This contradiction has existed since ancient times. This is not only a difficult problem for women to solve, but also for men to face it. What is the problem? This is the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This problem has existed since ancient times. When the gr

This contradiction has existed since ancient times. This is not only a difficult problem for women, but also for men to face it. What is the problem with

? This is the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This problem has existed since ancient times. When the great poet Lu You was young, he was also dealing with his mother and his wife. In the end, he had to separate from the person he loved. Sui's mother married someone else according to her heart, but after remarrying, the great poet Lu He was not happy, and finally drifted on the lake and died in depression. This poignant love story is the story of Lu You and Tang Wan . Tang Wan is not only a wife but also a confidant to Lu You. For celebrities and poets, it is difficult to find a confidant.

This problem continues to this day and is a conflict that exists in many families. Why does

say this? Someone has to say, aren’t there more conflicts between husband and wife? Divorce is not a shameful thing in today's society if the husband is not good, but one cannot abandon the family and find another one just because the mother-in-law is not good. The other half is chosen by oneself, and it is also the most intimate relationship in a family. If there is something small, a fight at the head of the bed and a fight at the end of the bed. However, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can only be alleviated by a third party, that is - the husband.

What should the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, and son do?

Communications between people always follow a balance. If you are too honest and are not good at communicating with others, if you are too rhetorical, you will feel insincere. The meaning of balance is to interact more with people you think are important, and people who are not important will slowly fade out of your life. Take care of the people you need, and let the people you don't need go. You should pay more for those who love you, and it doesn't matter for those who don't love you.

1, what should the daughter-in-law do?

Everything should be done according to one’s original intention. When the three views are upright, you can pay to others as much as you give to others.

When you are new to a family, it is normal for you to have conflicts in some living habits, such as the saltiness of food, trivial matters in daily life, etc. What we need to do at the beginning is not to do anything at all. To get familiar with a new thing, all we need to do is observe and understand the rules, rules, and taboos before we start doing it, let alone a family. I don’t know everyone’s temperament and how to integrate into this family.

Don't move your hands yet, don't move your mouth either. Mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, mother-in-law is in front and daughter-in-law is in the back. Why do you say that?

Before you came, she was the mistress of this home, she was the one who ran the home. The ancients always said that men take charge of the outside and women take charge of the house. This house refers to the family. If you want a good relationship with a family, she is the one who will help you get to know the family. So before you know anything, just observe. Don't think that I just came to this house. I have to behave better. I can cook and do housework.

Any woman can do these. To put it nicely, it is called filial piety, but to put it poorly, it means that you show your presence in front of her. If you have been together for a long time, you can cook a meal occasionally. Cooking occasionally is filial, and I feel sorry for my mother-in-law for her hard work, but cooking for a long time is stupid. Of course, this is okay if the mother-in-law is very busy, but if the mother-in-law is a housewife, don't do this.

2, what should mother-in-law do?

Be more tolerant first, do your own thing well, and then get along slowly.

The idea of ​​establishing rules has been around for a long time. Today's young people love freely, and the wife was pampered by her family before she got married. In this family, the daughter-in-law is a latecomer. Prior to this, the division of labor in a family should have reached a dynamic balance after more than 20 years. It is the wife who needs to find her place again. After adding one more person, you might as well give him some time to adapt and slowly find his position.

In the past, you took care of your son. You were worried that he would not have enough to eat or wear warm clothes. From now on, you can leave this matter to your wife.

After getting married, it is not a good thing for a mother to interfere too much in her son's personal affairs. This will make the daughter-in-law feel that you are not at ease with her.

If a new member is added in the future and the daughter-in-law needs to take care of work and children, she can help appropriately.This matter is not an obligation, but a responsibility. We always hope that our next generation can live a better life than the previous generation. At the same time, this is also a hope for life in their later years. If your children and grandchildren are worry-free, your life in your later years will definitely not be bad, and this worry-free is gained by taking care of things for them within your own ability.

3, what should my husband do?

Husband is the link between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Two unrelated women have no intersection in their lives. It is because of your relationship that they came together.

When something happens, both teams must take sides. This is not an easy task. No one wants to stir up trouble. You have to stand on both sides and talk about the other party's difficulties. Talk about your daughter-in-law's difficulties in front of your mother, and talk about your mother's position in front of her daughter-in-law. Let's talk to each other when both parties have calmed down. Occasionally, you can also create a little surprise. After all, both of them are your favorite women.

Why did my husband say it last? Because in a family, this man is the most important. In his heart, he should not only have the big family including his parents, but also the small family he and his wife created. His shoulders are tied to two families, the bond between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the bond between two families.

You must have a pair of bright eyes to discover the shortcomings and advantages of these two women, and you must have a calm attitude when encountering problems. You must not get angry at any time (unless it is a big deal, but I believe that there are not many in a family who want to take the initiative to pick a fight. Generally speaking, it’s trivial matters caused by living habits and children’s education issues.)

Sweet, bitter, and spicy are indispensable. Firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea are life. You have to understand how to season it. In short, I should talk less about irrelevant things and never shrink back on issues of principle. How others treat me is how I treat others. I will speak more to those who can listen, and less to mingle with those who cannot. The maintenance of a family is not about raising children. They are all adults. They understand everything they should know, and those who don’t understand have not been learned for decades. Even if you understand, don’t try to change it.