When I was a student, I would always hear such a sentence. It is better to learn well than to marry.
Some girls think that instead of studying hard, it is better to choose a man who treats you well, so that you can get everything you want.
I have always felt that this kind of thinking is unrealistic. If you put your chances of changing your destiny on others, then you have too little initiative.
A little change by others can make you scared.
When you are in love, maybe a man will say a lot of sweet things to you, for example, I love you, I raise you and so on.
But you have to understand these sweet words, these words are only true when they are said.
People will change a little bit. If you listen to his rhetoric, after that, he changes his mind, and you have no good way to accept it.
So for girls, the most realistic way is to rely on their own efforts to get everything they want, this kind of happiness will come more practically.
When I was in junior high school, there was a junior high school teacher. Her marriage was very happy. Her husband was very rich. She also had a formal job and a very lovely daughter. Her marriage status Many people expressed their envy and felt that if they could find such a good husband in the future, they would be satisfied.
Tingting is such a girl. She didn't like to study since she was in junior high school. She peeked at romance novels under her desk every day when she went to school.
She has said more than once that it is better for a girl to learn well than to marry well. I am so beautiful that I will be able to find a golden tortoise in the future and change my destiny.
For these words of her, many people have disdainful eyes and disagree with her views. After listening to them, they have forgotten them.
After graduating from junior high school, she did not continue to study, and has been working outside, and all the money she earned can be used for self-dressing and clothes.
all say that where the girl’s energy is spent, the results are there. Indeed, she has won the favor of the rich second generation by virtue of her beauty, but because of her strong utilitarianism, some rich second generations have interacted with her , I felt that this girl was not easy, and broke up with her one after another.
Later, Tingting converged a little bit, hiding her utilitarianism and showing her pure and kind-hearted side. Under her efforts, she met Awei.
Ah Wei is a rich second generation. His parents are in business, and several restaurants have been opened.
For Awei, there is only one criterion for choosing a partner, which is to see if the girl is beautiful.
Tingting's beauty attracted his attention. The relationship between the two developed quickly. After half a year of dating, Tingting showed off in the circle of friends. The rich second generation proposed to her and she was about to rely on it. Marriage has changed one's own destiny.
At that time, some people in the circle of friends really envied her, thinking that she finally realized her dream.
After getting married, Tingting often shows off her life, today in Hainan, tomorrow in Hangzhou, all kinds of brand-name clothes, bags are not repeated every day, and even often show off her photo with her rich second-generation husband in the photos Among them, Tingting smiled happily.
said that the more you lack, the more you show off. Tingting had a hard time when she was young, so now that her life is getting better, of course she wants to show off to satisfy her vanity, and her circle of friends Those people also have a spectator mentality.
There are envy, jealousy, and disapproval. Tingting also ignores these voices. She lives her life and others talk about them.
It’s just that the good times didn’t last long. After two years of marriage, I heard that Tingting was divorced.
It turns out that after getting married, Tingting has always lived the life of a rich wife. During the past two years, she did not go out to work. Every day she knows about eating, drinking, traveling, shopping, and shopping.
Her state first aroused dissatisfaction with her mother-in-law. Every mother-in-law hopes that her daughter-in-law is virtuous and filial. When she sees her son marrying such a vanity woman, her mother-in-law often finds it intentionally or not. Her troubles warned her son to take care of her own woman.
After seeing his wife buying and buying all day long, Ah Wei stopped her card, and then only gave him a little pocket money every day.
Tingting was envious of this kind of life before, but now that she has achieved this kind of life, she realizes that the rich are also sad. Although she lives a bright and beautiful life, she has nothing in common with her husband. .
Two people often quarrel because of various things. Although she got her husband's person, she did not get her husband's heart.
The husband will still spend time outside, plus there is a relatively strong mother-in-law, this marriage makes her breathless.
Moreover, her stomach has not moved for two years after marriage, and her mother-in-law has lost patience with her, so she has been encouraging her son to divorce her.
Coupled with two years of getting along, her husband has long lost his freshness to her, so after two years of this marriage, it finally ended.
Tingting wanted to change her destiny through marriage, but she still couldn't end well in the end. When a person wants to have a lot of money without giving, over time, you will definitely feel empty and feel that such happiness is not easy to come by, and things that are too easy to get are also easy to lose.
In relationships, we often encounter such people. Due to the lack of security when we were young, we constantly look for support and put all our chips on marriage. Hope Be able to change your own destiny through marriage and use marriage as your springboard.
For some girls, you don’t have to do this at all. You have to know that you are still young and your future is unlimited. There is no need to put your great youth on such a man.You can completely transform your expectations of men into your own requirements.
It is difficult to change others, but it is easy for you to change yourself.
In this world, there are a lot of independent women, they all get everything they want by their own efforts, such as Tang Jing in " my first half of my life", even if the relationship is gone, she The confidence still exists.
There is no unprovoked love in this world, and no unprovoked giving. You want a man to treat you well regardless of return and take the rest of your life. To be honest, this idea, Except for parents, it is difficult to achieve.
At any time, you must understand that the other side of happiness requires your own hard work. Although many people can change their destiny through marriage, in addition to beauty, she actually has other flashes Point is not as simple as you see on the surface.
Therefore, to break through the predicament and change your destiny, you can only rely on your own efforts, not through marriage.
I hope all women can understand this truth. Your happiness can depend on yourself. When you want to rely on others to get the happiness you want, you may pay a higher price.
(Personal names in the text are pseudonyms, please do not match the names!)
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