Introduction:
Nowadays, more and more elderly people remarry. Many elderly people think that after remarrying, they will be happy. But I want to say, will remarriage really bring happiness? Happiness in remarriage is nothing more than ideal happiness. Can ideals be the same as reality? Can ideal happiness be brought to reality? In fact, remarriage can be happy, especially when there are very few elderly people. I hope that the elderly must think twice before remarrying. Today, let’s take a look at this case. This case will tell you whether to mix up again. What is going on here? Why is it like this? We together look. The 74-year-old uncle remarried and the 50-year-old aunt divorced in half a year. The 74-year-old uncle: She is not a wife but a devil.
Uncle Li, 74 years old:
I remarried to Xiao Zhang six months ago. Xiao Zhang is one of my babysitters. I have two babysitters during the day and one at night. I wanted to hire an all-weather babysitter, but they disliked it. The main thing is that no one can stay for that long. So I had to hire two babysitters, which can be considered as two shifts. I am older and I need to take care of all aspects. Although I can barely take care of myself, I am relatively weak psychologically. It may be because I am too old to be afraid of going to bed, afraid of falling asleep, and then unable to wake up. And I can't sleep. I always want to find someone to chat with me at night, and I don't want to let me. As I get older and sleep less and less, I sleep for a few hours a day, and I can’t sleep at night even during the day. At this time, it seems even more that I need someone to accompany me at night. So I hired a babysitter on the night shift. It can be regarded as companionship. Many people say why not let the day shift help me to accompany me until the evening? If people don't do it, it's not a question of money or money. I couldn't eat it. I went to bed during the day, and then I couldn't sleep at two or three o'clock in the evening. When I can't sleep, I need someone to accompany me. They need to work on the second day, so I can't force them to stay with me there.
Sorry, it’s okay that people can’t hold it for a day and a half. It’s a little strange that I can’t hold it for a long time. I only sleep a few hours a day. I don’t care, I can’t make fun of people’s health. And the nanny in the evening shift can't cost much more than the nanny in the day shift. For a day shift, it’s about 4,000 yuan,The same is true for the evening shift. Although the evening shift is hard and difficult, there is nothing to do, just chat with me, or watch TV with me. Sometimes when I can't sleep, I will ask her to accompany me, and even ask him to pour water for me to drink. I have more than 7,000 pensions a month, and then I have three sons and a daughter. Each of them gives me 1,000 yuan a month, and I have more than 10,000 yuan. More than 10,000 yuan to hire two babysitters eight or nine thousand and the remaining is completely enough for food. Not to mention that my other insurance money and the state-given money. My money is enough, but life is a bit difficult. It was not interesting to be alone, and then the nanny in our class took the initiative to confess to me. Xiao Zhang, the nanny in our class, has been working at my home for more than half a year. She has taken good care of her for the past six months.
I have also changed a lot of playmates and nanny before, but I always hate that I can't do long work in the end. And this Xiao Zhang is the only one who has done it for more than half a year. It is easy to find a nanny in the day shift, but it is difficult to find a nanny in the evening shift. First, few people are willing to stay up late, and second, they feel that the night shift pays less. But I think it’s pretty good. After all, I don’t need to do anything in the evening shift. I just watch TV and chat with me. It’s not like a day shift who has to cook, clean, and go out with me in the sun. Relatively speaking, I think the evening shift will be easier. Although it is staying up late, there is nothing to do. But many people don't want to stay up late, so it's hard to find a night nanny. And Xiao Zhang spent half a month at home, and I treated her very well. I didn't know what I was missing until Xiao Zhang confessed to me. Then I remarried Xiao Zhang, and I, like other old people, thought about company and care for each other. Anyway, Xiao Zhang used to take care of me at home, and now we remarry with her, our relationship has become even closer. It will definitely be better in the future. I think many elderly people think the same way when they remarry, always thinking that they will live better in the future. Then choose to remarry.
You think there is a gap with reality. Ideally, we accompany and take care of each other. But after mixing up again, Xiao Zhang didn't care about me at all. She would accompany me when I paid her a salary in the past. Now not only have to give her money, but even suffer from Xiao Zhang's temper. In the past, Xiao Zhang would not dislike me. I used to give her money, even if he stayed up until two or three o'clock,She did not complain. But now she has all sorts of dislikes, even if she dislikes all kinds of dislikes, and even do some excessive things. She was angry and scolded me, and said why I didn't die soon. How could there be such a wife? How can a wife want her husband to die soon? In this case, she would just think about it, and she even told me about it. I think she wants to piss me off. That's it, accompany each other and take care of each other. After remarrying, I was the only one to accompany her, and I was the only one to take care of her, even the day-time nanny believed it. It was said before that I was taking care of me alone, but now I still have to take care of Xiao Zhang. Xiao Zhang regards himself as a queen. I don't do what I can, and keep the babysitter working. The babysitter would be disgusted if he had too much work, so I had to pay for them. Xiao Zhang was even more exaggerated. As long as she didn't do anything, she would try not to do it, and let the nanny replace all of them. Although I know that the babysitter can save a lot of work, but there is no need to embarrass people like this.
When Xiao Zhang is in a bad mood, he will scold the babysitter at every turn and even kick others with his feet. For this matter, I also admire how Xiao Zhang can be like this, so I said a few words about Xiao Zhang. Then Xiao Zhang said that I scolded her, and she was in a bad mood. She was obviously wrong. When she is in a bad mood, she will ask me for money to go shopping. Although Xiao Zhang wants to be with me, I really don't like her way of handling it. I go shopping every time for various reasons. And always buy some expensive and useless things. I think I'm 50 years old and I don't care too much about dressing up, but she will spend a lot of money on this matter. My property was spent bit by bit by her, and she started to slowly want to occupy my house. She even asked my son for money in my name. My son will give me a little at the beginning. Because my son usually gives me money, but now someone asks them for money. Because I married Xiao Zhang, my son was embarrassed not to give it. I know the real conflict between me and my son. And Xiao Zhang often asks my son for money. Even my son has opinions on Xiao Zhang. After Xiao Zhang got the money, he didn't do anything bad, but spent the money in a mess.
I know that Xiao Zhang also wants to live with me, but she is really not good like this. I educate her, but she keeps scolding me. There is a feeling of willfulness, a feeling of being undisciplined.I haven't had a good day ever since I was with Xiao Zhang. Every day I have to accept Xiao Zhang's temper. Xiao Zhang used to take care of me, now I take care of Xiao Zhang. Even if I take care of Xiao Zhang, I have to give him money. In the past, the monthly expenses were about 10,000 yuan. Now it costs about 15,000 a month. In other words, two to three thousand dollars are deducted from my coffin book every month. Although I have a lot of coffin boards, but if I continue like this, I will still sit in the sky. The most important thing is that I am not happy at all, and people feel uncomfortable after spending money. Day by day, I am getting thinner and thinner. He even got sick. The most important thing is to be angry. Xiao Zhang, don't you care about me? No matter what I do, he doesn't care. Xiao Zhang's only requirement of me is to let me accommodate her, and let me accommodate everything. Now he still wants me to transfer the house to him, and even said that if I don't transfer the house to her, I will make trouble with me.
I definitely disagree with the transfer of the house to her. She has been arguing with me, and I also thought about divorce. But does she agree to the divorce now? I just think about divorce, but I don't know how Xiao Zhang knew about it. Then Xiao Zhang kept angering me. After she quarreled with me, my idea of divorce became stronger and stronger. But Xiao Zhang refused to divorce me. Now I am not a human being at home, and I am not what I do. And Xiao Zhang was spending more and more money, and even got angry with the babysitter. Let me take care of Xiao Zhang now. When I take care of her, I have to pay her to spend, and I have to be angry with her. After being with Xiao Zhang, she has not fulfilled a little bit of wife's responsibilities. Even if you want to get a divorce, you can't live without it. I have also asked the relevant lawyer. That was when the lawyer told me that I had to live apart for three years before we could get a divorce. I want to say that Xiao Zhang Ken and I have been separated for three years? And I'm sure that if I and Xiao Zhang are separated for three years, I don't know how many things will happen. It's so difficult now. If separated, the house must be taken over by her. It even made me lose everything. Thinking about it, I feel terrible. This time I really caught a mouse in my rice warehouse. Faced with this kind of pain, I really cannot tell.
remarried with Xiao Zhang for half a year. I really can't help it anymore. I told Xiao Zhang, or divorce. If you agree to the divorce, I will give you 100,000 yuan in compensation. The most important thing is that I can't stand Xiao Zhang anymore. And I don't know what's going on. I said that I would live as a husband and wife once a week.Later, Xiao Zhang tortured me every day. Isn't this killing me? I seriously suspect that Xiao Zhang is trying to piss me off, or that he wants to torture me to death so that he can inherit my property. How else would he treat me like this. What is Xiao Zhang's attitude towards me, wife? This is 100% the devil. If it's not the devil, how can you treat me like this? In the past six months, I feel a lot more haggard and a lot of weight loss. And if this continues, I feel that I can't survive for half a year. This is really too difficult, what should I do in the future? I told Xiao Zhang to give her 100,000 yuan, but Xiao Zhang refused to divorce. She said that life is my person and death is the ghost of my family. Now it’s even more difficult. If I leave after you don’t marry Xiao Zhang, will she force my son to be responsible to her? It's even more difficult this time. I was troubled by myself, but now it may be troublesome for my son. Where is the wife, this is simply the devil. Old people really don’t want to remarry easily... I don’t know what I should do...
Conclusion:
How to say, according to relevant data, 95% of old people are unhappy when they remarry of. It's not that the conditions of the elderly are not good. Of course, the poor conditions of the elderly are also one of the reasons, but the most important thing is that two people can't get out, just like the male lead and the female lead in the article. In many cases, old people will not be happy when they remarry. What they think is happiness and what they think is beautiful. But there is a gap between what you think and reality, what you think is ideal, and reality is reality. Ideals are fragile in the face of reality. I hope that all elderly people can think more about these issues before the wedding. At that time, there may be problems with the male lead in the article. It’s easy to ask God to give it away. Remarriage may not be difficult, but what should I do after remarrying? What should I do if I want to get a divorce? Have you considered these issues?
Therefore, it is best for the elderly not to remarry. If you do not remarry, one person will eat and the whole family will not be hungry. What about the hero in the article at the end? Later, the woman may occupy all the property, and even make the child responsible to that woman. After all, that woman is also the stepmother of the children in the law. That woman also has the right to hold those children responsible. Who will be embarrassed at that time? Who is working hard. I can't live anymore now,Let alone in the future, so I hope this case can remind all the elderly, if you can no longer marry, try not to remarry.
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