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University teacher Chen Guo once said: "Reality is the highest nobility. Beauty can only be divided into true and false. Truth is beautiful."
But, what is noble?
Most people think that a person is particularly good, and wherever he goes, he looks outstanding, a bit higher than others. This is noble.
In fact, nobility is not only higher than others, but also inferior-it has the charm of high mountains and flowing water, and the majesty of the sea.
Being gregarious and not gregarious is an external manifestation. When a person sees through the group, becomes himself, and constantly surpasses himself, the nobleness of life will naturally appear.
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Blindly gather together and bury yourself.
People and people need to keep a distance, otherwise they will interfere with each other, like two rocks, thrown into the water at the same time, I don't know who the splash is.
Twenty years ago, my two classmates, Xiao Li and Xiao Zhang, met to go to Dongguan to work together.
Xiao Li is flexible and loves to learn. Soon, he became the technical backbone of a factory. Xiao Zhang is dumb and has been working as a worker at the bottom.
Xiao Zhang was not convinced, and also studied with Xiao Li. He has to read all the books that Xiao Li has read.
In a flash, three years have passed. Xiao Zhang still did nothing. He found a life mentor and asked, "Why can't I?"
The mentor said : "You haven't found yourself yet. You are just staring at other people's position, money, and face."
In ancient times, there was a person named Ugly Dong Shi,Seeing the beauty Xi Tzu was sick and walked frowning. She thought it was beautiful, so she imitated it seriously, but it became even uglier.
Xiao Zhang made the mistake of "Effects the East". He just repeated the old ways of others, but lost himself.
Everyone is unique. If you blindly imitate others or join others' teams, you will inevitably be assimilated. It is more likely that every day I do things against my intentions, and my mood is extremely bad.
For example, if a group of people go climbing a mountain, you go to the east to watch the sunrise, and others go to the west to watch the flowing water. In order to accommodate others, you missed the sunrise.
Think about it, there are a lot of mud in the swamp, and no one can tell it. There is something special about the mud in the end. Even if there is a stone in the mud, it is already completely different.
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Learn to be alone in order to excel.
Schopenhauer once said: “Fundamentally speaking, only our independent thinking can truly have truth and life. Others’ thoughts are like sandwiching other people’s leftovers on the table, just like strange guests taking off Old clothes."
When Schopenhauer was a child, his parents were prominent local businessmen. His father asked him to work in a hamburger restaurant, but he hated business very much and looked forward to literature. After his father passed away, he got rid of the shackles and pursued his dreams-reading, writing, and thinking wholeheartedly.
In any era, what can bring a person to the fore is always "unconventional". In the beginning, his behavior is difficult to be recognized, but in time, he will become an idol in people's hearts.
For example, there are often some adults around us who are not interested in work, but often go to the library. When his work performance has been declining, he instead passed the exam, obtained some qualification certificates, and moved to a higher level unit.
is not gregarious,On the surface, you are alone, but in fact, it is a person who quietly enjoys loneliness and enhances the beauty of life.
One, the circle is very clean , not even a friend who can talk to. If it is a "shared benefit" friend, then they are all wearing masks, chatting, signing contracts, and dividends are all very selfish, smiling on the surface, but inwardly wishing to pinch each other. Such a circle of friends, all need to be discarded.
If there is no interest circle, and you don't want to enter the circle at will, then you are destined to be an outsider.
Second, the idea is very pure , knowing what you want, never agree with others. If one person does too many things, it is inevitable that he will be in a hurry. If you simply do one thing, you will soon succeed.
A person with a brain will not accept others' commands and suggestions at will. According to your own ideas, find another way.
Third, the spirit is very independent , never relying on anyone, always clenching his teeth. If you give up the dependence on others, you will have your own direction from the beginning.
"There is no way in the world. If there are more people walking, it becomes a way." In fact, every way, the first person to walk, is particularly great, and will be regarded as a "bypass".
Fourth, there is very little speech , or silence to the extreme. Not talking means respecting others, and observing calmly, killing two birds with one stone.
If a person achieves the above four points, then he will look very special. In the vast sea of people, it can be found at a glance and is respected.
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Noble person, harmonious but different.
" Analects·Zilu" has a saying: "Gentlemen are in harmony but not in harmony, but villains are in harmony but not in harmony." With a free mentality of being sociable and non-social, interacting with people of the same level. Once a person at the same level is surpassed by him, he will withdraw from the group in time.
The ancients said: "The big hidden in the city, the small hidden in the wild." In order to be out of gregariousness, doing some weird things is actually an uproar, but it seems that you are very low-level.
has a good face for anyone, but if he doesn't follow and cater, he can still be unique. Then he will rise in the mud, just like a wild flower in full bloom in the wasteland.
read such a story. A businessman accidentally threw Ye Mingzhu into a lot of pearls. After searching for a long time, he couldn't find Ye Mingzhu. After all, all the beads were similar in appearance.
The businessman's wife said: "Don't worry, you'll find out later."
The businessman is puzzled and can only follow his wife's arrangements.
At night, the wife turned off all the lights in the house, and closed the doors and windows to prevent the moon from coming in. A bright light slowly emerged. Following the light, Ye Mingzhu was found.
believes that the real nobleness of a person is not the external luxury, but the temperament of life, the inner character, and the achievements of life. No amount of debris can hide it.
Social life is a must, and loneliness is the character of a person.
Author: Commoner Coarse Food.
Pay attention to my words and walk into your heart.
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