Symptoms of deterioration in heterosexual relations: no rejection

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First, refuse physical contact

already After marriage, the lover is worried that he has friends of the opposite sex around him, and what he is afraid of is physical contact. For a married person, keeping a certain distance with each other and refusing physical contact is a form of respect and sincerity.

Li Wei and Wang Chao are childhood sweethearts. Li Wei is a heartless person. Since childhood, she has been the king of children around her. Therefore, everyone has a relationship with her like brothers, Wang Chao The same is true, never treat her as a girl. Because of the close relationship between two people, they always hook up their shoulders and don’t avoid outsiders in the slightest. After middle school or even college, everyone around them thought they were in love until Wang Chao brought back his girlfriend and neighbor. The students learned that the two people are really "brothers" rather than lovers.

However, two people have been used to being close since they were young, and they will inevitably have physical contact when they meet. For example, although Li Wei has a carefree personality, she is a very sensitive girl. When Li Wei was sad, he habitually touched his head, and it is the same now. That day, seeing her look unhappy, he went over and touched her hair without saying a word. The girlfriend saw it from the side and felt embarrassed, so he was angry about it.

It was also from that time that Wang Chao paid attention to this. However, the relationship between the two people was good, and later they worked in the same city, so they often met. After all, they were playmates from childhood. Always ignore the girlfriend. The precautions that his girlfriend told him before had long been forgotten, and she had broken up several times. If it weren't for Li Wei also found her boyfriend later, I am afraid that Wang Chao could not explain it clearly.

On weekdays, two people are close to each other, and they always make appointments to go out to play. Before, they took each other’s love to the playground.Because their subjects didn't dare to use the jumping machine, the two of them held hands and went, making the two people standing outside look embarrassed.

If two people are heartless and not aware of the expression of their lover, it is fine, but if you really love someone, don't you remember to avoid suspicion when your lover is angry?

If you want to maintain a sense of proportion in a heterosexual relationship, you must pay attention to the distance you get along. Most of this depends on whether you will refuse. If Wang Chao refuses it from the first time, it will not. There was later trouble. The unusual relationship between the opposite sex is that you never refuse to start. You can't think of it, and you won't deliberately remind yourself that the relationship between two people may deteriorate gradually, and you don't know it.

Second, refuse to listen to each other’s emotional problems

I always think that no matter how quarrelsome is between men and women, two people should make it clear. Parents should not participate, and friends are also So it is.

But in real life, there are many boys who are more outspoken. If their girlfriends are unhappy, they don't know how to do it. If they are stupid, they will ask their friends of the opposite sex and make them very embarrassed.

If the other person tells the truth and makes a few real comments, you will definitely complain about your lover even more, but if your friend of the opposite sex doesn’t tell the truth, you don’t know, and you don’t get the answer you want, it will be in your heart. It will be uncomfortable, this is both troublesome.

So, don't mention relationship problems with the opposite sex, don't cause trouble to others, of course, if someone mentions it to you, you must also learn to refuse and don't participate, otherwise it will be really hard to end up in the end.

Zhang Yong and Huang Qian have always been in a good relationship. After the two got married, they rarely contact each other. Until Zhang Yong has been very upset about his wife recently, but he doesn’t know how to coax each other. It's hard to break him.

He feels that his wife is always inexplicably angry and unreasonable. However, the reason why his wife is angry is actually very simple. It's just that Zhang Yong doesn't understand romance and doesn't know how to please her, even her favorite taste Will remember it wrong.

Zhang Yong had nowhere to ask, so he could only talk to Huang Qian, who had a better relationship with his opposite sex. Huang Qian couldn't bear to refuse, so he told him a few ways to coax her husband if she was angry. However, everyone has different personalities and different opinions. What is suitable for Huang Qianli may not be suitable for his wife. Huang Qian's suggestion makes his wife even more angry.

The wife was angry, Huang Qian probably guessed what was going on, so she reminded her, "I mixed up with the two of you, it must be bad. The way to coax me is probably not as good as you think about it. , In the future, you should not talk to me about your relationship problems. She is your wife. She must be very concerned about it. The same is true for my love. If you really don’t know, you can go to Baidu and search for it. It’s good for both of us. All are good, don’t be wrong.” Huang Qian said that, Zhang Yong still thinks she thinks too much, but she refused, and she was too embarrassed to ask her to help anymore, so she just asked herself. The male colleague also found some opinions on the Internet, but he didn't expect to really make his wife happy. The wife later said, "I wasn't angry anymore, but you see that the thing you gave was liked by your friend of the opposite sex? Can I not be angry? I'm still smart now, knowing that I can find it online." The wife has actually seen it. When I reached the chat history between him and Huang Qian, I also saw his Baidu, so I didn't get angry anymore.

If you don’t refuse to do anything about feelings, if you reach out to help, it may be unhelpful.

So,If you really respect the friendship between two people of the opposite sex, don't interfere too much with each other emotionally, otherwise, his lover will know when the time comes, and even if the two of you are okay, it will not be clear, and the more you explain, the more you explain. trouble.

Third, refuse to chat and meet alone

In the case of married, the two things that friends of the opposite sex cannot touch are chat and meet alone.

For two people who are not in a romantic relationship, it is easy to talk about the relationship between friends of the opposite sex if they are not in a romantic relationship. In the case of married, the same is true. If you always have a friend of the opposite sex Chatting, for a long time, I have dependence in my heart, and slowly my feelings will deteriorate unknowingly.

A classmate from my university, she and her boyfriend, just chatted out. The two only met at a class reunion, and then they left WeChat with each other. Later, they chatted and talked about their feelings. , And now the two are married.

This explains the charm of chat. An emotional writer once said, "I have a piece of advice to friends of the opposite sex, that is, don’t chat with a person of the opposite sex often. Even if it’s not a couple, after a long time there will be Dependence, if one day you don’t talk, you will feel lost. Habits are not terrible, but walking is the most terrible.”

After chatting for a long time, the relationship will deteriorate, and between friends of the opposite sex. The same is true when you meet alone. Maybe you and the other person have no other thoughts. Sometimes the atmosphere dictates that you have to make the two people ambiguous and affect each other.

This is a reminder for men and women who are in love and marriage. Whether it is chatting or meeting alone, you must be careful, you already have a lover, don’t try to touch the bottom line, otherwise you will be The lover knows it will be difficult to end.

Between the opposite sex, refusal is a very tricky thing. It may not only bring harm to you, but also bring harm to your lover, so please don’t embarrass yourself or embarrass yourself. spouse.

If you really want to maintain this fate, don’t always blur the boundaries on these three things, touch the other party’s bottom line, and face these three things, you must learn to refuse. In order to give two human faces.

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