The most important things in a person's life are nothing more than three: entering school, choosing a career, and marriage. We went to school, then got a job, and then the most important thing in the end.
When looking for an object, many buddies have probably heard such a sentence: female junior, hold gold bricks.
What does this sentence mean? Does it mean that you can get rich if you find a wife who is older than yourself? Next, please listen to the third brother to talk with you:
This sentence has been there for a long time, but who said it specifically, the third brother has not found it after investigating for a long time. It is probably a sentence circulating among the people. It has these three meanings:
1. Female junior, good health, the "brick" here does not mean gold, or the meaning of making a fortune. In the earliest days, the gold brick refers to children.
In ancient times, men and women were generally married early. According to statistics, the average age of marriage for ancient people was about 15 years old, and some laws and regulations were even introduced to ensure population growth and more labor.
Then think about it, these boys are basically adults when they are 15 years old. If they marry a wife who is younger than themselves, they are only twelve or three years old. What can they understand, let alone birth The child is still growing up. But find a wife who is three years older, and that woman will be 18 years old.
Everyone says that girls 18 have a flower. On the one hand, they say that 18-year-old girls are pretty, and even more so that they have reached the right age. In addition, the boys developed relatively early, and they had fertility at the age of about fifteen or sixteen. The old man in this married family would have hoped to have his grandson early. This is not as precious as the "BRIC"!
So if you say "female junior, hold gold bricks", you can have children earlier and continue the incense for your family.
This old saying has a bit of disrespect for women, but if you think about it, many systems in ancient times favored sons over daughters. Women were not allowed to learn knowledge, were not allowed to go out, and they were still binding their feet.
2. Female junior, home security
means that if you marry a wife three years older than yourself,She will be more sensible and mature, and she will be more stable and in place when she is doing housework, serving her husband, and in-laws.
Think about the time when a man was still an older child when he got married, and then he would find a younger wife. The two would act like a "play house" every day. No one would take care of anyone, and no one would let anyone. , How can you live these days? !
On the other hand, in ancient times, there was a saying that "a daughter-in-law becomes a mother-in-law". Why do we say "a daughter-in-law"? The point is that it is not easy to be a daughter-in-law. There is a work called " Peacock Flying Southeast ". People who have seen it are probably impressed. At the age of 17, Liu Lanzhi married Jiao Zhongqing at the age of 17. How many hardships he has experienced in her husband's house. Her mother-in-law bullied her every time she complained and was kicked out of the house by her mother-in-law.
Also, when watching A Dream of Red Mansions, have you noticed the rules of Jia's House? One of them was and Jia's mother for dinner, Jia's mother was sitting upright, the girls in the house and Daiyu ate together happily, the daughter-in-laws of this family all stood by and waited on the food.
After serving Jia's mother, they have to continue serving their mother-in-law to eat. They have finished eating, and then it's their turn to eat two bites.
The younger the daughter-in-law, the more people will have to take care of them, and the more sophisticated the daughter-in-law will have more rules.
Therefore, no matter how old you are, once you marry as a mistress, you will no longer be a little girl in your natal family.
Being able to marry a daughter-in-law who is three years older, is basically more mature and considerate, and the caregiver will be more attentive and considerate.
3. Three-year-olds have generation gaps when they are too old.
When female juniors hold gold bricks, some people will think, isn't the three-year-old holding two gold bricks? Women will also be more mature and stable,Why don't you talk about female juniors?
Actually, we can think of it like this:
As the saying goes, the three-year-old generation, two people separated by three years, basically do not have much difference in cognition, and the changes in world affairs are not big, so their communication is generally not What's the big problem? In addition, women are born with motherhood at home. Even if the little husband is a little naive, they will pass the smile.
But if you are six years older, it will be different after two generations. There will be a "generation gap" between each other, which will make it difficult for the couple to communicate in life. Once something happens, it will cause Quarrels or violent incidents, etc.
In the long run, this will definitely cause conflicts within the family and cause some instability. It's not so easy. If a man marries a little wife, the eldest wife scolds every day, and there is no time to live. If it is really serious, it is not impossible to die.
So, female junior is just right, six years older, it is too big.
When investigating the information, the third brother also found that this "junior year" is more of an approximate number, meaning that people in the past advocated finding a wife who is older than themselves, who is good for childbearing and can take care of others. As for whether you are one year older or three years old, there is really nothing too deep and reliable.
Now, the old traditions are gone, and we have already realized the freedom of marriage and love. So you don’t have to consider more age issues when you fall in love and get married. Whether it’s a sibling relationship or something else, as long as two people have the same three views together, love each other and form a family, it’s good.
In marriage, the important thing is not who is old and who is young, but to know how to love and respect each other, and the couple live happily and happily. After they have children, they will work together to raise and raise the children, so that the family will be well. The ground is perfect!
Everyone, do you think the third brother is right?
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