text/San Xun said love
Follow me, follow the emotional legend of ordinary people
「01」
If you form a husband and wife, you should be equal and respected. , Are all harm to the other party.
Love is equal in nature, and the love given by two people who truly love is also equal. No one loves more than less.
Marriage requires not only love, but also respect and equality. If the relationship between two people is unbalanced, and one person always endures the oppression of the other, such a family will not be harmonious, and such a relationship will slowly deteriorate.
Love is a good medicine, it can cure all diseases, love is also a sharp sword, and it may stab you deeply. How many seven-foot-tall men shed tears because of love.
「02」
Cuiyun has been married to her husband Xiaogang for more than ten years. Ten years ago, Xiaogang met Cuiyun who was ten years older than herself. Both of them were second-married. Both took a daughter, and the same experience brought the two together quickly.
In ten years, Xiaogang became a restaurant owner from a chef. He was responsible for cooking and his wife was responsible for greeting guests. He and his wife worked together and developed in just a few years. The days have passed and become richer.
However, in recent times, her husband often quarrels with herself by using alcohol, which makes Cuiyun have trouble sleeping and eating.
A few days ago, the husband Xiaogang drank with someone and pulled himself in the community. The stepdaughter who lived in the same community also rushed over after hearing the news. The two also started their hands in the dispute.
Not only that, Xiaogang also took a lot of medicine and claimed to kill himself by drinking the medicine. Faced with such a husband, Cuiyun was anxious and angry.
She doesn't know what's wrong with her husband. Recently, she often uses alcohol to relieve her sorrows. After drinking, she cries and makes trouble again.
「03」
It is not easy to make a man cry,But it can be said that what makes a man cry the most is feelings.
Obviously, Xiaogang has grievances in his heart. Only the long-term backlog of emotions can make a man cry and make trouble.
It can be seen that the relationship in this family is a bit out of balance, and the wife is stronger, which makes the husband feel wronged, while the husband is weaker and hides everything in his heart.
After some conversation, Xiaogang also revealed the reason for his emotional disorder.
He said that he felt that his wife didn't want to see his daughter very much, and she didn't want her daughter to live at home, which allowed her to still live with her grandparents.
For such a differential treatment, Xiaogang, who is relatively introverted and soft, has a heart knot.
Cuiyun also has something to say about her husband's complaint.
「04」
Once, Xiaogang’s daughter invited two boys to play at home while she and her husband were not at home. To her surprise, they drank the wine at home. The three children were poisoned by alcohol one after another. Fortunately, they were found and sent to the doctor in time, and the three children were fine.
But this also caused Cuiyun to suffer a lot of criticism from the other's parents, and she also assumed a certain amount of compensation.
This made Cuiyun very angry, so she said a few words about her stepdaughter, but she didn't expect her stepdaughter to be separated from herself.
And let the stepdaughter go to live with grandparents, it is for the convenience of going to school, this is not her decision alone, but the result of family discussions.
Cuiyun was a little excited when she was holding her daughter to say to her husband.
But Xiaogang said that it was more than that. When her daughter went to school, she didn't have enough money to make Cuiyun fund it, but she refused.
Regarding this matter, Cuiyun said that the family was financially short and her husband lost his job again, so she couldn't get it out for a while, but in the end her daughter managed to enter the school.
On the surface, the contradictions between Xiaogang and Cuiyun are short trivial matters in some parents, but in Xiaogang's heart, who is not very strong, it is a knot in the heart. If there are more such knots accumulated, naturally there will be Abnormal emotions.
The stronger Cuiyun meets the weaker Xiaogang,This makes it very rare for two people to sit down and talk, and it also makes the marriage seem unwavering, but in fact it is an undercurrent.
In fact, two couples should live honestly and honestly. For those who spend their lives with them, there is nothing to say.
「05」
Faced with such a marriage relationship, the two people accepted the mediation of a counselor.
Under the mediation of the psychological counselor, Xiaogang said the biggest knot in his heart.
He said that his family is inferior to his wife, which made him feel a little inferior, but his wife often talked about it, which made his inner backlog of emotions more and more, and the soft-born Xiaogang could only say Expressed in this way.
After some mediation, Xiaogang's heart knot finally opened. At the beginning, this wife who didn't dislike her was willing to work with herself. This was a kind of acceptance and recognition, and he had to understand the strength behind his wife What kind of appeal.
For Cuiyun, she needs to take care of her husband's emotions. Considering some of his personality, she should also speak tactfully.
Finally, both of them put aside their grievances and hugged each other tightly.
「06」
Faced with this hard-won hug, Xiao Gang shed tears again, but this time the tears were sweet and easy.
There is always a barrier between husband and wife, and this barrier is quarrel.
The demands of both parties are always expressed through quarrels. The sharp words are actually full of expectations for the other half.
The husband and wife should learn to let go of the quarrel and make this process easier.
Compared with sharp language, it is better to put down your body, sit down and talk, or ask questions when two people are relatively quiet, and ask in a quarrel. It will always be unsatisfactory.
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