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"I have something to tell you. After all, we are getting married. I think you should know about it. You also know that I once had an ex-boyfriend who had been together for many years and lived together for half a year, so my virgin body was given to him, because he and I were also rushing to get married at the time, but I didn’t expect to be entrusted in the end. Inhuman, can you accept me like this?"
Zhang Yufei looked at Cheng Mian with trepidation and anticipation, worried that you would say what you were afraid of hearing, but last night you thought about it and decided to say it. . And Cheng Mian’s performance did not disappoint Zhang Yufei. His eyes only flickered for a moment, and he immediately said firmly: "I don't care, as long as you love me, I love you." this The heart that Zhang Yufei had been hanging on finally settled down.
Then the two of them began to prepare for marriage. Cheng Mian's family also bought the wedding room. However, when the two families gathered one day, Zhang Yufei proposed to add her name to the wedding room as well. Neither of his parents made any sense. Instead, Cheng Mian kept silent, which made Zhang Yufei very puzzled, not knowing why he didn't make a statement. After asking Cheng Mian's opinion, Zhang Yufei collapsed instantly, and even broke up soon afterwards!
29-year-old Zhang Yufei and the same-year-old Cheng Mian met through a friend's introduction. Because the two have similar personalities, their work and family background are similar, their relationship develops extremely fast, the third to know The relationship was confirmed this time. On the one hand, Zhang Yufei and Cheng Mian both liked each other and thought each other was very good.On the other hand, when both of them are getting married, Zhang Yufei and Cheng Mian are very disgusted by their parents' frequent urging.
The relationship was also very stable in the next half year. Cheng Mian has a calm personality. Although he is not good at talking, he complements the lively and beautiful Zhang Yufei, and Cheng Mian’s bad talk is just that he doesn’t like talking to strangers and is hard to find. Topic, and this is exactly what Zhang Yufei is good at, and after chatting, Zhang Yufei found that Cheng Mian could also speak very well, and her humorous language made her very heart-warming.
So after the relationship stabilized, the parents of the two parties began to urge the marriage. Cheng Mian also had this meaning, so Zhang Yufei hesitated to tell Cheng Mian of his past emotional experience.
It turned out that Zhang Yufei had a five-year relationship. His predecessor was Hao Wenjie. He was a cheerful and lively boy. He was a serious and outstanding boy at the time. Yu Fei's attention, and took the initiative to show his favor. And the two of them are also confirming that sentence: The man chased the female compartment mountain, and the female chased the male compartment yarn. The two got better soon.
Zhang Yufei has a deep affection for this relationship, and has been rushing to be able to walk with Hao Wenjie until they get married, so the two began to live together when they were in love for about two years, so they took their first place. It was given to him once, but the two were too young to get married at the time. In fact, when they were in love for more than three years, Zhang Yufei’s mother urged the two to get married if they had a stable relationship. You can use Zhang Yufei’s words: Getting married is a matter of time, and how can you run away?
and the truth is the truth. In the fifth year of love, Zhang Yufei found that Hao Wenjie and another girl were very ambiguous.Hao Wenjie refused to admit it when he first discovered it. It was only after Zhang Yufei found out that he had slept with the girl once, Hao Wenjie confessed everything and begged Zhang Yufei for forgiveness. However, even if Zhang Yufei liked Hao Wenjie again Unable to endure the betrayal, he broke up and spent a year healed from his feelings before he met Cheng Mian.
So after the relationship with Cheng Mian stabilized, Zhang Yufei believed that he was obliged to tell him about his relationship experience, and hoped that the relationship between the two was good enough for Cheng Mian to accept him. Cheng Mian's performance did not respond much, and said that not only could he accept it, but he would also treat Zhang Yufei well after marriage, which made Zhang Yufei also very moved.
Therefore Zhang Yufei treats her and Cheng Mian's feelings wholeheartedly, hoping to have a happy and harmonious wedding. Cheng Mian’s parents bought the house for Zhang Yufei and Cheng Mian with the full money before the wedding, so Zhang Yufei offered to pay for the renovation of her house, but hoped to add his own name on the house certificate. The parents had no opinion, Zhang Yufei was very happy, but never expected that Cheng Mian was silent, and never answered, and this incident was also interrupted by other topics at the time.
But Zhang Yufei didn’t know why Cheng Mian didn’t want to write her name. She asked again when the two were together, but she didn’t expect the waiting answer turned out to be: "Your request that my parents have no objection does not mean that I have no objection. My parents have bought me a house for most of their lives. I am only touched in my heart. As the only son, I should also be grateful and leave some money for the elderly. However. You don’t have a virgin body anymore. It’s really not worth my family’s effort. This is my attitude!"I've probably thought about it many times, but when it reached Zhang Yufei's ears, it instantly solidified her, and she almost cried when she was wronged. Zhang Yufei roared: "Before you said that you didn't mind, and you vowed to be good to me after marriage, but are you so good to me? Now that I am not worthy of your family to pay so much, then you Why don’t you say it!"
However, Cheng Mian didn’t even have a word to explain Zhang Yufei’s complaint, which made Zhang Yufei even more angry: "Well, I think you don’t want to get married, so you just broke up. Forget it, go find your virgin body!" picked up the clothes and left, and Cheng Mian did not chase it out.
After the parents of the two families knew about this, especially Zhang Yufei's parents even reprimanded Zhang Yufei when they knew about it, saying that she was too excited and did things recklessly, as if all this was Zhang Yufei’s fault . However, Zhang Yufei felt that "It is not a shame not to have a virgin body. At that time, Hao Wenjie and I were in love with each other sincerely. It was only when we met a scumbag that we suffered!" Let Zhang Yufei go to my parents Tell Cheng Mian well that she also refused, which completely ended the marriage.
In relationships, girls always suffer more than men, especially in the "bedding of love", women will pay more than men, and many men have this complex. , So I can understand Zhang Yufei's anger and grievance. After all, she was not playing around before, and she hoped for a happy ending, but she couldn't keep her affection and eventually broke up.
But is Cheng Mian wrong? I think he is right,I just want to say one thing to the person who called him a scumbag, I just want to ask what he did wrong? He didn’t lie to Zhang Yufei and was willing to marry her. However, he just didn’t want to add the name of the other party to the house that his parents bought in full. Deep down in his heart, he gave his best, even if he could accept such an incomplete wife. But he couldn't persuade himself to use his parents for most of his life to accept imperfect daughter-in-law.
Perhaps Cheng Mian's words are indeed problematic, but it is the most direct expression in his heart. I once heard an explanation like this: "If my wife doesn’t have a virgin body, I will not dislike it, but I will regret it, as if there is a big shortcoming in my life. And if this shortcoming is in my career It's hard to guarantee that you won't make up for this shortcoming when you are successful!" Although these words are very rough, the meaning is also the voice of many men.
So I am very resistant to the plot of TV series such as " Ode to Joy " for the male protagonist who breaks up because the protagonist is not a virgin. It’s not wrong for a woman to sincerely pay for her feelings. However, the most important thing for a woman is self-respect and self-esteem. Paying for her body can only be done after marriage. Why do we have to use her body to love her boyfriend before marriage? If you can only get the love of your boyfriend with your body, can it still count as love?
The relationship is based on the emotional expression after love and marriage. It must not be regarded as the result of the natural deepness of love , so when men are clean, they have the right to ask women The same is true for children. This is not a scumbag, but an absolute emphasis on feelings. Therefore, Cheng Mian and Zhang Yufei may finally break up with Zhang Yufei because of the addition of a name to the house, but in fact it is inevitable. Even if there is no name, it will eventually come to this point. After all, once the inner entanglement is formed, it is important to find a way to clear it. , And this method only works separately.
And for girls like Zhang Yufei,I think she will meet someone who can really accept her in the future, and Cheng Mian can also meet the "perfect girl" in his heart. Live yourself. Love requires hard work, but it also requires calm thinking!
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