old society. What's so scary about original equipment? If the mistress comes to the door, the first wife must use her own aura to suppress her, so as not to make the mistress even more rampant.
3. Not afraid of starting over
Everything the original wife does is just to get the man to return to the family. However, if a man really returns to his family, the first wife will also have other worries. For example, will he look for other women in the future? Does he really want to return to his family?
Original Equipment This kind of worry is normal, but if these worries cannot be released and they are always bound by these thoughts, the marriage between the two will not last long. The first wife must have an aura that is not afraid of starting over, so that the marriage can have the possibility of rebirth.
