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requires a combination of happiness as a basis for love and marriage.
Most people know that a union without emotion has no soul. But the current marriage and love have escaped the "yoke" of feelings. In the actual balance of pros and cons, they have completely released themselves.
In a marriage decades ago, if someone had intimacy before marriage, he would not have waited until he was scolded by his elders, and he would have been ashamed to death earlier. Three media six hires, Shougongsha , accidentally passed a lifetime.
In the current era, as marriage and love have entered a progressive state of independent choice, people are closely following the pace of open-mindedness, and pre-marital intimacy has been praised as "perfect trial marriage ". At this stage, we can judge whether each other is suitable For the rest of my life.
It’s just that when two people with a sense of responsibility and awe meet, even if there is no such "trial marriage" process, they will cross the Qingsi Road and walk the white-haired year, just like a marriage decades ago .
In a sense,The opening up of marriage and love in the current era only provides people with certain desires to satisfy certain behaviors and provide convenient conditions.
The current marriage and love are embarrassing, and when too many people are so embarrassed, they all feel "the sky has changed"!
First of all, is the intimacy happening right or wrong?
People are in an era of open marriage and love, and it's no surprise that intimacy occurs for a long time. On the contrary, people who do not have an intimate relationship during the love period are not only almost zero, but are also defined as "not deeply loved enough."
so that the only difference between living together and occasionally "getting together" is the occurrence of intimacy. It sounds blatant, but it is a reality that has to be admitted.
If people can be responsible for their actions, then even if they have intimate behaviors during love, they are not considered "cold." I am afraid that after the intimacy is established, it is unreasonable to weigh the pros and cons and break away from the final combination of intimacy with various excuses.
There is only one reason to be together. To love someone is to be with him. Regardless of what kind of "acts" men and women have had, the separation of pros and cons has never been about love.
Whether having an intimate relationship is right or wrong depends on the mentality of two people facing each other's relationship!
Intimacy occurs, in many cases it is not about loving each other deeply, but about wanting to be satisfied. Both men and women can be intimate without love, don't deny it!
second,Is "Ningquewulan" distorted in marriage and love?
Decades ago, almost no one was unmarried. Nowadays, in the era of open marriage and love, there are more and more singles who "prefer not to abuse". It's just that this kind of "rather short than abuse" is based on self-interest after weighing the pros and cons, and it is strange not to be embarrassed.
The current union of men and women is no longer as pure as before. Regardless of parents’ orders, matchmakers’ words, or free love, in the past, regardless of whether they were rich or poor, there were very few human rights to weigh the pros and cons, and very few people separated because of family trivial matters.
At present, there are very few people who are really willing to give for each other in their relationships. Everyone shouts for true love, but they are still too harsh on each other in a selfish, selfish world. If the sense of responsibility and awe are placed on the ground, how can marriage and love be stable and long-lasting?
Ning Que, I would rather lack someone who allows you to give more than to give to the other person;
No abuse, because you can’t find the self-interested marriage partner, you don’t have to go into marriage. . At most, after the intimacy has occurred, it is just to selfishly pull away from a relationship under the guise of asking the other person to find a more suitable and better person.
Ning Que Wu Lao, in the hearts of married men and women nowadays, the original intention has long been changed.
Then, in the current era, why are men and women single in hostile style? what is the reason?
The trend of singles in the current era can only be described in three words: the sky has changed!
I don’t know if anyone has discovered such a problem: men and women’s view of choosing a spouse nowadays,It has been reversed.
In the early years, in the era when men dominated outside women, married women occasionally had the potential to observe the man’s family situation or the man’s potential, because it was related to the future development of the family and the growth of children.
Men will also express their understanding of these rare phenomena. Moreover, this phenomenon is not absolutely universal.
With the progress of the times, women have begun to go to the hall, the kitchen, the workplace, and the commerce... the women who "turned over" went forward to succeed.
This means that their choice of marriage and love is no longer as simple as looking at the outside. They are more pursuing the inner value of marriage and love, and the feelings that men give to them are somewhat true. But this "truth" is undoubtedly an abstract word, and it is difficult to define. Women only rely on their own sensibility to feel, and once they feel a deviation, the relationship will frequently be contradictory or stop.
Moreover, in the current era, there are too many women who are not materialistic and economical, but it is difficult for men to meet their requirements. As a result, even if there is an intimate relationship, when a man does not meet the expected standard of a woman in his daily relationship, it is the time when the relationship breaks down.
Of course, there are still a small group of women who never seek to make progress. They just want to find a man to "raise" themselves in the name of love and satisfy their material vanity. Once a man does not satisfy her, she will Followed another person who satisfies him and left.
Although there are not many such material women, it is precisely because of the existence of this small group of material women that all the images of women in marriage and love have been destroyed. As a result, those women who didn’t want anything were easily put on men’s eyes, "You said you don’t want anything,In fact, you want more" hats.
In fact, in this era, women who only love but not money abound, but they are deeply hurt because they are not really understood by men. There are even some. Women, because they don’t want to see anything, are taken advantage of by men, and are full of holes in the end, do you think they will choose to be single or will heal the scar and forget the pain?
In addition, men nowadays, because of watching Have, heard, and experienced stories of material women, so they believe in the word "woman material" in their minds! Therefore, they are extremely conservative in paying money in marriage and love, and they even stare at women in order not to suffer.
Guess, would such a man have a woman sincerely combining with him?
Seeing and touching the damage did not benefit any of them. On the contrary, because of the openness of marriage and love, they have a serious lack of responsibility and awe for marriage and love, and they have a wrong definition and understanding of true feelings.
Women who love money, men say things should stay away. Women who don’t love money, are said to be unreasonable and want to stay away.
Men who stare at women’s money are despised by women and should stay away. Can’t give to women A man who truly loves makes a woman panic and stay away.
Such a hostile view of mate selection, how can one not make singles "prosperous"? The hostile "mate selection view" is the root cause of true singles!
After the marriage and love opened,The love and non-love between men and women have long since started from their original intentions. On the contrary, with the thought of "excessive self-interest", it is impossible to sincerely pay in the "I love you" style, and exchange sincerity for sincerity.
The relationship between men and women is embarrassing and sad. They want to love but don’t understand love, they don’t know how to love, but they want to talk about love, they don’t have a sense of responsibility but they want to talk about the future, and they don’t have a sense of awe but always forget to be strict with themselves and others.
If the times can be reversed, the gunpowder in marriage between men and women will no longer be diffused. If people can recognize the essence of the union of men and women, which is based on love and make each other beautiful, then there will not be too much self-interest that weighs the pros and cons, and singles will also have good expectations and confidence. Fully continue to embark on the journey of finding happiness and true love.
It’s just that in the current era, the truth about self-interest or altruism in marriage and love allows people to hide their true heart, for fear that an oversight will take too much time, energy or money.
For too many men and women nowadays, even if an intimacy occurs, once self-interest is not satisfied, they will only treat such intimacy as an experience in life without too much entanglement. I really don't know if they should be said to be free and easy or too casual and willful. In short, some of them are sad!
only hope that people in the age of open marriage and love can not forget to recognize themselves correctly, abandon self-interest and weigh the pros and cons, and truly write a chapter of true love with the right person.
True love is not hard to find, but now that marriage and love are open, people give their original intentions become gray. For the rest of your life, don't use self-imposed concepts to define true love. If a relationship starts with a false two-way run and ends with selfishness, then it must be where you did something wrong.
just,I hope nowadays married men and women:
can not give each other a real future, we must be cautious in the occurrence of intimacy. Not everyone in the center of the open era is completely indifferent to the occurrence of intimacy.
If you can’t control your desires, it means you don’t love each other enough. If you exercise intimacy in the name of love, you should be responsible for each other in awe. Otherwise, neither you nor anyone will be happy.
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