The new writer Gong Gaofeng wrote in "Father's Black Fish": "Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are each other's natural enemies. I don't know how the creator designed it. A generation of mothers-in-laws and a generation of daughters-in-laws will have no shortage of children and grandchildren."
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a common topic in marriage, and it is also the most troublesome relationship. Whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or not is not only something that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law need to consider, but also something that men need to consider.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, daughter-in-law can live comfortably, mother-in-law can be respected by younger generations, and men have a harmonious family and can concentrate more on work. On the contrary, let alone concentrate on work, it is a good thing not to take a double blow to family business.
Wang Fu said: "Life needs a grateful heart to create, a grateful heart needs life to nourish." , You have to learn to respect each other, be grateful, remember each other's goodness, treat others kindly, and plant good causes.
"It turns out that she is really a good mother-in-law." Zhang Hui was planning to celebrate the birthday of her mother-in-law on the National Day, while expressing emotion, telling us something that happened at her in-laws' house during the Mid-Autumn Festival.
01. After five years of marriage, I always feel that my in-laws do not like me;
Five years ago, Zhang Hui and her husband went through the long-distance love race of school uniforms for wedding dresses.In the end, he cultivated Zhengguo and became a couple. When they got married, at the request of Zhang Hui's parents, his in-laws paid 400,000 yuan for them to buy a two-bedroom house for them as a wedding house. As for the parents-in-law, they still live in the suburbs.
"After five years of marriage, I always felt that my mother-in-law didn't like me, thinking it was for the house. At that time, my parents had an extremely tough attitude. They must buy a house in the city, otherwise they would not get married and put my husband I was so anxious. In the end, under my husband’s hard work, my in-laws sold the house in their hometown and gave us a down payment." I don't like this daughter-in-law.
Every time I go to my in-laws, my in-laws are not indifferent to Zhang Hui and can't say a few words. Come to them, have a little chat after lunch, and then go back to my home.
After the birth of her son, Zhang Hui and her in-laws became closer. "Every morning before going to work, I have to drive my son to my in-laws, take care of them, and pick them up after work. We can say a few words around the children, but they are not very close."
However, Zhang Hui’s parents-in-law helped her bring her baby. Zhang Hui remembered: "I will help them when they need someone to take care of them."
02. Let her husband cook, Several relatives talked about me, which made me feel very dissatisfied;
During the Mid-Autumn Festival, Zhang Hui and her husband brought gifts to their parents-in-law’s house, and the family had lunch. In addition to them, a relative who lives in the local area also brought his family to visit his in-laws and was stayed by them to eat together.
"In my house, cooking is my husband’s job, because I don’t have that talent. I went into the kitchen once and cooked lunch once, and then my husband refused to let me cook and said me It is only suitable for dark cooking. So, at home, my husband cooks the best food, and I am responsible for cleaning the table, washing the dishes and the pot."
When I was at the husband’s house, the task of cooking was still the husband’s responsibility. Seeing her son enter the kitchen, her mother-in-law was really upset at first. Fortunately, Zhang Hui's husband is a man who knows how to reconcile the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: "Mom, if you really feel sorry for your son, please feel sorry for my stomach." , Don’t expect my wife to cook dark dishes for me, I really can’t eat it.”
So, when eating at the in-law’s house, Zhang Hui’s husband was in charge of cooking, and Zhang Hui was on the sidelines, making the family happy. However, on the day of the Mid-Autumn Festival, there were people who didn't have long eyes and were easy to take care of their affairs.
"Your daughter-in-law is really not virtuous. Let a man cook." Hearing the comments from the relative of her in-law's family, Zhang Hui felt upset, but didn't say much.
03. The mother-in-law said something, let me decide that I must treat her well;
Zhang Hui and her husband did not speak, but the family of relatives started talking, and the words were very unpleasant, let Zhang Hui The anger accumulated more and more, and couldn't bear it, so he quarreled with them.
"My husband cooks, what does it matter to you? It's your turn to tell me about my family?"
"How did you talk to your elders? Why is my elder nephew so unlucky,Have you found a lazy, ignorant, and disrespectful woman as your wife?
They quarreled, Zhang Hui's mother-in-law got up, opened the door, and said to her relatives: "If you can't speak, just get out." Xiaohai, Xiaohui, see off guests, we can't afford to entertain such guests.
A word from the mother-in-law made the room quiet. The relative who said the wrong thing felt unable to step down, and accused Zhang Hui's mother-in-law: "I said your wife is a distressed eldest nephew , Why do you treat my kindness as a donkey liver and lungs?
"Good intentions?" You yelled at your daughter-in-law about three or four drinks at home, picking bones in the egg. Your daughter-in-law couldn't stand it anymore, so she took the child back to her natal family and decided to divorce. Your own affairs are all messed up. Why did you come to my house to point out? If you ran away my daughter-in-law, who should I talk to to reason?
"What my daughter-in-law is like, it's not your turn to take care of it. That's my son's business.
was scolded by Zhang Hui’s mother-in-law, and her relatives couldn’t stay any longer and left Zhang Hui’s house.
Although she felt very angry, she also felt that her mother-in-law maintained her appearance. Very happy.
"She is really a good mother-in-law and a good mother. To be honest, I really don't understand why some mother-in-laws have trouble with their daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is at odds, who do you want her son to help? Either they were scolded for unfilial piety, or they fell out with their wife, maybe they had to divorce, aren't all the unlucky men? The mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law better, and the daughter-in-law will treat her well. ”
04. People in old age,Your blessings are saved when you are young.
writer Zweig said: All gifts of destiny are secretly marked with prices. You have to exchange it in another way, or repay it.
When you are in old age, your blessings are saved when you are young. If you are a qualified parent when you are young, treat your children kindly, teach them well, train them to become talents, and pay attention to the cultivation of their morals, then raising children to guard against old age can come true.
If you treat your children’s spouse kindly, do not make trouble, and get along with them, they will not treat you badly in order to make your children happy.
Remember, there is no regret medicine in this world. If you want to be happy in your old age, you should do less things that hurt others and yourself.
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