The following will be described in the first person:
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I am 27 years old, and I grew up in a missing family, and I lacked love in my heart.
I especially long for someone to love me, someone to take care of me and care for me.
But I am very inferior and I dare not contact the opposite sex in reality.
At the end of last year, I met my current boyfriend through the Internet. He is 4 years older than me and 31 years old this year.
At that time, I posted a post on the Internet, expressing my inferiority and loneliness, and expressing my desire for love.
After he took the initiative to add me, he took the initiative to chat with me, comfort me, and encourage me.
This is the first time that I have truly felt cared and loved by others, and I was so moved that I cried.
In the following days, he will spare a lot of time every day to accompany me, chat with me, listen to my past experiences, and then he will comfort me very tenderly.
During that time, I felt his meticulous thoughtfulness and concern. He said that he felt very distressed when he heard my experience, and wanted to do his best to take care of me.
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His thoughtfulness and his gentle words made me feel like the whole person was melted, and I couldn't help but fall in love with him.
And he also told me that he would take care of me for the rest of his life, and love me wholeheartedly, so that I would never be hurt again.
In this way, we established a relationship on the Internet and became lovers.
After establishing a relationship, I wanted to go to him, but he said that there were some thorny problems in his career, let me wait. When he takes care of it, he will come to me.
I don't have any doubts about what he said. I don't want to distract him and affect his career after I go, so I wait for him with peace of mind. In the days after
, he still chats with me every day, and we imagine the future life together,He told me his plans for our future life.
Listening to every step he plans for us in the future, I am particularly touched. I feel unprecedented happiness and feel that I am finally about to usher in the long-awaited life.
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But not long after that, one day he suddenly told me that he had something and urgently needed 10,000 yuan.
Although I don't have much money myself, I have worked so hard to save tens of thousands of dollars for a few years. But I didn't even think about it, so I transferred 10,000 yuan to him.
Because in my heart, he and I are one body. He said that he will take care of me for the rest of my life, and I am willing to give everything to him.
After receiving my money, he told me that he was very moved, and at the same time he felt very ashamed as a man to spend money on a woman.
But he said he will work hard, and all this is only temporary. After he has dealt with the current difficulties, he will give me everything he has.
I also encourage him, saying that I believe him, he will succeed.
But what I didn't expect was that in the following time, he began to borrow money from me one after another.
He still accompanies me, still cares about me, and always tells me his plans for our future life.
But while he cares about me and plans for the future, he is constantly borrowing money from me for various reasons.
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But even so, I still didn't doubt him and lent him again and again.
Until the tens of thousands of dollars I saved myself have been borrowed by him, and even I have to borrow a part of my monthly living expenses to lend him.
But he kept telling me that he was short of money. I told him that I really didn't have any money. At this time, he even asked me to go online.
I suddenly felt that he didn't care about me at all. I asked again to find him. I think I only have to see him.You can feel at ease in your heart.
But he still refused to meet. He said that he was about to overcome the difficulties, so let me wait.
at the same time constantly urged me to go online loan, he said that as long as he has the money, he can quickly turn over, and then we can meet.
He kept telling me that he loves me, and he said that everything he does now is for our future.
But why I can't feel his love for me anymore, I'm so painful, I don't know what to do.
As just said:
1. He is a liar
Tell you that he is a liar. This is really cruel and difficult for you to accept.
I believe that you actually have such a conjecture, but this conjecture is too cruel for you, and you can't face it.
Therefore, you are likely to deliberately suppress this conjecture and prevent it from appearing. Because facing this cruel reality is too painful.
However, the truth is the truth and cannot be denied. Reality is reality and cannot be avoided.
He is indeed a liar, he learned about your desires and weaknesses through your posts.
Then he deliberately adds you to approach you, impresses you by caring and comforting you, and then uses various excuses to cheat you by using love as a cover and disguise.
The assumptions he told you about your future life are lies that he carefully woven out, in order to dispel your guard and make it easier for you to give him money.
The most correct way for you now is to call the police and find a way to get the money back.
2. Love is not spoken by mouth
He keeps saying that he loves you, and he keeps telling you his beautiful vision for your future life, and he said that his family will do everything to you. good.
But all these are just what he said, just staying on his words, there is no actual realization, and he has no actual contribution to you.
Judging whether a man loves you, you can’t look at what he says to you, or what he promises you.
It depends on what he actually did for you, what he paid, and what he actually realized.
If a man's love for you is always only verbal, only in what he calls the "near future", it can only mean that he does not love you at all.
He is just drawing a pie for you, just cheating you with his fancy words, and weaving lies for you with clever tongues.
And his purpose of doing this is either to get your body, or to get your money, or to collect both wealth and color. In short, it is to deceive you.
3. Women must learn to love themselves
A woman who lacks love in her heart, the easiest thing to do is to seek love from the outside world.
And this kind of outward seeking is often to pin the hope of getting love on a man.
At this time, if there is a man who shows a little concern for her, he will easily regard this man as his own life-saving straw.
But in many cases, this man will not only be her savior, but will plunge her into a greater abyss.
rushed to the doctor, a woman's choice when she is extremely empty is often inaccurate or even extremely wrong.
Therefore, for a woman who lacks love in her heart, the first thing we need is not to seek love from a man, but to learn to love herself.
You must first date yourself to take care of yourself, take care of yourself, and make your heart full and full.
Only by knowing self-care can you get the most fundamental nourishment in your heart and make your life bright.
Conclusion: Women learn to love themselves is the root, do not believe in unfulfilled love.
I am just like that. If you are experiencing emotional distress, you can contact me.
About myself: real, straightforward, no routine.
I am suitable for analyzing the problem, but I will not help you make a decision. I will only give you a reference.
I do not promise to help you recover, and even in many cases I will advise you to let go, because some people are really not worth recovering.
If a relationship makes you miserable, then the relationship must be problematic. Either seek change or let it go decisively.
and above, thank you for your attention.
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