Marriage, for us, is an important issue in life.
However, even when love is tied to law and morality, many people will still "fail" their marriages.
Especially in this temptation society, the relationship between people has gradually become weak, and marriage has also begun to become utilitarian.
Before, I initiated a topic: What do you think the other half is cheating on?
Most people's answers focus on the two factors of "sex" and "money". Although the results are very heart-warming, they are very realistic.
We often ask what love is. Even if we can tell the definition, when we put it into action, we can only remain indifferent.
There is a saying: "Love is only the beginning of sweetness, and the final taste is love."
I deeply believe that marriage looks dull, lack of passion is inevitable. It is precisely this way that some people are unwilling to be lonely and try to break through the bottom line of morality and have extramarital affairs.
More examples are that two people who have a family will hug each other to make up for the love that is missing in marriage.
However, often the result is very bleak, there is no happy ending, and the two families will be scarred.
If two people who have a family are moved and absorbed, but it is difficult to let go. Well, do this and let yourself start again.
1. Tell yourself: Let go of obsessions and return to the family
Extramarital affairs, like a bowl of "poison" made with heart, taste delicious and memorable. However, when time passes for too long, our body and mind will be very painful, and this is our end.
Falling in love with someone with a family is destined to be a mistake. If we cannot get each other, we will lose the trust of our lover and children.
When we are in a dilemma,It will only make myself pierced in pain.
The neighbor uncle betrayed his marriage long ago, and his wife did not know.
It wasn't until one day that the lover came to the door and said that he wanted her uncle to buy a house for her.
Uncle's wife is unbelievable, but for the lover, she is not convinced. Use the strength of the "zhengong" to discourage them.
Then, the uncle took the initiative to admit his mistake to his wife and promised to cut off contact with his lover, and later handed in his salary card to treat his family wholeheartedly.
The wife didn't care about it and chose to forgive. After all, her child has already married, and there are two grandchildren to take. At this moment, maintaining the integrity of the marriage is the most correct choice.
is right about the uncle's initiative to return to the family.
After all, the outside lover's picture is just his money, and the man's picture is just the other's young and beautiful.
As one sentence says: “They don’t understand your inner life, they only care about whether you’re good-looking, and whether you can bring them out to give him a face.”
Of course, this is what men really think, but for For people with families, we don’t want moths to fight the fire.
After all, fruitless love is just empty talk. Instead of embarrassing yourself, it is better to think about how to manage your own marriage.
Only in this way can we have our own happiness.
2. Force oneself to stop contacting, and never meet again
A good marriage should be harmless and beneficial to others.
If two people with a family cherish each other, then we should keep a clear head at this moment to think: responsibility or passion, which one is more important to us?
As long as we are rational enough, we will choose the former. After all, after we weigh the pros and cons of living and getting pleasure,The former is the more correct choice.
There is a saying: "Indulgence and greed when you are young will only slowly overdraft you in the years to come, allowing you to repay it in a lifetime."
True, extramarital affairs are also In this way, we can betray the family because of our own selfish desires, so the harm we cause to our lover and children will be irreversible.
If all this does not happen, then it is best not to start.
If you don't forget an extramarital relationship, then I suggest you use a coercive concept to make yourself forget, and then delete all contact information about your lover.
Don't leave each other's illusions, completely remove each other out of your own world, and there will be no intersection with each other.
If you let go of a wrong relationship, you may feel uncomfortable at the beginning. However, when you put your emotions into your own family wholeheartedly, time will wash away the tenderness between you and your lover.
The rest is your warmth towards your family. That's great.
3. Letting go is also love, being grateful, and blessing each other
Some people say: "Time can be affectionate, and time may be indifferent; as long as time is long enough, it will definitely be seen through. Life is always full of choices and contradictions. Please take a look at your own heart and strive for the most precious thing, the most beautiful love. It is always too easy to break."
Also, love is full of mystery, both Can bring you surprises, but also can bring you despair.
When we look forward to and live a flashy life, we will only hurt ourselves in the end.
Many people feel that they have been warmed by marriage and turn to the embrace of others, and call this "love".
But,Does the "extramarital affair" after marriage really still have love? I don't think so.
Since two people have a family, whether you are together because of love or not, you must know how to let go.
Even if they are separated, there is no need to resent. Getting acquainted with each other is a mistake, but it is also a kind of fate.
To treat everyone who appears in our lives, we must be grateful.
When a wrong relationship ends, we all return to our lives.
At the same time, do not communicate, do not love or hate, do not think or complain, and bless each other.
When two people truly bless each other, they truly let go, and there is no turbulent separation in their hearts, which is the respect for each other.
Xiaoyuan's message: When I hear about love, there are nine out of ten sorrows.
Marriage is always not easy, and it is done and cherished.
Don't ruin your happiness in your own hands, and don't ruin your life's happiness because of impulse.
Because of this, it will only hurt your lover and your children.
Love is responsibility, marriage is belonging.
Since we choose to be together, we have to face the wind and rain with the other half, experience wind and snow together, go through the long stream, and wait until the day when we get old, we will still be by each other.
This is the essence of marriage.
Topic: What do you think two people with a family do together?
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