When a boy with a high EQ pursues a girl, he will look for her shortcomings and weaknesses, and then do the corresponding pursuit behavior.
Because the shortcomings and weaknesses of a girl are her weak emotional defenses.
Everyone has shortcomings and weaknesses. Think about it in another way. When a girl appears next to you, she can accommodate your shortcomings and achieve your weaknesses. Do you think she is the one who understands you?
Similarly, in the process of chasing a girl, what a boy has to do is: Tolerate her shortcomings and achieve her weaknesses.
When boys can do these two things perfectly, girls will remove their emotional defense against you, and the relationship between you will advance by leaps and bounds.
Any relationship needs to be cultivated, and there are many ways to cultivate a relationship. Among them, one way is called "run-in."
Tolerant of each other's shortcomings and to achieve each other's weaknesses is actually a running-in relationship.
What is "the shortcomings of tolerating girls"?
In the process of getting along with a girl, don't dislike her shortcomings, and don't reason with her. You must know that everyone has shortcomings.
What a boy has to do is to accommodate her shortcomings. In this way, she will think that you are a special person because you treat her differently from others.
What is "achievement girl's weakness"?
A person’s weaknesses will restrict him in certain places in his life.
When getting along with girls, what boys have to do is to help girls make up for their weaknesses, make her weaknesses unrestricted in life, and even make her weaknesses her proud advantage.
Next, I will explain the operation skills of these two aspects through examples to help you master them more effectively.
In the process of getting along with a girl, what a boy has to do is not to change the girl’s shortcomings, let alone reason with her.
to put it bluntly, that is: You do not have the "authority" to care about her shortcomings.
Boys want to tolerate the shortcomings of girls, the core method of operation is: domineering to protect her.
For example: a girl is relatively short in stature. From small to large, she is ridiculed by friends around her. This is her shortcoming.
Then, in the process of getting along with girls, boys will start from "short stature" and spoil her in various ways.
For example, praise girls for being cute; like the cutest height difference between you; like petting her head and so on.
In other words: boys want to take her shortcomings as advantages and show her that you do not dislike her shortcomings, but like her shortcomings. This is a kind of "domineering spoiling".
Others don't like her short stature, you prefer it; others think she is picky eaters, you just think that you don't wrong yourself; others think she has a bad temper, you like her to have a personality, this is a kind of "domineering maintenance".
Since you like her, you will be yours if you love her.
In fact, in many cases, boys change their thinking, and chasing girls becomes very simple. You can learn the correct thinking of chasing girls in my column "Man with 99 points".
A girl’s weakness is often her weakest emotional defense.
For example, when a girl is insecure and you can bring her a sense of security, then she will easily become emotionally dependent on you.
Boys want to "achieve girls' weakness",The core skills of the operation are: give strong.
A common example: Many girls have a weakness, that is, they do not like to make decisions and do not like to think about problems. Therefore, boys who are brave enough to lead girls are usually liked by girls.
So, how do boys "give strongly"?
For example, girls have a poor family background, and they are not confident enough in themselves and are afraid of being looked down upon by others.
When getting along with girls, boys deliberately satisfy her vanity.
For example, dress up very handsomely to meet her friends; give her a gift that is very heartwarming, so that she can send her to Moments.
When a girl finds that you can accommodate her shortcomings and accomplish her weaknesses, then she will have a sense of dependence on you. At this time, the seeds of love between you have already taken root.
For girls, a boy can tolerate her shortcomings and achieve her weaknesses. This is a feeling of love.
Because all her emotional needs have been met and her interests have been safeguarded, she will have confidence in this relationship.
Chasing a girl is never successful with sweet words, but through skills and methods to guide the girl's emotional changes, in order to make her fall in love with you from the bottom of her heart.
Really smart boys, never do the useless work of chasing girls, he will pay attention to "skills and methods".
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