In this materialistic age, perhaps no feelings can withstand the test of time, even family affection. In the face of interests, sometimes family affection will become filthy, sometimes indifference is not more than popular, and sometimes it is indifferent. It is rare to be confused, to see too thoroughly, and sometimes to be more lonely.
Someone once said that you should never use money to test your feelings. In fact, it's not just that feelings can't stand the test. In fact, how can family affection not be so? This world is weird and strange, sometimes it's better to be indifferent, maybe sometimes great wisdom is like foolishness, it is also a kind of great wisdom.
If you give birth to a girl, you will kill it, or what's the use for you?
I never thought that patriarchal words would blur out of her mother's mouth. If this sentence was spoken from her mother-in-law, then Lingling could understand it, but she never expected that one day, her own Mom would blurt out like this, because her first child was a girl.
So even my mother feels that she can’t lift her head at home. Since childhood, she has always known that her parents are patriarchal. Especially after college, the difference between herself and her younger brother is more obvious. For example, They have living expenses in college, but they don't.
Even if the family is poor, they will buy new clothes for their younger brother during the New Year, but for themselves, some old clothes can be used as they are, and even the family considers not to go to university, early Work and earn money to support the family. If you get married early, it's best to have more gifts to relieve the pressure in your family.
I have known my husband for many years. I met at university. He is also the only child in the family. The two started from scratch together. After going through ups and downs, now my husband's career has started a little bit. After getting the first baby girl, I felt that the people around me didn't look right at me.
Especially mothers-in-law, who rarely visit children,Husband, on the other hand, is even more intentional or unintentional to alienate herself. At this time, perhaps the support of her mother’s family is the last safe haven for herself, but since getting married and having a daughter, her mother’s attitude has changed, always intentional. Unintentionally treat children differently.
Especially the last time I quarreled, my husband said that I would have a second child in the future. It is better to be a boy and a girl to make up a child. I said so, but I also know that my husband wants a boy, but he didn’t say it clearly. No matter, their family is the only child after all, and the mother-in-law is also urging herself to have a second child as soon as possible in the future.
But if you reborn as a boy, maybe nothing will happen. If it's just the mother-in-law and the husband, I might not be so chilly, but until my mother says those words, I am truly chilling. It turns out that even in their hearts, my daughter married out.
are just people from other people’s families. For the husband’s family to inherit the line, it is their responsibility and their obligation. If it is just to give birth to a daughter, then it is really not very useful for the husband’s family, and the mother has been many times recently. Said that in the future, the second child should be a gender test. If it is a girl, then it is better.
A short sentence is enough to repel Lingling’s fragile heart. From childhood to adulthood, she has always been underestimated by her parents at home. I didn’t expect it to be the same even after getting married. The tool used by the in-laws to continue the incense from generation to generation, his biggest goal is to give birth to a boy for the husband's family, to prove that he is useful.
Looking at my daughter who is only over three years old, she is completely chilled. Maybe she doesn’t understand anything now, but if she grows up, how much harm she should suffer in the future, the so-called second child is just It's just to fight for a boy, and her birth seems to be just a mistake. The so-called family relationship may be nothing more than that.
A serious illness of his father caused all the relatives around him to appear one after another
I never thought that not long after I graduated, I would encounter such a catastrophe.Xiaogang graduated from a prestigious university. He is one of the few prestigious college students in his family. Most of the children around him finally failed in the brutal college entrance examination. The best thing is to go to a college.
And because of family reasons, since I was young, I was determined to work hard in the future to enter a good university and make my parents feel proud, and there is no doubt that I did it myself, and passed the exam in my own barren village. 985, it can be said that it is really to raise the eyebrows for his parents.
Parents have always said that relatives in the family are farther away from themselves. Because of the relationship between grandparents and grandparents of the previous generation, the relationship between relatives has always been tense. The parents have had a little bit of time in the family in recent years. Lost, so many relatives have gradually cut off contact, but his sister has always wanted to maintain the relationship to help the next generation.
And I also feel that the bad relationship between my parents and relatives of the previous generation, don’t continue to this generation, have been working hard to build a good relationship with my relatives, and basically all my relatives came during the summer college entrance examination banquet. Now, everyone is smiling, and even looks closer than anyone else.
I also seem to feel that everything is back to the past, back to the time of the good relationship, but all of this came to nothing after my father was seriously ill. It was only the second year of my university. A serious illness requires a one-time treatment cost of hundreds of thousands, and in this case, all relatives have changed!
All relatives have gradually begun to avoid their own family. The relationships that once seemed to be happy on the surface now look more like a joke. Xiaogang still remembers that his parents were seriously ill and he Because I couldn't get the hospitalization fee, I borrowed it from relatives around me.
But at that time, they either refused to answer the phone, or lost contact, or said that they were difficult for various reasons, but only saw their own family tour for a few days last month. Others have recently changed to a new car, but when they mentioned borrowing money, they immediately changed their tone.
My father was hospitalized for more than a month, and he was admitted to the ICU several times, but few people went to see it. More importantly, many relatives gave a symbolic amount of tens of dollars, one or two hundred, and said that he Having tried his best, Xiaogang was really disappointed at that moment. It turned out that the so-called family relationship and some relatives, but that's it!
Dislike the poor and love the rich, never happened to outsiders, but in front of the dear ones
This time, after making the call, Lili could no longer control her crying, she was once the pride of heaven. Now he has become a burden in the eyes of his parents. Even when he goes home with himself, his parents will be afraid that they will not be able to make it. When they go back several times, even the door is locked, and the parents suddenly disappeared, making them feel very chilled.
My parents once said that they are the greatest honor in the family, and they once told all the relatives around them that Lili is the best child in the whole family, and they said in the village more than once how far the child has gone outside In the end, the company won much for the family.
But all this must start from the failure of my investment, everything has changed dramatically. I used to use some of the money I made when I was young, and finally invested in a company, and finally because the company developed well. , I gradually started to do this company full-time, but because of the market environment.
The whole company gradually started to go downhill, but in order to maintain my great effort, I still borrowed a lot of money, and finally invested in it, planning to fight back, but it is obvious that this attempt did not bring me the desired result. Eventually the entire company was dissolved, and he was also attached with a huge amount of debt.
Even such debts, even if they have been working in just a few decades, may not be able to pay them all, and the family’s attitude towards them has begun to undergo a 180-degree change. The family is one's own harbor and support, but today's family, like purgatory, once again refuses to accept oneself.
parents no longer contact themselves,He even took the initiative to maintain a relationship with himself, and his impression became countless horrible versions in front of his relatives. For example, he was defrauded of millions in investment, and some said that he speculated and was investigated and punished and lost a lot of money. More to say, he engaged in improper transactions, and finally the Dongchuang incident happened.
Others pretend to be a fake, saying that such a good child, how can they get to such a point, but they used to praise themselves every day, they have always been someone else’s home Aizi, but now, it seems that the earth-shaking changes have already taken place, just because of one of his own investment failures?
Now I am even more like a "mouse crossing the street, everyone shouting and beating". Relatives are afraid to avoid it, and their parents are gradually reducing their relationship with them. The image of that studious, serious, and talented child who made his parents proud collapsed overnight.
(All the characters in the text are pseudonyms, the real story is slightly modified, please do not check in)
Conclusion:
is the test of family love in this world, sometimes, maybe At the same time, sometimes the most serious thing is family affection. In this era of material desire, even parents, or relatives, family affection, in the face of huge interests and gains and losses, are also so fragile and unable to withstand any scrutiny. .
Whether it is patriarchal, poor or rich, or even the same serious illness, a life disaster, many family relationships or relations can be instantly revealed. Sometimes the only thing we can rely on is ourselves. Sometimes the only person who can be trusted is himself. This is also a practice that many people must go through. What do you think?
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