[Guoxue Culture] Zeng Guofan: To deal with the relationship with people around you, you only need to remember three sentences!

Being alive, it is inevitable to associate with others. If you want to handle interpersonal relationships easily, you must do these three things: Look at people's strengths, help people with difficulties, and remember people's benefits.

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Look at people's strengths

As the saying goes: " gold is not perfect, no one is perfect. ”

Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, always staring at others Not letting go, in fact, there is a problem with self-cultivation.

is good at spotting other people's shining points, no matter who you look at, the more you look, the more pleasing to the eye.

Make fun of other people's shortcomings, no matter how good a relationship is, it can't last.

Zeng Guofan is famous for knowing people and making good use of them. His secret of knowing people is to look at their strengths.

He once said to his ninth brother Zeng Guoquan, “Talents are made by edification, and the eyes must not be too high. It is said that no one can use it. Anyone who has a long and one skill should never be underestimated.”

means, There are no ready-made talents in the world.

Talents can only be revealed through discovery.

Leaders must be able to tolerate others, and don't fall into the misunderstanding of seeking completeness and blame.

My vision is too narrow to see the strengths of the people around me. When I use people, I say that there is no one around me. I really don't have any foresight.

Zeng Guofan pointed out: " is a person who weighs people, but it is advisable to seek longevity, and useful talents should not be discarded because of minor flaws. "

He believes that to measure a person, we must use a shrewd vision and tolerance. mind.

Don't abandon a person with a small evil and be beautiful. Don't deny a person completely because of a small flaw.

Xia Yu see each other,The long and short coexistence is the real life.

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Helping people with difficulties

Zeng Guofan was the governor of Liangjiang, the head of the hundred officials in the south of the Yangtze River.

One day, an old farmer from the countryside came to the gate of governor's mansion and asked to see Zeng Guofan by name.

It turns out that this old man is no one else but Zeng Guofan's godfather who works in farming in his hometown.

Zeng Guofan welcomed the elderly into the mansion personally, and treated them with good wine and food.

The old man hesitated during the dinner, saying that he had something to ask for:

It turned out that the old man lived in Hunan and his family’s ancestors’ graves had excellent Feng Shui.

This feng shui treasure land was selected by a local wealthy householder.

The wealthy households first bought the land at a high price, and the elderly naturally did not sell it;

So the wealthy households bought the local government and planned to grab it.

The old man was too popular and had to rush to Nanjing to ask Zeng Guofan for help.

Zeng Guofan sent people back to Hunan overnight to investigate the situation.

The truth is exactly as the old man said.

So Zeng Guofan inscribed a fan to give to the elderly in public, and wrote:

As a father, like a father, like a male Zeng Guofan.

To the effect, the godfather is here, and the godfather Zeng Guofan presents it.

The fact that the governor personally wrote a fan for an old farmer quickly spread among the major government offices in the south of the Yangtze River.

Now, Zeng Guofan does not need to intervene in person, and the old man’s difficulties will be solved.

There are always peaks and valleys in a person's life. No matter where you are, don't forget to keep a helping heart.

Don’t do something small. It may be a simple task for you, but it is a life-saving medicine for others.

The difficulty of helping others is helping oneself, because those who love come will love to return, and those who are blessed will be blessed.

to help others when they are in trouble,It is also to forge a good bond for myself and my family.

The kind-hearted people have help wherever they go, and the road of life will only go smoother and wider.

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Remember the benefits of people

Zeng Guofan said: " don't complain about others with great kindness. "

Every one of us is inseparable from our parents, from birth to death. , The help of teachers and friends.

If you think about the benefits of these people often, you will feel that you are a happy person.

Taking time to remember the annoying things is tantamount to lack of time to love the people you like.

If you remember well and don't count mistakes, remember gratitude but don't remember grudges, people's happiness is often within a single thought.

Forget the unpleasantness, just keep the good things in your heart, your life will be easier.

In many cases, it is easy for people to forget the benefits of others, but for a trivial matter, they stay away from each other.

" Caigen Tan" said: " people are kind to me and must not forget, but complaints must not be forgotten. "

Don't negate the good of others because of a small matter, and don't forget the other person because of rejection. Yeah.