Yesterday, I brushed my headlines and saw several authors commenting on this matter, which aroused my curiosity.
This is derived from a Douyin video, a rural aunt's speech at the scene of her son's wedding.
From the video, the aunt doesn't have stage fright at all, but is full of confidence and praises her good son throughout the article. The publisher defined her words as simple, and I don't know if they really think so, or they are ironic. Because the word simple cannot seem to be abused in this way.
Really simple people, in full view, should not be able to say these words, let alone so geographically straightforward. No wonder, when everyone commented, they felt uncomfortable. Something was wrong. They couldn't have a good impression of the aunt. Instead, they were worried about the daughter-in-law: it would be difficult to stand on this kind of mother-in-law.
Let's take a look at the words in the aunt's words.
As we all know, it is quite difficult for young men in rural my country to find wives due to the large number of boys and girls. They are often the victims of sky-high price gifts.
Some people might say that if you don’t have money, you don’t get married, so why bother to be tossed your family with a gift. The person who said this must have never lived in the countryside, and I don't know how deeply rooted in the minds of rural people.
I think of my country uncle's son, my cousin, getting married and falling in love freely. The wife is eight years older than my brother. We strongly opposed no results, and finally we held the wedding in the uncle's family. My cousin bought a house in the city, and the down payment spent all his family savings. Fortunately, the money he earned was used to buy a car.
And the man from the same rural background in the picture did not spend a penny at home to get married! No wonder, his mother would proudly say at the wedding: My son is married, and I didn't give him a car, house, or ticket.
So, the question is, where did his son's house, car, and marriage money come from?
The answer has two possibilities:
One is earned by oneself.
The second is provided by the woman's family.
If a man earns it himself, it means that he has good personal ability. At the same time, it also reflects from another aspect that his native family is too poor. Regarding marriage issues,Can't give any support. Children without umbrellas can only run wild in the rain.
makes people a little sad, of course, but also motivational.
After all, there are not many young people who really rely on themselves. On the contrary, it is the majority who accept the support of their parents. Some people even hurt their parents to achieve their goals.
There is no doubt that this man is very filial. Parents are proud and understand. However, what is wrong is to say so much at the wedding. Is it because you're afraid that you won't have a chance in the future? how can that be possible!
Quite a few rural people, neighbors and neighbors, just gossiping when they have nothing to do. In the fields, on the haystacks, there is no place for preaching! Repeated throughout the year, no one cares.
It is estimated that some people will say that this mother is telling the truth. It is not easy for people to raise a son hard. How can you demand money for buying a house and a car? This is gnawing old, wrong! If they are 18-year-old adults abroad, their parents don't care. Why should the Chinese be so tired!
Well, if I say it like this, I don't want to refute it, lest I be regarded as a feminist.
A mother-in-law who sincerely considers her son's small family, should she be a little considerate of the feelings of her daughter-in-law and her family? Isn't her daughter good?
However, if it is the material conditions provided by the woman, and the man only provides a person, then the mother-in-law is not kind, so she won't be good when she gets cheap! Can't speak, just keep silent.
People think your son is good and are willing to pay for it. Your husband's parents can't think that my son is excellent. I think any parent who loves his daughter will not be willing to suffer for her daughter. But my daughter had to compromise if she wanted to marry a poor boy.
The husband's parents who are a little clear will appreciate the daughter-in-law's family for not making things difficult and despising their own family, and will never speak their own words at the wedding and show off their son's ability! Or, I am embarrassed to speak on stage at all.
I remember that when my little aunt's daughter, my cousin, got married for the first time, the man only paid a person, and all other expenses were borne by the little aunt. The husband’s family conditions are not good, his parents’ wages are low, and he has tried his best to provide for the two brothers to go to school. And the little aunts are in a good work unit and have a wealthy economy. They only have a cousin and an only daughter, so of course they will not be stingy with money. At the wedding, the aunt and uncle’s home court,The man’s parents have been sitting down the stage, at most only when the newcomer salutes, and then they come on stage to light up the picture. The house, the car, and the wedding are all paid by the woman, and the self-knowing parents of the man, of course, will not overpower the guests.
Cucumber , kelp, eggplant, farm-produced, pollution-free green food, used to entertain guests. This is commendable. After all, people still have nothing to lose. Speaking later, this is evidence. Although, it is not worth a few dollars.
In this paragraph, the aunt admits that she is incapable, but the son is promising. The golden phoenix flew out of the chicken coop.
"They didn't ask me to pay a penny when they got married."
You know, when a son gets married, parents who dare not pay for a son are the kind of lazy people in all likelihood. They didn't work hard when they were young, and they just passed by raising their children, and just let it be. The children have just grown up, and they haven't got a firm foothold in the society. They can't wait to start the old-age care model and ask their children for it. Because it is also hard for them to raise children, although the quality of education is not high.
But I don’t know, does this aunt belong to this category?
The aunt is proud of her son who does not spend her own money, but the son shed tears. Which one is this acting again?
My dear mother praised my boy, and she was able to evoke her son's tears. This is a sensational effort!
If the house and car in the aunt's mouth are the result of the struggle of the young couple, shouldn't we also praise my daughter-in-law? When I was young, I did not value material things, but chose to suffer with men. The girl's heart is like gold, but her mother-in-law can turn a blind eye to nothing!
Since the video is short, only a small fragment is shown, not all. Therefore, we can only comment on this subsection.
Many people commented that such a mother-in-law is very difficult to get along with. I am afraid that I am poor and I am justified.
Well,This is hard to say. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is sometimes really delicate. The best way is to keep a distance and respect each other as guests.
I am afraid, mother-in-law's boundary is blurred, and small family matters must always be mixed. The problem is, you haven't paid a penny for your son's small family, so what reason do you have to intervene in his future life?
Of course, let's not underestimate this Hubei daughter-in-law, she may not be swallowed and let her in-laws handle it.
I was so proud of my son's wedding and became famous all over the Internet. This aunt is really amazing!
.
