As the saying goes, don't worry about being scarce, but worry about unevenness. Everyone understands this truth, but in some families with many children, it is really difficult for parents to want a bowl of water. Although the palms and backs of the hands are all fleshy, the ten fingers are still long and short. The position of each child in the hearts of parents is definitely different.
But in the face of eccentric parents, what about children? Do you stop filial piety to your parents in protest? Or just accept the reality as it is?
Zhang Yun has been thinking about this issue for a long time. Since the birth of his younger brother, his parents' concern for him has decreased day by day. Now Zhang Yun can't even remember the last time his parents cared about him. No matter how filial and sensible he is, even if his academic performance is so much better than that of his younger brother, his parents have always been reluctant to look at him.
For a long time, all the energy and mind of the parents have been on the younger brother, and the younger brother is holding it in his hands for fear of falling and holding it in his mouth. No matter what the younger brother does, he can be praised by his parents. That's why Zhang Yuncai has been committed to making himself better for so many years, hoping to gain the attention of his parents.
Through Zhang Yun’s hard work, he was admitted to a key university, and he had found a job with good salary when others were still in trouble with the papers. He joined another in the five years of working. When a beautiful girl gets married, it is not an exaggeration to say that he is a winner in life.
But such a winner in life still can't get the care of his parents. The parents don't worry about the eldest son getting married and getting married. They only care about whether their savings are enough for the younger son to get married. He also said to Zhang Yun: "You should not stay at home and continue to nibble on your old age when you are married. You should go out to make a living on your own." Zhang Yun's parents didn't help a little when he got married. But when the younger son got married, the parents' attitudes were quite different. They directly took the salary that Zhang Yue handed over to them every month before marriage to help the younger son buy a car, buy a house, and organize the wedding, and they were very busy.
After Zhang Yun got married, his parents started asking him to pay 3,000 yuan in living expenses every month. Zhang Yun couldn't come back to honor his parents from time to time when he worked in another place, so he felt that the money was paid for. Zhang Yun originally thought he would live like this in his life.Even if he knew that the pension money he had subsidized to his parents turned around and gave it to his younger brother. After all, his money had already been given to his parents, and his parents could use it whatever they wanted. However, something happened later that made Zhang Yun. Totally chilled.
At that time, the house was being demolished in his hometown. His parents were allocated two sets of relocation houses and several hundred thousand demolition funds. Although Zhang Yun knew about this, he never mentioned anything to his parents. In his heart, although his parents prefer his younger brother, he has helped his parents to raise his younger brother for so many years. Even if his parents are more partial, at least two houses should be divided equally between the two brothers.
However, it turns out that Zhang Yun was still too stupid and naive. His parents had no position for Zhang Yun. They didn't even discuss it, so they directly gave the two houses and most of the demolition money to his younger brother. When Zhang Yun remembered this matter and asked his parents about it, his parents also blamed Zhang Yun for being ignorant, saying that you have better conditions than your younger brother, so don't compete with your younger brother for property.
Zhang Yun’s wife was very unconvinced when she saw her in-laws being so partial. In order to protect her husband, she stepped forward and theorized. The in-laws said that she was just ashamed and angry, and said directly: "Both houses are young sons. Yes, the eldest son is not qualified to snatch it."
The mother's words made Zhang Yun completely chilled. Looking at his wife who made trouble for his mother in order to protect himself, Zhang Yun felt very uncomfortable. The wife is the only child in the city. She has been loved by her parents since she was a child. Where has she been wronged? Ever since his wife married herself, she has never been self-willed, and has never been able to fight or rob or give up since she had nothing to accompany her. As the only daughter's wife, she couldn't understand why there were parents who were biased and so arrogant, so her mother-in-law was so angry that she couldn't speak.
Looking at these two mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Zhang Yun couldn't sit still. After he formally notified his parents that he would not have a monthly pension of 3,000 yuan, he would go to whoever gave the property to him. I have raised my parents and younger brother for so many years, even if I repay my parents for nurturing me.
Since that unhappy quarrel, Zhang Yun has never sent money to his parents anymore. Only on holidays will he send a few red envelopes to his parents to show his filial piety.Zhang Yun's parents were furious with Zhang Yun's behavior, and they often scolded Zhang Yun for being unfilial, saying that he was an ungrateful white-eyed wolf, ignoring his husband and wife for decades of nurturing him. And Zhang Yun didn't make any excuses even after he knew his parents had evaluated him this way, he just let his parents talk.
He already wants to understand now. In the eyes of his parents, it is a useful tool to say it plainly. When parents want to spend money, he is a dutiful son, but when he doesn't want to be a fool again, he becomes a white-eyed wolf.
The so-called freezing three feet is not a day's cold. Anything that happens is affected by potential and long-term factors. In fact, there is a very interesting phenomenon in many families. The more the parents are partial to the child, the easier the child is to be ungrateful. On the contrary, the one who has been neglected will give back to the parents with heart.
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