Everyone says that parents are good, but they are actually old and young;
The world says that parents are good.
After several decades of hard work, he will become a cook after retirement;
, and take care of the emperor’s return on Sunday.
This widely circulated limericks poem vividly reflects the current situation of retired elderly people in China.
Do you feel familiar? Do the old people around you live this life?
If you are a child, how can you let your parents have a happier old age?
And if you are a parent, should you also plan your "long vacation" after retirement?
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There is a video on the Internet,A child who is just learning to walk is not standing firm and will fall backward. Grandma instantly turned into a "martial arts master", hugged the child, fell under the child in a thunderous manner, and held the child tightly in her arms.
There are too many elderly people who "give their best" for their grandchildren.
The gray-haired grandpa put the infusion tube in his mouth because he was afraid that his grandson's infusion would be cold. The child hung in the water for two hours, and the grandfather stood behind for two hours.
94-year-old grandma spent her whole life in the mountains. I heard that my grandson was going to buy a house and get married in the city, and he took out all his savings: a thick wad of money, one dime, fifty cents, and the old one hundred bills, totaling 700 yuan. Grandma asked her grandson: "These are my life savings, is it enough for you to buy a house and marry a wife?" Suffering oneself and raising children and grandchildren are the portrayal of most Chinese elderly people.
According to media reports, an elderly consumption questionnaire shows that of the 2096 elderly people surveyed, 30.74% spends on daily expenses, 23.51% subsidizes children, and only 3.3% spends on their own leisure. Life.
On the Weibo , it is also common for netizens to "spit" on topics that parents are not willing to spend money.
@I am embarrassed: I buy clothes for my mother, and the quotations are always a half discount on the actual payment price. In this way, she always said expensive.
@Please send a blue friend: I bought a pair of shoes for my dad during the holiday, but my mom thought it was too expensive, so I gave it back to the mall.
@MMmm: I want to take my parents out to the restaurant during the holidays, but I am afraid of spending money, so I will do it myself at home.
@Squatting Standing Ranking: I wanted to drive my parents to the suburbs on weekends. As a result, they took me to take the subway for more than two hours to climb the mountain. Me?
Buying clothes for their parents, even if they don’t have to pay for it, they feel distressed; they are reluctant to take a taxi, to travel, to watch movies, to go to restaurants... But the other side of them being harsh on themselves is to their children and grandchildren. The generosity of donating money does not ask for anything in return.
There are many elderly people who save their lives and spend their entire lives. When their children get married, they use all their savings to pay for the house, buy a car, decorate, add furniture, etc., etc. They have grandchildren, and they start 24 hours a year. Hugh's "nanny" model not only takes care of the daily lives of children and grandchildren, but also bears part of the financial expenditure.
This kind of "nanny-style" care for the elderly, many children are forced to do so, and the elderly are also willing. But for the elderly, it will inevitably make people feel sad.
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Fortunately, more and more elderly people are starting to live for themselves.
The "cruise pension" and "hotel pension" that have become popular on the Internet some time ago in the United States are all representatives of the elderly who "enrich themselves" and live a smart life.
There are more and more elderly people like this in China.An article in the British "Financial Times" pointed out that not all Chinese elderly people save money as traditionally believed, and then do nothing, and point fingers at their children's lives. Elderly people in the city are engaged in sports activities, such as hiking, biking, and dancing in the square... Enjoy the rest of their lives.
Old people should be rich in themselves.
First of all, I am willing to spend money for myself.
Old people do not need to spend the rest of their lives, they can spend some money to buy things that make their life more convenient and have a higher quality of life.
Second, I am willing to spend time for myself.
Studying, dancing, fitness, growing flowers...Be sure to spend more time on yourself. If you are energetic, everything is fine.
Third, make good friends.
When you are old, don't just revolve around children and grandchildren, but also have your own small circle. Ask your girlfriends for afternoon tea, find old buddies to play chess, go out of the house more and play with good friends, the spirit will naturally improve.
Fourth, learn to say "no" to children.
gritted his teeth and treated myself harshly, saving all the good things to the children. This kind of frugality, overdraft of the body, eventually became a drag. If you are in good health, you should help your child; if you are in poor health, you must also learn to reject your child.
Finally, cherish your body.
Regular physical examination every year, if you are not resistant to minor problems, seek medical treatment in time. Don't make trouble for yourself, and don't cause trouble for your children.
It is a higher level of life attitude for the elderly to enrich themselves and treat themselves well within the scope of their ability.
The idea of spending money on health and spending money on happiness is no longer the patent of young people. Many people start planning themselves early, and use their accumulated economic reserves over the years to achieve a happier and more fulfilling "holiday" in their old age.
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