After my son and his wife married, they lived with us. However, the life of two generations living under the same roof is not what I imagined. Because of different habits, there are more and more contradictions between the two sides. I really don’t want to bear it anymore...
My son works in a factory, and he has nowhere to go when he is in his 30s. The average-old children in the yard are one after another. We were married, and some even gave birth to children. He was not in a hurry. My dad and I were arrogant to him everywhere.
Several blind dates failed. Either he didn't like others, or they thought he didn't work well and didn't have the skills. Later, a female worker in his factory met him. Although the family was from a neighboring farm and had a junior high school education, the two of them were stunned by their temper.
At that time, my wife and I were still gratifying, saying that someone finally came to surrender him, but then I realized that she was the "ancestor" my family married back. I really don't know what evil we had done in my previous life to share with such a daughter-in-law. Still dragging such an unhealthy home.
Seeing how anxious my son is, my wife and I think he is not too young anymore. It is easy for him to take care of it, so I will get things done early, lest the two of them make a whole What's the matter, I want to visit the woman's house early, what does it mean to see others?
The girl is Yingzi. She looks very clever at ordinary times. Before I went to the side, I asked, "Yingzi, what customs do you have when you get married?" "Auntie, I don't know about this." Hearing her answer, I didn't ask any more, I knew she was a smart girl.
I heard his son say that Yingzi’s classmate was married a while ago, and he also went to join in the fun together. Girls in their 20s, how could they not talk to the better girl? Woolen cloth? I guess she is careful and wants her parents to make requests.
It was a weekend, and our group went to the group field where Yingzi’s house was.Unexpectedly, the parents of Yingzi would need 200,000 yuan as a bride price to open their mouths. They said it was not easy to raise a girl by themselves, and said that this amount was relatively small for them. In addition to the bride price, there must be a house, and gold and silver jewellery are also not missing. They must marry this girl in a beautiful way.
I looked around and glanced up at the peeling wall of his house. It is a very ordinary family. He has an older brother and a younger brother. They are not married. I muttered in my heart that this gift is probably for her. Brother prepared. It's not that the conditions are so good, the lion's mouth is open since then.
At that time, my wife and I did not respond. I only said that I was also a wage earner, and there were elderly people to serve, and financial conditions were not sufficient, so I had to go back and make a total of such big things. At that time, Yingzi's parents saw that we didn't spit out and were unhappy. My son poked me hard. I knew what he meant, but they just ignored him.
So we left, they didn’t even leave us for dinner. When we went there, we brought a big gift. Before we left, my son and Yingzi pulled their hands and murmured a few words, and they heard Yingzi and her Mom was calling Yingzi: "Dead girl, don't you hurry back to me".
When I went out, my son looked upset and complained that we hadn't agreed to the marriage. My wife said with his hands behind his back, "You guy knows what a fart. Didn't you see that people want money? Do you really think People like you, don’t you want the Cuiping introduced to you by your aunt, there are so many girls in the city, you are not willing? Look at what people you are looking for?"
Looking at the face of his wife Tieqing, my son wanted to turn back and he was held back by me: "What's the matter with me going back? It's not as shameful to be on the road!" In this way, we randomly found a restaurant, ate a light meal and walked back. No one said anything along the way, and we returned to the city dullly. As soon as he got home, his son plunged into the bedroom, and his wife sat on the sofa sulking.
I am afraid that he will be angry, so I will relieve him, and if it is not possible, I will agree. If you are in your 30s, you won’t miss it.But for a lifetime, but his wife disagreed with her life and death: "He really is a girl, wait a minute, there are many good girls in the city."
So the marriage was put on hold. Seeing that we disagree, the son said that he would never get married for the rest of his life. The wife became angry after hearing this: "Who are you scaring? I'm not what you scared. I just live if you want to get married. At home, such a big house is not enough for you to jump around. There is no gift, no love knots, no knots to get rid of."
Two people were arguing in full swing, but Yingzi stood at the door: "Oh, Yingzi is here, why don't you come into the house?" I quickly let Yingzi into the house, and my son gave it away. Yingzi dragged into his room and closed the door.
"Lao Zhao, what are you doing? If you push him into a hurry, if something is wrong, I see you regret it!" "Don't think I'm confused, I'm sober! What I just said is the truth, that's all about marriage." After talking about his wife, he went out.
My son and Yingzi never mentioned marriage again, and they still dated. I also asked my son not to be indifferent and to do things with a sense of proportion. He still thinks I am troublesome: "Mom, why are you so troublesome? I know No, we won’t..."
But two months later I was dumbfounded, Yingzi was pregnant, and my son panicked: "Mom, what do you say?" "What should I do," I told you, you don’t listen, have you caused trouble now?”
Yingzi was also embarrassed to come to my house. In fact, I want to make two children perfect, but I can’t be good at this point. If it does what his family wants, then life will really be impossible in the future. "Yingzi, Auntie knows that you are also a good boy, but the last time you went to your house, your conditions were a bit too..."
"Auntie, I know that my parents' conditions are heavier, but now I have the flesh and blood of your family, you can’t care about me?" "You two are not children, you are both adults. This kind of thing is what you want, and no one can blame it? Your business hasn’t happened yet. Set it down,If it doesn’t work, just do the child first, and let’s talk about the next thing.”
Actually, I was also a stopgap measure. Yingzi saw that I was indifferent and left crying, "Mom, you are too cruel." Your mother is for your own good, a child tied you up, something that is not mindful". My son chased you downstairs in one trip.
I had anticipated what would happen next, so that’s why Remind my son not to be in a hurry. Seeing my family does not spit out, Yingzi and her mother must have paid her attention. She is a junior high school student in the group field, she is not tall, looks average, and has no relatives in the city. How easy is it to stand still? My home is not. Rich and wealthy, but it is also a decent person with a job. My wife was still the leader of the factory before retirement.
Last time I went to Yingzi's house, I knew the thieves were fine as soon as I heard his parents talk. They turn their eyes around and talk, but they can look at people. Although my son is an ordinary worker, he is the only son in the family. He is also a graduate of technical school. He has various skills certificates and has a craft.
If Yingzi Being able to marry my family is a big step forward. The reason why I have not spit or let them get married is because I want to kill them. There are two brothers, and the burden is heavy.
But who would have thought that although what happened afterwards was as we wished, there are too many things that were unexpected. I thought that Yingzi’s belly would stir up a fight. Wind and waves, unexpectedly his parents were discouraged, did not ask the teacher, did not cry.
took the initiative to come to my house to talk about marriage, compared with the last time, it is a world of difference, this time the request is to get married as soon as possible
I didn’t ask for the bride price or the house again this time. I just said that everything is up to my house. My wife and I were caught off guard. "Two If the child is willing, the belly is big, then there is nothing to say, so let’s set it so, the etiquette should not be reduced, our old Zhao family is not alone."
Yingzi’s parents were so happy after hearing that, they finally stuffed the big-bellied Yingzi into my house. We still gave a gift of 88800. We also showed auspiciousness and there were a lot of jewelry. The only thing was that we didn’t buy a house.
Let them live with us after marriage, the house is spacious, and the children will be taken care of in the future. Yingzi and her parents have no opinion: "Very good, good, everything depends on your family." .
After it was finalized, we married them as quickly as possible. We prepared all kinds of items needed by the children. I even ran forward and after, carefully serving Yingzi. Yingzi was embarrassed at first, but her mother was eldest and mother was short, thanking her from time to time.
But as the belly grows bigger, Yingzi's temper grows and grows bigger and he demands more and more. She said that it was not safe to squeeze a bus when she was pregnant, and wanted to buy a car so that her son would carry her every day.
said it was a discussion with our old couple, but in fact it wanted us to pay. For the baby in her belly, my wife and I agreed and said to buy them a car worth 50,000 to 60,000 yuan to drive, but Yingzi immediately disagreed, saying that 50,000 to 60,000 can only buy a domestic car. That car is not safe. It's terrible when you hit the child. The wife snorted.
I asked her what kind of car she wanted to buy, and she said that she had been optimistic about two models, one for 150,000 yuan and the other for 210,000 yuan. At that time, we really couldn't get so much money and we broke up. In the next few days, Yingzi was cold-faced to me and her wife, as if we owed her how much money.
It was so easy to get through to the birth of the child. When I saw the baby boy born, Yingzi spoiled his son in the hospital: "I don't care anyway, you promised me, as long as I give birth to a son, you have to Buy me a car". What the conversation said, my wife and I both retired.
gave birth to a grandson, and his wife is happier than anyone else. His family has been passed on for three generations, and this generation is considered the fourth generation.Someone who succeeded them was the most gratifying to their men, and the arrival of the grandson eliminated all the hardships and dissatisfaction in the confinement.
My wife and I discussed taking out an unexpired passbook, and bought them the 150,000 car. Yingzi was so happy, but the first day we bought the new car, we hadn’t got it in yet, so my son just Driving the car and pulling her wife back to the group field, my wife and I had no choice but to wait.
Yingzi went to work after taking maternity leave. Since the child was born, Yingzi hasn't taken much care of it. For her, it seems that she has completed the task of inheriting the family after giving birth, even if it is worthy of our old Zhao family.
From the time the child was born, she has never taken the initiative to wash her clothes, not to mention the trivial things such as taking shit, urine, feeding and bathing. She doesn't like to do it herself, but she likes to gesticulate and yell at my son at every turn.
My son is tired after a day of work. He can’t help but distract from his skills. I feel sorry for my son and have to do it. Eiko thinks that I’m doing something wrong here, and I think I didn’t clean it up once, and I didn’t clean it once. After holding back the quarrel, she hugged the child and pushed me.
I staggered and almost fell. This made me feel chilled. Afterwards, she was full of grievances and complained to her son that I would feed my grandson without blowing the cold. My own grandson, it is possible that I wanted to burn to death. He, I can't bear this, but in the face of my son and grandson, I didn't make a big deal.
There are some trivial things that I dare not pretend to my wife. I am afraid that his temper will be upset. I can bear it. In fact, when it comes to my son, I feel more heartache. This child really "has The daughter-in-law forgot my mother".
I admit that this son has been spoiled by our old couple since he was a child. He doesn’t know how to do housework. He is also a master of clothes to stretch out his hands and eat to open his mouth. This will be determined by Yingzi. Now it is a standard "wife control."
If you have trouble, you know to stand by your wife’s side,Sing a drama with our old couple, can you tell us not to chill? I also thought about buying a house for them and letting them go out to order, but now the house price is too high. If you buy it, it will be a post-marriage house. Yingzi can calculate it like this. Someday...
my wife looks at me After working hard and figuring out my thoughts, I held a family meeting and said that I was not in good health. From now on, we will bring it during the day and throw it away at night to bring it by themselves, and let them pay for the food at home every month.
Yingzi kicked his son quietly, but the son didn’t respond. Yingzi didn’t want to say: "Dad, this is your grandson, and living at home is your permission. We don’t earn much, so how can we make money? Huh?"
"I don’t know how to drive a car. I just need to drive my kids on weekends. It’s only a few steps to work. Is it necessary? There will be a lot of money in the future, so we don’t take it. My grandson will definitely bring it, but that's your child too. How can I just give birth or not, that's it."
After he said his wife went out without saying a word. Although Yingzi was unhappy, she knew her husband’s temper, so she had to do it. One day, my son squeezed in to help me with the vegetables, and I secretly asked After holding back how much money his son saved for a long time, he said that he didn't save any money and gave it all to Yingzi. Yingzi's brother got married and built a lot of houses at home.
I gave him a hard punch. I know that my son, Old Wanna, listens to Yingzi. It’s a good thing to have someone in charge, but it’s always bad for my son’s family to have a fire, but my son’s housework I also don't want to participate more.
The grandson had a cold that day, I was fed the medicine as usual, but it was not getting better, so I asked them to take to the hospital, and my son went downstairs and drove. It’s 1,000 yuan. I said that I don’t have so much cash at home, so I have to go to the bank. Yingzi suddenly didn’t want to.
jumped, saying that I was cruel, not even saving my grandson, crying and screaming that they had no money, I suddenly became angry, I knew she was still for the family meeting that day Brooding,It just so happened that his wife came in, and it was annoying all of a sudden.
"Neighbors, howling so good? I still don’t believe you two can’t get 1,000 yuan. You have to buy it at home, and you cry poor before you start paying the living expenses. You posted the hard-earned money of your couple to your natal family, you think I don’t know, your father, I’m not confused yet!" Now, my son saw that we were down but Yingzi was strangely broken and "driving." The son was yelled and hurried to the hospital.
In the hospital, the fever subsided, I prescribed some medicine and went home. After I came back, Yingzi did not cook. He was lying on the bed alone. I love my grandson and my son. My tears can't stop, my son. He looked at Yingzi, then looked at me, picked up the child and went into the house.
My wife and I are both in their 60s. I really don’t want to get sick anymore, so I discussed with my son and asked them to move out. We will take the grandson during the day and pick it up after get off work and impose it on them. Under a little pressure, the wife offered to let them mortgage to buy a house. Under pressure, they dare not put the money to their natal family. Only by knowing the hard work of raising the family can they live better.
I also want to understand. Too much care will harm them. As for the future path, we can’t decide how they should go. My wife’s attitude this time is also very clear. If you want your child to take it away, don't want our family to raise it.
Yingzi knew that it would be no good for her to have a stalemate with us, and there was no way out, so she agreed to buy a house with a mortgage. In order to prevent her from worrying about her natal family, we only agreed to pay out part of it and package the decoration, and let them figure out the rest.
Knowing our attitude, Yingzi also went back to her family’s house, crying to get a part of the money back, and bought a small bedroom not far from my house. It is considered that we have our own nest. Actually, we are not cruel. As long as Yingzi knows something after marriage,Don't be so close to your natal family. None of us do this.
On the day the son moved out, my wife choked for a while, and then we discussed it, but whenever they live a good life and don’t stick to the two brothers-in-law, we will make up the payment for the house. Really sigh.
I thought that as long as you treat others with your heart, you will surely get gratitude in return. But who knows, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is as painful as the sisters said. Time, let alone daughter-in-law? I can bear it, but in the end, we really don’t want to be angry at our age. We can live two more years to pick up our grandson and enjoy the family happiness
I don’t know Yingzihe Can my son understand our pains? I wonder if the pressure of mortgage and the cumbersome life can make them understand that life is not easy? No matter how old the child is, he is always the one who misses in the hearts of parents. My dad and I welcome the comfort of life, take care of our lovely grandson during the day, dance and go for a walk at night.
Two years later, my grandson will go to kindergarten. At that time, my wife and I will be more relaxed, and I hope that my family will continue to be so warm and harmonious, and there will be no more waves...
This is an emotional online story
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always a difficult topic. The father-in-law and mother-in-law in the story are reasonable, even though they didn’t buy a house for marriage, and they didn’t bring a son to live together. What's wrong, besides the procrastination of the daughter-in-law's house, no one will be relieved after a change.
Take care of their lives and take care of their grandchildren. The old couple has done no complaints or regrets, but the unsatisfied daughter-in-law is proud of having a son, and slowly becomes vain and good, but also not grateful. Everything the in-laws did.
The elderly don’t owe their children at all,Bringing children is voluntary. There is no reason to force the elderly, and there is no reason to live for nothing. Although there is no lack of such situations in real life, it is really reasonable to justify it, but it shouldn’t be the case.
Although the Gonghe in the story has let go, he is not letting go. It is not easy for them to taste life, and it is also the best education for children. After letting go, they finally have their own happy old age. , I am very pleased to look at me.
Finally, I also wish this family a happy and harmonious journey...
(Note: the picture has nothing to do with the article, all from the Internet)
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