[Guoxue Culture] Constantly improving yourself is the best practice to control your life

01 Improve your thinking

More important than hard work is to improve your thinking level

Einstein once said: "This level of problems is difficult to solve by this level of thinking. ."

Indeed, can only achieve the so-called "dimensionality reduction strike" if a person is at a higher level.

Life is like a journey. Sometimes you will encounter a thick fog and you don't know where you are going, and sometimes you will encounter a thorny thorn, and you can't do anything.

But raising the level of thinking will make us jump out of the current predicament and look at the world in a brand new way, and the problem will naturally be solved.

In short, if you want to solve a problem, you must first upgrade your thinking.

Whether in life or work, it is not difficult to find that some powerful people are not winning by their ability, but by their way of thinking.

What kind of thinking you are, what kind of choices you will make; the choices you make, in turn, will determine your life.

02 Enhance EQ

Wrinkles and weight should not be the only things that grow with age, but also the emotional intelligence and self-cultivation of dealing with people.

The famous American psychologist Goleman wrote in the book "Emotional Intelligence": "The degree of comfort you make determines the height you can reach."

Behind the true high EQ, it is actually Kindness.

Being considerate and considerate in every aspect is actually a person's inner self-cultivation.

Qi Baishi and Zhang Daqian were invited to Xu Beihong as a guest at home,Xu Beihong’s wife Liao Jingwen cooks herself.

After drinking and eating, Qi Baishi waved a few cents and drew a picture of lotus to give to Mrs. Liao as a token of appreciation.

Zhang Daqian added a few shrimps to the painting in response to Mrs. Liao's affection.

Zhang Daqian can only take care of himself, but he didn't notice the number of prawn sections. He either painted a few more sections or a few fewer sections.

Qi Baishi secretly pulled Zhang Daqian's sleeve, and whispered:

"Mr. Daqian, no matter how big or small the shrimp is, he has only six sections. You can't draw more or less."

Zhang Daqian was very grateful. Then he drew water patterns and water weeds to cover up the shrimp bodies with inaccurate knots.

Your qualities are hidden in your temperament, conversation and manners.

Being an educated person, no matter where you walk, you will feel like a spring breeze and be respected by others.

03 Improve the pattern

As long as you have a certain pattern, you must first "see yourself" and understand your own strengths and weaknesses; then "see the world" and see the vastness of the world and your own insignificance. It can also make the little days go smoothly.

• Increase the height of the target

The goal of a person is trivial or the sea of ​​stars, living a different life.

When setting a goal, set the maximum value that can be achieved.

Don't limit your goal to a present, small world, but dare to embrace a broader and higher world.

• Improve the depth of cognition

If you want to increase your depth, you must not only look at it, but also think from a different perspective.

Learn to think dialectically, do not explain everything with simple right and wrong.

Ask a few more why in case of trouble, you will always see the essence of the problem, establish a complete thinking and cognitive system, and know how to solve the problem.

People who really have a pattern are often those who can see both the trees and the forest.

04 Improve self-control

The author of "How to Quit Bad Habits" talked about a personal experience.

Authors like to procrastinate, which leads to a lot of things stacking up in the end. When he realized that procrastination caused a lot of trouble in his life, he was determined to give up this bad habit.

He started to strictly control the sleeping time, no longer staying up late, insisting to go to bed on time at 11 o'clock every night;

In order to eliminate procrastination, he went to the company to handle the most important work one hour in advance every day;

no longer sleeps on weekends Wake up naturally, get up on time and go for a morning jog to do exercises, and then start a day of life...

When he improves his self-control and becomes self-disciplined, life seems to have entered another world, full of happiness and joy.

As the author said: "When I quit one bad habit after another, I regained the initiative in life."

There is a saying that goes well: " people are most comfortable and most comfortable when they can control themselves. Feel free and happiest. ”

If a person has poor self-control, he will fall into anxiety because he did not complete something on time. Over time, there will be serious frustration and no sense of happiness.

People with strong self-control are often happy because they complete their life plans on time and get rewards.

In fact, the so-called self-improvement is the process of continuously improving self-control, so that you no longer do what you want.

People with strong self-control are closer to happiness. A happy life starts from improving self-control.

05 Improve knowledge

Su Shi When he was young,After reading the Four Books and Five Classics with the teacher, I feel that I am very good.

So he posted a couplet on the door of the study: Know all the characters in the world, read all the books on earth.

After seeing this, the teacher brought a small book to Su Shi to read. Su Shi didn't recognize most of the words in it. Can't help being very ashamed.

After the teacher left, he added a few words to the couplet, and changed it to read the words of the world with anger, determined to read all the books on the world.

Since then, Su Shi has never slackened, even if he was demoted to Hainan, he insisted on reading and copying books.

Decades of persistence allowed him to read all over the classics and freely travel between the three schools , Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism .

Those sufferings have become the nourishment of life, making oneself more transparent and open-minded.

Rich mind and rich knowledge are the anchor of a person.

With this anchor, a person has the ability to fight against the wind and waves on the sea and against unpredictable fate.

And those without anchors can only follow the crowd, resign themselves to their fate, and can never become their own masters, and can never control their lives.