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I saw a question on zhihu : "Why don't you want to get married?"
probably read the answer, and the answer is simple, nothing more than the sentence: "I don't want to see those at a glance Life at the end."
We are all just ordinary people, we don't have outstanding looks, no decent jobs, and the people we meet are also ordinary, so it's better to live by ordinary people.
At least, there is no need to face troublesome parents. Don't think about oppressing yourself for the livelihood of the family. This may be the life that most people don't want to face.
1. Married, what will it be like?
asked a friend:’ If you were to choose again, would you choose to get married so early? "
My friend did not hesitate, and directly answered the negative answer. As many people say on the Internet: "Life after marriage is basically two different things. "
Before marriage, you may think more about yourself. You should buy something you like, thinking about where to go next time, and at least looking forward to tomorrow.
And after marriage, you have to face These are family chores. The self-time you can have will continue to be compressed, especially when you have the next generation.
Once beautiful clothes, jewelry, cosmetics, boys’ Games, figures, nightlife, all will become yesterday’s past, and everyone must live a more pragmatic life.
More time,You can only face the firewood, rice, oil and salt at home. Even if you have time to enjoy life, you will be immediately occupied by other things, making people more irritable.
But, this is married life. It is the cruel, but real life that many people with good dreams have to face.
2. Why are you afraid of marriage?
I once read an online post: "If you don’t get married, you will only be nagged during the New Year; if you are married, nagging will become a family with you."
Especially for people who work outside alone, even if communication is convenient now, communication with family members is still a few words, more time, they are free.
And if you get married, you will not only have to face the birth and nagging of your hometown, but also the pressure from the parents of another family. They are not malicious, but they will still make you uncomfortable.
When a couple becomes a husband and wife, in fact, many feelings will also change slightly. This is why many people are willing to fall in love but are not willing to get married.
Nowadays, people see marriage more and more thoroughly. People are unwilling to live a life that can be seen at a glance. Although this sounds very selfish, who doesn't want to make themselves happier?
We envy those couples who are old together, and they will cry for their fairy love, but when it is their turn, how many people have such confidence?
After all, marriage means a responsibility, a pressure, and even an emotion that makes people more concerned about gains and losses. Therefore, there are more and more people who are afraid of marriage.
3. At least, don’t miss it
I really like the love story of Academician Zhong Nanshan and his wife Li Shaofen,Because, when the academician always mentioned his wife, he would blush.
When he was young, his wife was busy with his career, so he took care of the family and guarded the rear so that his wife could rest assured to take care of his own affairs.
Now that he is busy with work, his wife will take care of everything at home so that he has no worries.
They held each other's hands at their best age, and then they left for a lifetime. Accompanied by each other, each other is moist.
Qi Wei said: "What is the heartbeat? It is that you met a person and asked you to let go of all the rules and embrace the other person, maybe you don’t have a block." It doesn't matter if you meet this person, then live your own life first, because people who should meet will always meet.
Maybe, at the next corner, you will be able to meet. So, no matter what the future is, at least, please don't miss the appearance of that person.
If you have fate, you will have many futures. After all, life is not just for today. What we need to see is us in the future.
4. Don’t force love
Fairy tale king Zheng Yuanjie said when he answered questions from netizens about marriage: "This is the right that the Civil Code gives you the right to choose p2p." One person, or two people can choose, this is your right, you should not live for anyone.
Regarding love, don't force it, don't force it to stay, don't make choices for the sake of conformity, otherwise, you will regret it.
Life is short, marriage is not that important, please, live for yourself.
Above, I wish you a good dream and good night.
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