Be a popular wise old man
Recently, Xiaoyu quarreled with his parents again. It was a small matter, but it made a mess and almost committed suicide.
Xiaoyu is a single mother with low education and barely enough salary to live with food and clothing. After the divorce, she took her children to live in her natal family.
Xiaoyu has an elder sister and a younger brother. When her parents were eccentric, she would let her sister and younger brother eat the delicious food first. This developed Xiaoyu's inferiority complex. In addition to divorce, there is no one to protect her, and her sense of security is extremely lacking. .
Living with parents will inevitably be a little inconvenient, especially when parents expose Xiaoyu's discomfort to relatives, friends, sisters and brothers, which makes Xiaoyu a headache.
Xiaoyu has warned her parents for countless times not to reveal her private life to acquaintances, because often people who can hurt themselves are people who know themselves, and sometimes knowing a word will hurt people to their skin.
But Xiaoyu's parents don't think so. She feels that Xiaoyu's bad behavior is her own problem, and she still does her own way.
This time, the parents talked to relatives about Xiaoyu's work and the children's school class. Xiaoyu saw that it was useless to warn him. In anger, he broke everything at home and prepared to die.
Sensitive children encounter confused parents
Many family conflicts actually originate from parents who can't handle complicated relationships.
Parents in the 1970s and 1980s were relatively simple in their thinking. They lived almost the same lives. They had the same allocation of houses, the same meals and sleep, without too many gaps.
Nowadays, the times are different. The gap between the rich and the poor is obvious between siblings and relatives. These gaps have opened up the distance between people, so that people no longer rely on family affection and rely more on strangers. Foothold.
Although the progress of the times will create a generation gap, there are still some elderly people who keep pace with the times and like to mingle with young people.
People are old and never old,Learn to live to be old
Those old people who are loved by young people, and those who make people scorn, then what is the difference?
has three points, you can do the same with them.
1. Don't inquire about privacy
Uncle Song's daughter is 37 years old and has not married yet. Uncle Song has a headache when he mentions her daughter, but there is no other way.
Uncle Yang and Uncle Song are comrades-in-arms in the same unit. When he saw the young guy, he asked them about their age and marital status, and then told them about the unmarried and unmarried daughter of Uncle Song.
Uncle Song's daughter accidentally heard someone mention her situation once, and she was surprised how others could know it clearly. It took a long time to realize that it was Uncle Yang who had spread it.
At the moment, he was angrily looking for Uncle Yang's theory: "Take care of yourself." Since then, I have a grudge against Uncle Yang, and I don't say hello when I meet with Uncle Yang.
Uncle Guo is not the same. He never asks about Uncle Song’s daughter. When others mention it, he also helps this by saying: "People have their own ideas, this is not something we are in charge of", so Uncle Guo The style of doing things is very reassuring.
Actually, everyone has privacy, and they don’t like to let others know. Whether it is marriage, living habits, children's school class, children's temperament, learning, etc., these are all personal privacy.
In order to protect the privacy of children, the school does not even publish the score rankings. This shows that the increasing personal quality of the people, the protection of self-esteem, psychological development and privacy have penetrated into every corner of society.
If you are still blindly self-righteous, it will only make life boring.
Protecting personal privacy
2. Fair property distribution
Uncle Liu is very upset recently. There are two suites in his unit. He and his wife have three children, two women and one man. The youngest daughter had a very good life and had already announced her waiver of her inheritance rights, but after a while she felt that it was unfair. She did the same for her older brothers and sisters, and she had nothing.
Uncle Liu said to the younger daughter: "Without your share", the younger daughter has not stepped into the house for three years.Although it was given to the eldest son, the eldest son was not grateful. In the end, the inside and outside are not human.
Uncle Liu did not figure out that the times are different. In the past, people could go out to work when they were a teenager. Nowadays, even a PhD student may not have a good job. The house has become a big asset in life.
Therefore, as a family with a house and children, the only child is indeed a lot of worry, but the property is very refreshing, but families with multi-character women will have to face this problem sooner or later.
The rarest kind of distribution in a house
Men and women are the same today. They need to be fair and open. If there is no way to divide, you can consult experienced professionals. .
3. Have his own hobbies
Uncle Wang likes to sing, so he went to the square to discuss singing skills with his friends. After a while, he was able to participate in the show in a decent way.
Uncle Sun is different. It’s okay to like the eastern parent Li Jiadan. He sits at the gate of the community and chats with the security guard. He chats for a long time when he goes out alone. When someone comes in, he sees what they are buying. The security guards didn't like to talk to him, so they could only wander down the street alone.
People are indifferent and cannot be socialized. This is the truth. In fact, if you have time, you can really study and research hobbies, even if it’s planting flowers, walking a bird, brushing your headlines, watching Douyin, and collecting antiques. At least it is helpful to your body and mind. Maybe when you can come in. use.
Having one's own hobbies is more important than anything else
The last point is actually very important, that is, if you can live with your children, you’d better live by yourself, unless you can’t take care of yourself. .
Everyone has their own way of life and their own ideas. No matter their own children or other people's children, do not have any comments. As long as you do this, you can be said to be a wise old man.
To be a wise old man, we must keep pace with the times, not to be nosy, not to inspect people’s privacy,Appreciate everyone, have a hobby, and be fair to your children. Even if you prefer one of them, you should avoid your brothers and sisters, read more books, and learn to deal with interpersonal relationships. Only by living in old age can you have a rich and happy life.
Wherever the EQ is high, it is the sweet pastry
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