Text/Muying Young Master
Socialization is an inevitable topic in our daily life. We living in various social relationships, we cannot avoid being annoyed by social interactions and spend time on various things. All kinds of communication activities.
When we were young, we always communicated for our own happiness or friendship, but when we are middle-aged, we have already seen through the hypocrisy of various interpersonal relationships, and we are unintentional and unable to indulge in interpersonal communication.
People in middle age, look through the world and look down on human relationships. At this age, the pursuit of inner peace is more, and what I want to live is a high-level, free and easy life.
Maybe you would say that people are floating in the rivers and lakes, who can not be trapped in favors and worldliness, people are always involuntary.
In this regard, the son wants to say: "Neither is nor is it". A chic life is the result of self-selection. If you are willing to give up these three kinds of social interaction, then your life will be much more advanced.
1. Classmates’ reunion
Middle-aged classmates’ reunion is essentially an exhibition hall used by well-developed classmates to show off their achievements. If you are not that kind of person, going to various class reunions will only Suffered and bothered.
" Wonderful Story " has a discussion about the class reunion. If you get mixed up after graduation, you should not participate in the class reunion.
The objection of a debater is very reasonable. The original purpose of the alumni association was to let us recall the friendship of youth and the past, but now it has become a show ground for the rich and powerful.
This will ruin our youth to a large extent, because from an idealistic point of view, it will leave a utilitarian stain on previous memories.
A classmate meeting will consume a lot of time and energy from the time of preparation. Contacting classmates, as well as the location and restaurant, all need to be adjusted. If the time is not right, you may have to turn off your business or ask for leave.
In the TV series " the happy life of the Golden Wolf ",The hostess turned down her job and went to the class reunion. Unexpectedly, when she called her classmates to ask for directions, she was ridiculed "So you don't even have a car."
For this reason, the heroine felt that her self-esteem was damped. After returning home, she negotiated with her husband for a loan to buy a car, and built her life on the basis of comparison.
This is the shortcoming of the alumni association, burying the simple memories of the past under the comparison of the quality of life. I completely lost the original meaning and wasted my time.
In addition, the classmates will not only suppress you in terms of self-esteem, but also a breeding ground for old feelings.
Many originally harmonious and happy couples and even couples interfere with their original peaceful life because their classmates will be jealous or have various conflicts.
It can be seen that such a social occasion as a classmate meeting is not a show for ordinary people, nor is it a harbor to remember the past.
It will only deepen our dissatisfaction with our own lives and add a lot of disharmony factors to a stable life.
2. The social circle of friends
and the classmates will meet many better-developed classmates. In our daily life, we would like to find some friends to relax and have fun. He is of the same class, even inferior to ours.
Because in front of this group of people, we can put aside our superficial skills, put down the shelf and disguise, and feel the confidence that is usually difficult to feel. Such friends are called friends of wine and meat.
In fact, people like to relax, and it is normal to like an equal atmosphere, but the so-called "near Zhu is red, near ink is black" If we are too addicted to this kind of social interaction, we will gradually lose motivation and lead a better life The courage to live.
In the American movie " Wind and Rain on Harvard Road ", the heroine Liz's family is at the bottom of the United States. Her father is alcoholic and her mother has bad habits. For a time, there is no hope in life.
But Liz herself is very motivated. Not only did she pass a good high school entrance examination, she also entered the United States to study at and Harvard University .
On the contrary, she grew up in the same environment as Liz, but her friend Chris made a completely different choice. She gave up going to school and continued to stay at the bottom Have fun in the circle.
Finally, affected by the environment, she almost thinks that her life will not have any more turning points and changes. She has lost hope and dreams, and basically went home with her parents by different means.
all say that plaything is disheartening, and the long-term gathering of mobs will also make you lose your original aspirations. Friends of wine and meat may think of you when they need you. Once you need them, they will only avoid them if you are incapable.
In middle age, maybe it is really no longer important, but the attitude to life is still very important.
A good relationship, you can gain valuable life experience and courage in life, but a bad relationship is a vortex full of negative energy, so you can no longer face the beauty of the world.
3. Social circle of gossip right and wrong
We all like to watch all kinds of gossip online, but usually when browsing, gossip information is unilateral input and will not ask for your feedback , Also has nothing to do with real life.
In fact, there are many middle-aged people in reality who like to join the circle of sharing gossip and telling things about people around them. Such social interaction is not only a waste of time, but also affects your credibility.
There are often such descriptions of middle-aged people who like gossip and cannot keep secrets in literary works.
There is such a plot in Lu Xun's "Hometown". The protagonist of the story returns to his hometown and meets his old acquaintance Yang Ersao .
When Yang Er's wife was young, she was called tofu Xishi, a beautiful woman, and the tofu at Tofu Shop sold very well for this reason.
Later, after the feudal society was squandered, Yang Er's wife became more and more marketable,Not only is her appearance gradually aging, she also loses her former quiet and innocent feeling. On the contrary, she has become a long-tongued woman who likes to gather people to talk gossip in the market and gossiping out of time.
It is not so much that age makes people change, it is the social environment and social relationships that make people change. Once we integrate into the circle of gossip, we must contribute a certain amount of gossip and secrets as a price.
At this time, we surrendered our privacy to ourselves and others imperceptibly, and even fabricated rumors to guard this interpersonal relationship. Not only is it meaningless, but also a waste of emotions.
Staying away from this kind of telling social is to save precious, hard-won rest time for yourself, and it is also a good way to make your life less worrying and more comfortable.
The son's message:
I have heard such a sentence: There are not many friends in the deep, and the social in the deep is not wide.
In the first half of life, many friends and colleagues passed by in our lives. Almost all of them were tourists, and only a few people remained in our memory.
In order to maintain these superficial relationships, we spend a lot of time and energy.
But these are of no benefit to our lives.
The friends we really need, without cumbersome social forms.
Letting go of useless social interaction is tantamount to letting go of the shackles that have plagued us for a long time, and liberating our desire for casual and free hearts. Only in this way can we live a comfortable and advanced life in the future.
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