Usually when we are with friends, we always talk casually: Why do you always feel so aura?
Although I know this is a polite compliment, it does sound very comfortable.
No matter who you are, no matter what job you are in, how much worth, having a good aura is undoubtedly a great help in your life.
Since the aura is so important, how can an ordinary person cultivate his aura?
Here I combine my own personal experience and briefly share a little bit of my own insights with you.
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For example, when it comes to one thing, you always feel as if you are slower than others?
or the test since childhood,Your scores are the bottom of the class?
Actually, this is not because you are not smart enough, nor do you know your IQ is low.
This is just that you have pushed yourself into a thinking misunderstanding: IQ is related to "speed of reaction" or "smartness".
But does IQ really have anything to do with "speed of response" and "smartness"?
For example: Einstein is recognized as a high IQ. Everyone knows this?
But if you let Einstein and you speak Chinese, who do you think will speak well?
I'm afraid that the Chinese level of 10 Einsteins is not as good as you, right?
Therefore, using "speed of response" and "smartness" to define IQ is one-sided.
The true IQ must be based on profound knowledge and repeated practice.
In addition to individual "geniuses",All people's observation ability, memory, imagination, creativity, analysis and judgment ability, thinking ability, adaptability, reasoning ability, etc., must not be innate, but cultivated through continuous learning and practice.
So, we must remember: IQ is not innate, it can be improved through hard work.
The most important thing is how to improve IQ?
There are only two ways:
1. Improve your knowledge reserve.
Whether you read, chat with others, watch dramas or movies, all actions that can improve your experience and increase your knowledge reserve are subtly improving you IQ.
2. Keep repeating what you need to improve to improve your proficiency.
Have you ever been afraid of anything?
For example, are you afraid of speaking in front of others? Are you afraid to travel far? Are you afraid of chatting with strangers? Are you afraid of reading? Or maybe you are afraid...
Actually,The more you are afraid of something, the less you should avoid it, but face it, and face it again and again.
For example, if you are afraid of speaking in front of others, then you force yourself to speak in public every day. After a month, you will find an amazing transformation.
Some people say that the influence of a native family on a person cannot be changed, but they are wrong.
There is a way to change it, and that is: repeat the psychological suggestion countless times.
For example, you used to be an inferiority person, but you hate yourself like this, so how do you change it?
is very simple. Every morning, afternoon and evening, I tell myself: I am a very confident person. I can do everything well. I am the best.
Over time, one year, three years, and five years later, you will find that you who had low self-esteem before, did not know where to go. Instead, you are an extremely confident and excellent you.
Self-confidence is itself a kind of high IQ.
The second step to improve the aura,Improve adverse quotient
Many people have heard of "IQ" and "Emotional Quotient", but few people have heard of "Adverse Quotient" and "Bitter Quotient".
Here I briefly popularize, "Bitter Quotient" refers to your ability to endure hardship.
The more you can endure hardship, the stronger your willpower, and the greater the probability of achieving outstanding achievements.
Twenty or thirty years ago, the elders suffered hardships, and they had to work hard. "Morning is filthy, and the most industrious people will always be the best people in life." .
And now, we young people have more suffering, the suffering of loneliness, the suffering of loneliness, the suffering of persistence.
More and more young people choose to leave their comfort zone at home and work hard in big cities, including me in Beijing.
Regardless of the busy traffic and bustling city every day, at night, I don’t know how many people live in rental houses thinking about the next step in life.
In this era, if you want to succeed, you must first learn to endure loneliness and learn to persevere.
At this time,The level of "bitter quotient" will distinguish different people.
People who can endure hardship are more likely to succeed than those who can’t.
And when it comes to bitter quotient, you have to mention "inverse quotient".
"What is the inverse quotient?"
Inverse quotient is your mentality when you face adversity, your way of dealing with adversity, your ability to deal with adversity.
is also squeezed by the leaders, some people will choose to complain every day, and they can't let their stomachs out;
Some people will showdown and get fired after arguing with the leader;
Some people will cheer up the leader, hoping to resign better to themselves; _1span3span Stop losses and find an environment that makes you comfortable.
actually every method,It's all feasible.
Different choices represent people with different "inverse quotients". What kind of person are you?
The increase in "inverse quotient" is often accompanied by a gradual improvement in mentality.
The improvement of "inverse quotient" is often accompanied by the rapid development of your ability.
Take money, when you lose 100 yuan and you feel like a knife, the total wealth you can control will not exceed 5 digits;
when you lose 100,000 yuan When you still don't change your face, the value of wealth you can control is at least ten million to start.
There is no shortcut to the improvement of the inverse quotient. There are only two ways:
1. Learn a lot of psychological knowledge; Gain experience.
perseverance,Talking about people who are against high quotient.
The third step to improve the aura, improve financial quotient
People who have read my article must know what "financial business" means.
Many people may have made a lot of money and spent a lot of money, but they do not have a deep understanding of "money" itself.
For example, how does "money" come from?
Why do we use money to buy things instead of gold and silver?
Why is money just a piece of paper, not worth it, but it can be recognized by everyone?
In fact, money itself is a kind of thought.
Money is a quantitative expression of the ability to control the material world.
The idea of money can concretely show a person's IQ, EQ, adverse quotient, financial quotient, etc.
Many times,A person's attitude towards money determines his own values, world outlook and outlook on life.
For example, more than 80% of crimes in the world are because of money. This is because criminals lose their eyes by money without realizing that money is just a piece of waste paper, and there is only one life.
For another example, some people like money very much and are reluctant to spend it. As a result, they have made 10 million in their entire life, but only spent 1 million. The remaining 9 million was donated to the hospital when they were old.
On the contrary, some people can't spend much of the money they earn in a lifetime. For example, Ma Yun Ma Huateng is worth hundreds of billions. If he spends 10 million a day, he will spend 36.5 a year. 100 million, which means that he will not be able to spend his money for 100 years.
Why do you think there is such a big gap between people and people?
In fact, there is a reason behind this phenomenon.
This "li" is a financial quotient.
The level of financial quotient determines your ability to control money and also determines your ability to create money.
Are wealthy merchants born?
obviously not,No one is born to control money.
So, how can ordinary people improve their financial quotient?
Two words: learning and enlightenment.
I might say to you every time: learning is so important or something, everyone is annoying.
Indeed, those who want to learn do not need to be urged every day, they will learn by themselves.
I don’t want to learn it, I guess I can’t read this article.
In addition to learning, comprehension is also very important.
To put it plainly, it is thinking.
What are you thinking about?
When you encounter something, don't stay on the surface, think about the logic behind it.
"Looking at the mountain is not the mountain, and the water is not the water", this is a stage that everyone must go through.
because you have to see the trees and flowers on the mountain,Grass and fish in the water.
When your IQ, adversarial quotient, and financial quotient are high enough, you can understand anything, belittle any adversity, and easily make enough money, so how come you are not confident , How can there be no aura?
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