Zhou Guoping said: "When you reach a certain age, you must always learn to live in peace with everything around you".
There is another saying: "There are three levels of life in life. You look far when you are young, you see through when you are middle-aged, and you look down upon when you are old."
, Focus on living your own life, instead of endlessly competing with others and increasing your troubles.
Especially after retirement, you must have an open-minded attitude to free yourself from all kinds of troubles.
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Faced with leaders and colleagues who have bullied themselves, they will stop contacting each other, regardless of what others say.
I have worked hard in the workplace for most of my life. The youngest years and the best times are all given to work. The time spent with leaders and colleagues is even longer than the time spent with family members.
Come to think of it, this was supposed to be the most exciting memory in life, but because I met my leaders and colleagues who were embarrassed everywhere, the memories became a bit more painful and unbearable.
My uncle is a straightforward cultural man. He works in manuscript writing in the office of the unit all year round. There are more than ten top leaders in the unit that work together, but they all only regard their uncle as a "stepping stone" and have high demands on his manuscript work, but they never mention helping his uncle get a promotion or raise his salary.
Until the uncle was 51 years old, an old leader who admired him and appreciated him came to his uncle’s unit as the top leader, and he was promoted to a deputy cadre in an "extraordinarily" way, which increased his income. a little bit.
For this,Uncle was very grateful, and his heart was mixed. Soon, his uncle also retired, and his whole person was much easier. Living arrangements are also enriched.
But whether he is going to exercise or travel, he will not have the slightest intersection with the leaders and colleagues who have bullied him before. Once in an elderly goal kick match, my uncle met those former colleagues, he retired without saying a word.
When I was young, my uncle couldn't bear it because he had to rely on work income to support his family. Retired, everything in the past is cleared, no longer need to look at whose face to live, and no need to care about what others say. Drawing a clear line and ignoring the other's existence is a silent counterattack and the most powerful retaliation.
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Facing the achievements of children of the same age, do not envy or compare, and do not let yourself fall into sadness.
The greatest success of a person's life is not the vigorous career, but the happiness of the family and the promising children.
After retirement, the former busy work gave way to trivial family affairs, no matter how brilliant and lonely before, once again standing at a new starting point in life, this time, it is no longer to fight for one's own ability, and It is the strength of fighting children.
Someone got what they wanted, but their children did not realize their wishes, and their children have helped to achieve them, and they have far exceeded their expectations. Naturally full of energy, he is very hard-hearted wherever he goes.
Some people can hardly say anything. Because they are busy with work and neglect to discipline their children, their children's achievements are far below their expectations. Even the most basic life is difficult to maintain, and parents need help. These people inevitably feel guilty and resentful in their hearts, but when the matter is over, there is no other way but to put down their bodies and continue to work hard with their children.
Really smart people will not consciously or unintentionally show off how talented their children are, nor will they be embarrassed because of their children’s incompetence. They begin to really let go: children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and let them live by themselves. Make your own day.
After retiring, they have more arrangements for their own lives than helping their children. They meet with a bunch of old guys and old friends to realize dreams that they did not realize when they were young, such as long-distance travel, such as working out together. , There are always things that are endless to do, and there are endless fun to enjoy, and the life is rich and wonderful.
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Faced with bad people, no longer care about them, and let them fend for themselves.
A person’s life is half good and half bad.
We can meet people who help us regardless of remuneration and no regrets, and we can always meet people who deliberately make things difficult and maliciously attack us. If you are not careful, you will be irritated and fight with it.
For example, when I return to my hometown in the country, my vegetable plot has already been taken by my neighbor. Not only does the other party not return it, they also insist that it belongs to their home from the beginning.
At this time, there should be a measure and spirit of "it doesn't hurt to let him three feet". Throughout most of our lives, the struggles we encountered seemed to be yesterday. For our short-term fame and fortune,But it is not cost-effective to be brooding, waste a lot of time and energy, and make myself feel depressed, so that I get sick.
is just like Nietzsche said in "The Beyond of Good and Evil": "If you fight the dragon for too long, you will also become a dragon; if you stare at the abyss for too long, the abyss will return to stare."
One day will be less than one day. It should be full of happiness and comfort, instead of being upset and bored by bad people and things every day.
The way to let others do nothing is to ignore them and let them fend for themselves. Only in this way can I protect my xinxing from being disturbed, and let the days go smoothly.
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Concluding remarks:
After retirement, for many things, it is not really "recognizing", but seeing through the mystery, and no longer have high expectations. No longer do unnecessary "struggles."
Life is short. How to make the few remaining lives glow and live in the best possible way requires everyone to make another choice.
Destiny is in your hands. I hope that every one of you who loves life can bloom the last beauty.
Author: As light as the wind, as light as the clouds.
Your happiness, my blessing.
picture comes from the Internet.
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